r/AdultBedwetting

Hi, 48 years old here. This is new to me. I have never had problems my whole life and I am freaking out a bit. I have had 3 incidents in the last 3 weeks or so- none before that…..it’s me dreaming I am pissing in the bathroom and I wake up immediately when I feel the wet sensation around me. I have always had these dreams but I was able to wake up and go. Now it’s becoming a problem. I just made an appointment with my urologist but it’s not until the 8th. Thankfully my wife is supportive. Does anyone have a similar experience to mine?

Has anybody tried the Nateen Ultra Combi? I see they are about the same price as what I’ve used previously (Seni Super Quattro, and Sunkiss Trust Plus overnight)
Whats your take?

And it leaked through anyway!!! Money wasted! I'm tired...

i've had a few bedwetting incidents over the last week, which is what it is - it's never been an issue before but it feels pretty explainable i guess (emotionally a bit overwhelmed, v tired, energy drinks to combat tiredness, drinking with friends - effectively i've created the perfect storm but didn't connect the dots until i'd done some research). while it does feel explainable, i'm also wondering if a trip to the doctor is recommended, or just watch and wait?

i did get some rough news about my mum's health this week, and i wonder if that contributed, because the only two times i had accidents as a child were when there were family issues - is it likely at all?

i guess i want to know what to look out for in future so i can be prepared, it does feel strange this happening twice in three nights after over 15 years of never wetting the bed.

potentially it could happen again and the factors playing in are maybe more likely when i'm away from home - staying with my family will be emotionally turbulent, staying with my fiancé's family always involves a booze up, extended social interaction wears me out and i'm always dead to the world when it comes to sleeping afterwards.

i already had some adult nappies having caught a food bug last year so it's not a massive deal that this is happening, especially when it feels pretty temporary (never combining energy drinks with alcohol ever again, and i'm not a frequent drinker, this week has been an exception) - if i can get through the next few nights without using them they can go back in the cupboard

wearing the nappies doesn't bother me, it's better than actually wetting my bed or someone else's, but i'd rather my parents/in-laws didn't find out, and if i do end up needing one i'll also need to dispose of it which would be tricky to do discretely in someone else's home.

could be that i'm really overthinking this and it's too early to start thinking about this stuff, but i guess the peace of mind of knowing how to deal with it would be nice?

Ich bin ein Mann fast 60 Jahre alt und wünsche mit eine aufrechte Partnerschaft. Ich komme aus Deutschland/Sachsen bin berufstätig in einem Job wo auch Wochenend Arbeit auf der Tagesordnung steht. 180 Groß sehr kurze Haare blaugraue Augen und 95 Kilo schwer. Lebenslustig aufgeschlossen mal in meiner Welt versunken. Ich mag Natur Wandern Sauna
Leider gibt es auch paar nicht schöne Seiten die Gesundheit. Seit meinem 10. Lebensjahr besteht bei mir eine chronische PTBS mit damit verbundener Enuresis.
Ja ich schreibe es offen hier rein und hab keine Lust es stundenlang erklären zu müssen. Mal schauen ob sich eine traut

my mother is a vice porvost of a university and said if I don't stop bedwetting shed disown me. what should I do. she I could never go to college if I wet the bed

I’ve been having some issues after a surgery I had months ago..was having severe bedwetting issues / some urgency problems.i started taking desmopressin and it helps a ton and I also take Solifenacin for the urgency issues which also helps a ton. But the desmopressin isn’t 100%. Is that normal? There are days where it doesn’t work but I would say it’s working 90% of the time. It’s really stressing me out cause I have some trips planned and was hoping I didn’t have to worry about whether the meds would work or not and it’s stressing me out..

Basically what’s your experience with bedwetting meds?

So I’m starting a new job where I will have to change into a uniform every day. How do I bring up my incontinence with HR. If anyone has any advice or what you do to handle everything at work.

I’m at a retreat for a Catholic men’s group I belong to. I don’t like being away from home for obvious reasons. Especially without My wife , she has however,made my accommodation arrangements for me in advance .

I was absolutely mortified when the young lady behind the desk at the Westin said out loud, “ you require a waterproof mattress protector ? “ based upon, I guess, my wife telling them so..

