r/254sum

Heyy guys, 24m here, I just had an ask for the firstborns around here, do you guys feel left out got nothing going on for them, are there more like me or am I just the special case, I'm a twin and have an older bro who's just minutes older anyway, like life has cooked me so bad I can't afford anything let alone being idle, as I'm typing this I just came from doing last nights dishes to feel a bit responsible, I'm losing it mind you, no job atm but I'm praying the heavens listen, so hence the ask, how are you guys doing, today, everyday, let's engage and maybe just a little insight on what you guys are doing to stay afloat amidst all the chaos. WANTAM pia mamae, must go must go!!

You as a man should never be ashamed to speak up for women's rights.

No matter how much you try to avoid "pandering”there will always be men who call you all kinds of names to discourage you.

Remember you are not fighting for there approval. You are fighting for the women in your life, you mother, sister, aunt, niece, daughter or grandma and for women every where who are denied their rights, dignity and safety!!

Speak out more!! Call that your misogynistic friend out more!

I don't know how to feel right now. I have a business (electronics). For close to 2 yrs now. Today morning I just concluded stock take(Ksh1.2M

), i have only 75k debt on kcb mobi loan. Cash at hand is less than 20k, at moment in my pocket I have 15k unpaid fuliza. Of course I have some savings since I started a culture of daily, weekly and monthly savings with my sacco, it's great I am watching my sacco savings grow steadily, proud of myself there. I want to visit my mum in the village and I don't even have fare? I have two daughters set to go back to school next week, thank God I have paid for their fees only a little shopping thing is left.

The point is I am broke, I feel paralyzed and I am losing my mind right now. What kind of life is this?

My dad really betrayed me. Being the lastborn, I was the apple of his eye. Talk about being spoilt like the proper lastborn spoilt kind. They had their issues with my mama but he never seemed like the guy to break his vows. Mzee wa kanisa, fellowship chairman, estate chairman & a man of priorities. After 30yrs of marriage he left us silently. Thought he went for a work trip to Sudan as usual but this time he never came back.

I had just finished highschool. I thought I wouldn't go to Uni but he stepped up. He paid my fees, accommodation & gave me upkeep but meeting is where he drew the line. Our relationship became purely transactional. My sisters had been cut off already & shortly after finishing campus I followed suit.

Don't get me wrong I don't hate him but I don't get what we (his girls) did to be ghosted.

Fast forward to a few months ago, my dad got a stroke & we hadn't heard from the nigga in about 4yrs (since my graduation in 2022). So my sisters & I went to see him & it was very awkward. His new wife was there (the klande he left my mom for) + prior to the stroke they had their ruracio that weekend.

Anyways, we thought they wanted to keep us in the loop cz he's our dad but wapi....they didn't have chumz that's why they (my dad's brothers) reached out. The klande was very petty. She added her middle name as my dad's surname e.g Morris Wanjiku so when we paid for the CT scan & admission, we told the cashier the patient had already been registered but kuangalia tunaambiwa hakuna Morris Kamau.

So we asked my dad & that's when the klande said ameandikisha jina yake. Like TF is that. Kwani anadhani tunamwiba?

It was just wierd to see my dad amekaliwa na that mama yet growing up ni yeye alikuwa ametukalia🤣🤣

Side note: they have a 3yr old son together but the klande has 2 more kids from other men. Kila mtoto na baba yake🤦🏾😅