r/AdultBedwetting

I honestly don’t know how much longer I can keep living like this. I’m a 27 year old male.
I’ve had primary nocturnal enuresis for almost my entire life, and I’ve seen more urologists and specialists than I can even count. They’ve ruled out structural problems, and nothing has ever fixed it long term. I’ll sometimes go months without an accident, which gives me hope that maybe it’s finally over, but eventually it always comes back. Lately it’s been happening almost every day, and I feel like I’ve reached my breaking point.
What makes it even harder is that I recently started a full-time job. Every time I wake up after another accident, my morning immediately turns into throwing away a mattress pad, washing my clothes (and sometimes bedding if mattress pad moves around), taking a shower, and trying to get ready for work. It’s such a miserable way to start every single day, and mentally it’s wearing me down.
For years we’ve been able to get disposable mattress pads from relatives who weren’t using theirs, but I can’t keep relying on that forever. It feels embarrassing having to keep asking, and I know that’s not a long-term solution.
One thing I’ve struggled with is accepting the idea of wearing absorbent products. I know many adults here use them, and I truly don’t judge anyone who does. For me, though, I keep holding onto hope that the next specialist, the next treatment, or something new will finally fix this. Maybe that’s unrealistic, but it’s been hard to let go of that hope.
The only major change I can think of over the years is that I smoke cannabis more than I did when I was younger, and I drink alcohol occasionally, so I’ve wondered if either of those could be making things worse which I doubt tbh.
I’m starting therapy to try to cope with how much this affects my mental health, and my therapist suggested looking into bedwetting alarm therapy but I’ve only recently started talking to him. I’m also planning on getting an Apple Watch because I’m hoping the vibration alarm might be enough to wake me up during the night, although I’m not very optimistic since I’m such a deep sleeper.
Has anyone here with lifelong primary nocturnal enuresis actually found something that helped after years of nothing working? Did alarm therapy make a difference as an adult? Did reducing or quitting cannabis have any effect? And for those who eventually accepted wearing protection at night, how did you mentally get to that point?
I’m just very exhausted and I’ve questioned my life deeply growing up as a kid and even now as an adult as deep as begging god to make this stop and asking him why did he punish me so early in my life to make me this way. I feel like I’m stuck in the same loop every single day, and I’m hoping someone here has been where I am and found something that made life even a little bit better.

It seems this question has been asked a bit lately and my apologies to ask it again, but I’m going to ask it in a different angle that I have not read or seen so far.

In essence, I have not been officially diagnosed with OAB but based on what I have continued to read here, it sounds like I track well. That said, I wear protection, pull-ups and tabbed (on occasion) because I never know when my body is going to rebel and tell me … “now”

My angle… for the most part, I can make to the bathroom on time, but there are times that it’s actually painful to hold it. Am I doing myself a disservice by trying to hold it during the tough urges. I continue see enough people write, just go in the pull-up or diaper. I don’t want to make matters worse is where I am going with this query. Being a personal issue, I feel safe asking here what the appropriate path is for less anxiety and more importantly, not cause more of a problem down there.

I just find myself conflicted. We were all toilet trained, but I don’t know if it better not to fight when it’s a true struggle or strain to hold back. Been dealing with for some time now and I still have not found security in having accidents despite buying top quality product.

I hope this makes sense. Thanks in advance for advice and sharing personal experiences.

Hey guys, Im currently a bedwetter in college. I have been using Goodnights but they are starting to leak. I want diapers with fun designs, I’m looking at lil for big. Does anyone have any recommendations on them?

Has anyone heard of or tried using cinnamon to help with incontinence? I saw it works on a few sources on the web but idk how much it may work. Trying it tonight myself to see and will try it for about a month.