Has anyone else ever been through this, and how did you handle it? Because I just wanna cry.

Hi , So I live separately from my parents place , and I had to stay over for 2 days since they were out of town and my siblings who are still in school would be alone , I had drank half a glass of coke that evening with dinner and didn’t go to pee my mistake ik and wet the bed , I was sleeping in my parents room 💀🤡 I got terrified , somehow I managed to dry it and wash the bedsheet and put it back , ive had this since a long time it got weird for me because it carried on till my teens , my mom back then didn’t really understand the implications or mental health effects or that it wasn’t in my hands , she used to beat me up every time Ive got trauma still from it and also my dad making a laugh out of it I didnt know it affected me this bad till I cried while talking about this in therapy 🤡💀 but we visited A big hospital in another city where we went to the doctor and basically my parents got to know it’s kind of genetic and not my fault And that I had a mild case of UTI as well and the doctor was kind of an asshole he also made a joke which didn’t sit right with me . My mom did improve after that like I didnt get beat up and my relationship with her also has improved quite a lot since I turned 18 , maybe if I do tell her that this has continued she’ll understand or maybe even worry a lot , she doesn’t know that this has continued ever since (I don’t clearly remember if it stopped for a year or more Like back when I was 15-16) but during that phase I feel like I felt it had genuinely stopped I would wake up feeling very uncomfortable but then I went to college I used to live in a hostel it continued there (not everyday but maybe like once a week) which made me really distrubed tbh because at that time I was dealing with an extremely toxic relationship which was like a cycle and when I shifted to a pg also it did happen sometimes there then it stopped for a couple of months and suddenly it would happen when maybe I would have drank a little more water than usual . and also I dream of washroom or bathrooms everytime when I wake up and realise I’ve wet the bed , I’ve read online also about it .

Sometimes I wake up uncomfortable with a bladder full and accidents don’t happen then I gain a little assurance and don’t really like follow the no drinking water rule then again it happens and I wet the bed . And restricting myself water makes me more thirsty in the evening and my mouth dries up so I just take small sips .

Now after the recent one I realised how terrified I am for my mom finding out and also my self esteem takes a dip like really low dips after episodes of this I go As far as to sleeping really late or setting up alarms at 3 am 4 am to ensure I wake up to go pee , and also it makes me question whether I’ll want to get married or not in the future , my love life has been terrible and I’ve been traumatised and my self worth has been taking enough dips after that awful relationship .

Also at dinner parties I avoid drinking cocktails or juice etc. and sometimes in social settings or dinners people invite there will be food with water like noodle soup etc. can’t avoid that which creates paranoia . I already have a hard time falling asleep plus that and I even HAVE TMJ (my jaw locks and cracks when I yawn) my dentist said it’s because I grind my teeth at night and what I’ve read online it’s mostly because of stress , do you think it’s because of the wetting episodes and my mom beating me up .

idk what to do anymore how do I deal with this.

• I would be grateful if you could give your advice or suggestions or anthing you’d like say about this

I wet the bed so often. I have had some leaks out the back lately, but really I'm just so exhausted from waking up wet. I have no warning or indication of when it will happen. I just wake up and my brief is sagging. It happens even when urine runs clear so it's not bladder irritation from dehydration. I just find it so embarrassing and stressful to go through. I don't find protection to be burdensome because it's paid for by disability, but even arranging that was so much humiliating. How am I supposed to avoid being single permanently? It's gross to deal with.

Hey I (m30) am just wondering how many of you guys are actually having adhd as well ? Just recently got my diagnosis and heard that bad interoception can be a reason for night time bladder issues as well? What‘s it like for you ?

Did medication made a difference for you ? Like waking up I don’t notice a difference because I just depend my diaper as usual. Eventough I might sleep better since I started taking straterra.

I had a appointment with a urologist recently because my bedwetting went from infrequent to every night.

Until I was 10 I used to wet every night it went down in frequency (turns out it didn’t…)

When the urologist asked me if I was getting the bed completely wet or just a few drops in my underwear I discovered that I never even stopped wetting the bed everyday

I mentioned that I would always wake up with some dampness in my underwear not enough to transfer to bedsheets but turns out that counts as bedwetting.