Hi guys, I am brand new to this group, I’ve been struggling with on/off bedwetting for the past year. I used to use pull ups (depend night defense, depend real fit, goodnites, & Tena Proskin Underwear) & I decided recently to make the switch to tabbed diapers because the pull ups were not holding enough and leaking often! Right now I’m using Tena Proskin Tabbed Diapers. Since I made the switch I have extra pull ups that I don’t need anymore, is there a way to make them into booster pads for the tabbed diapers? Also do you guys have any affordable product recommendations? Thank you! 😊😊

Hello again! Does anyone else sometimes wake up in the middle of the night with a very full diaper? I’m a heavy wetter and once or twice a week I wake up to that! Sometimes I go through 2/3 diapers a night. Does anyone relate? Tips to prevent that many changes? Thank you 😊

Hi, so obviously looking to keep this anon. i’m in my early 20’s and have dealt with bed wetting pretty much my whole life. I don’t regularly drink or use substances, i don’t have a diabetes diagnosis (although i’m pre diabetic). sometimes it’s better than other times. lately i’ve been experiencing an uptick in problems, having accidents 2-3 times per night. waking up only to lose control of my bladder before i can even make it to the bathroom. i genuinely feel so gross and frustrated.

I know i need to speak to a doctor (again), but my insurance just got cut and i’m without coverage for at least the next month or two. Last time i did go see a doctor about it i got a referral to a different clinic and some reading about stress incontinence. I found this really frustrating as i felt like my doctor was very dismissive of me especially considering i’m actually at a very high point in my life, where stress has been minimal in comparison to the past.

I guess I’m just looking for some support, to know theres others going through similar stuff, how others cope, how others may have gone about seeking help for this issue? if anyone has any kind words or advice or tips for dealing with this any kind words would be hugely appreciated.

Most of the time I wake up with a wet diaper. But lately about once a week I stay dry. Normally I always wear a new fresh diaper every night. But some weeks ago my girlfriend proposed to reuse it the next night the diaper it still dry as they are quite expensive. I tried it a couple of times with mixed feelings:
- they feel more fluffy/bulkier the second night of wearing them (I am definitely more aware I am wearing diapers the second night)
- they are definitely more noisy which feels a bit embarrassing(my girlfriend admitted she heard me coming into the room by the crinkling of my diaper before she saw or heard anything else, but she says she doesn’t mind, even finds it cute…)
- they haven’t leaked yet when I wet them during the second night
- it feels a bit unhygienic wearing a worn diaper for a second time, as I also change my underwear daily, but my girlfriend says it is fine as I only wear them for around 8 hours each night, so when wearing them for two nights I wear them for less hours as regular underwear.
- my girlfriend said just to check together if they look clean, still fit well and the tabs are still good. If so then it is fine to wear them again.
What do you guys do? Do you reuse a diaper the next time if they remained dry or do you always use a new fresh diaper? What are your thoughts about reusing them?

Final poll of this series. Not every poll has to be heavy. When symptoms, leaks, urgency, or poor sleep make the day harder, what small comfort helps most?

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I need your best diaper recommendations for full bladder voids overnight - plus if they hold well with being a side sleeper. Also would love to hear where you get them from. TIA

Has anyone here tired Threaded Armor cloth diapers? I’ve been thinking about getting some for daytime wear to save money on regular diapers.

I have no air conditioning. My briefs just stick to me and it's awful. How do I stay cool when I'm wearing a heavy brief layer? I strategically placed fans directly at my body but I'm still suffering thanks to the heat dome.

Hi, I don't know what to do anymore, so here I am. I am not adult. I am very young but I prefer not to say my age but age doesn't matter I think. I am also a girl if it matters for any advice. It's summer so it's impossible to avoid drinking before bed or at night if I wake up thirsty. I can't wake up dry anymore at all and I am getting nervous a lot because I can see that my mom is stressing a lot and she is getting annoyed with having to wash my jammies every night and change everything on my bed while I go take a shower fast.

If I sleep longer than 3 hours without waking up then I just pee myself in my sleep. If I leave my phone on my bed and put an alarm every 2 hours literally, then during the day I am so tired because at night I wake up 500 times because of the alarm on repeat. If I don't put alarm then I need to get lucky to wake up or I pee in my jammies, and when my mom wakes me up because I peed myself then she just goes to change all the stuff on my bed while I go shower and until I am done with all that and go back to bed, then it's hard for me to fall asleep because I am upset. Then I fall asleep again just so I end up peeing in my jammies again in 3–4 hours, and then have to repeat all those things again. But I just try to do it alone, and I don't wake up my mom and until I do all that alone and go shower again, then I just don't have enough sleep and during the day I am dead tired.