So she straight up told me that I never stopped wetting the bed every night just went down in the amount I was peeing until last October when it started being full voids again, which is “good” because it never stopped so it’s not something new but still needs looking at.

TLDR: Any amount of urine leakage is considered bedwetting

Full disclosure upfront: I work in marketing for an Australian incontinence brand (Bestiee), so take this with whatever grain of salt makes sense — I'm not here to sell anything, just genuinely want to hear from people who actually deal with this daily.

One thing that's struck me building this brand is how much of the incontinence product category still talks to one specific customer — usually framed as "elderly," clinical packaging, hospital-adjacent branding — even though incontinence shows up for way more people than that: postpartum, athletes, people on certain medications, folks with chronic conditions, etc.

So I wanted to ask this community directly rather than guess:

- What's the biggest annoyance with adult diapers / incontinence pull-ups you've tried? (fit, absorbency, noise, visibility under clothes, skin irritation, cost — anything)

- Is there anything you wish a brand would just... say out loud, instead of dancing around with clinical language?

- For people managing this for a family member — what do you wish suppliers understood better?

Not trying to pitch anything here, genuinely trying to learn from people who deal with this reality every day rather than just what a lab report tells us. Happy to share what we've learned too if people are interested, but mostly just want to listen.

hi,

so i have been a lifelong bedwetter for 26 years and i have been lurking on this page for a while…
in april, i bought a bedwetting alarm from amazon (dryeasy) and i used it every night (unless i forgot).
yes, i got weird looks from my parents and i probably disrupted my sibling’s sleep… but i think its working because i can wake up in the middle of the night to pee, waking up in the morning completely dry and i haven’t had an accident since the 23rd, which is a huge achievement for me.
i can wear my cute pyjamas without being scared ill ruin them in 3 days!!! 😭😭

just wanted to put this out there because i saw bedwetting alarms being said around here!! thank youuu

(i wish i found out about this earlier however, but its OK).

I have extremely severe skin sensitivity in my groin area, buttocks, and inner things. The pain is so severe that I’m bed ridden because of it. I’m also fully incontinent. All due to a spinal injury.

So the issue is that most adult diapers are rough as sand paper on my skin.

What is the absolute softest adult diaper? Specifically the inner liner area. I need it to be silky soft or as close to silky soft as possible.

TLDR: finally took the jump to see a urologist and feel worse than ever. Not sure if it’s worth finding help anymore.

M30, have dealt with what I suspect is OAB forever in addition to bedwetting and swallowed my pride and saw a urologist for help. The issues have been going on for years so I made an appointment really hoping to come out of this with a game plan to address the urgency during the day and issues at night.

I am at the point where I don’t feel comfortable without some sort of protection so I wore a brief like usual to the appointment. Instead of asking questions all I got were comments about how I was too old to wear a diaper and how this isn’t normal.

Yes, I am well aware that people my age don’t normally deal with this. Instead of asking questions or trying to understand my issues I was told to go to the bathroom more and stop eating sugar. I’m pretty in shape as-is and think my diet is pretty clean so I didn’t feel great.

Their only feedback was to let him know if I kept having issues later in the year and maybe then they’ll consider more tests. Is this normal? I was really hoping to get help but this isn’t at all what I expected.

I fell asleep on my couch without protection on. I have taken the covers off and put them in the wash. Is there any recommendation on cleaning the foam pads?

Thought I’d share an experience from last night regarding how extreme fatigue impacts my bedwetting.

I did a heavy mountain biking session at Unicoi State Park yesterday and drove back home to Atlanta the same day. Between the intense physical exertion and the drive, I was running on empty. Because I was so dehydrated from the trail, I drank a massive amount of water and sports drinks right before crashing.

Normally, when I'm this tired and heavy on fluids, I make sure to put on a GoodNites XXL under my boxers to be safe. Unfortunately, I was just so exhausted that my brain short-circuited. I completely skipped my routine and went straight to sleep in just my boxers, tracks and a beater.

Because of the fatigue, I slept incredibly deeply and woke up to a wet bed this morning.

It's frustrating because I have a plan that works, but the sheer exhaustion made me skip the safety check. Has anyone else noticed that heavy sports days trigger much deeper sleep and worse accidents for you?