Yesterday when my aunt and mom were drinking coffee in the living room, I heard my mom saying that she will go put a diaper on me for bed. Then I just cried so here I am crying on reddit because I have no idea what to do. My mom did take me to the doctor before for a blood test and that is fine and I am healthy. Please give me any advice that can be good but not dumb things like putting an alarm all the time like I do and then I stay dry but I get so little sleep and am dead tired during the day.

I just tried to order Betterdry through the XP website, because they're my usual vendor, but the page for the product is effectively gone. I just tried calling and got a voicemail that said they apologize for not being able to take any more orders through XP medical or Live A New, and then it directed you purchase other places. It ended thanking you for years of business and "Have a blessed day."

I'm assuming that's the end for them.

I've went a few years without bedwetting from 2021 - 2024. It was wonderful but it started up again heavily in 2025. I'm having a hard time going back to this after such a lovely time being dry for so long. I've tried diapers, mats, medications, supplements but nothing seems to help. I have even tried seeing a psychiatrist. I can't do alarms either because I'm hard of hearing and won't hear even the loudest of alarms. So idk I'm getting kinda tired of all the washing I have to do. I'm thinking about just going without blankets or sheets or even clothes and just use my plastic waterproof cover and nothing else because I'm tired of washing. I even wet a hotel bed even though I wore a diaper. Idk what to do if there's anything to be done anymore. Sorry just kinda venting.

I’m looking for an adult medical diaper/brief available that doesn't leak and is cheap per unit in Canada.

I tried Tranquility ATN and liked that it didn’t leak, but the tapes are the problem. If I wake up at night or have a dry night, it’s hard to remove and put back on. The tapes don’t reattach well and scratch the outside.

I like Depend because it’s easy to remove and wear again, but it leaks overnight for me.

Is there anything as easy as Depend, but with better overnight leak protection and preferably a good price per unit in Canada?

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Do you prefer plastic or cloth-back diapers? 🤔

I (52 m)woke up to a wet bed this morning. I am 52 years old. I am on the ADHD/Autism spectrum. I have had bladder problems my entire life. From daytime wetting accidents to bedwetting. I am in good shape and I have not wet the bed in eighteen years. Then after a vivid dream, I woke up to wet pajamas a large wet spot on the bed sheet and a wet spot twice as large on the underpad. Luckily it did not affect the mattress. I've wet the bed on and off since childhood but it got a lot worse after after falling off a skateboard at 30 MPH. I sustained a serious concussion and it became a lot more frequent. I remember waking up with the room spinning in the middle of the night and a nurse diapering me because I had soaked the hospital bed.

I had wetting accidents occasionally during the day and night. Then in my junior year of college I was in a serious car accident that resulted in nerve damage to my L5-S1 region in my back. During my senior year I wet the bed every night and I also wet my pants in class a few times. It was so traumatic that I finally resorted to wearing diapers. I was considered a "good looking guy" but socializing with women was very difficult after a word spread about me wetting my pants..not just in class but on dates! Essentially from the age of 21 to 36 I wore adult diapers 24/7. However, I eventually went on a health kick, lost a lot of weight, and worked with a physical therapist. I was able to take the label version of Prozac and get on a steady sleep schedule and miraculously I stopped wetting the bed. I met my wife, and we got married. My overcoming incontinence became part of my narrative and now I may be headed back to diapers again. Now, I have been really stressed financially. I am on the generic form of Prozac and the generic is not as effective as the label. My back is slowly getting worse so I shouldn't be surprised. I was told that would happen.

Yes, there are worse things with which you can be afflicted. However few people realize the trauma that is sustained when you wet your pants and bed on a regular basis. I was in a final in college where you could not use the bathroom because there was no time. The bathroom was two floors down. I ended up wetting my pants in front of the class. However because it happened in the last 10 minutes, the next class that was waiting witnessed it as well. I was 21. Some days out of nowhere I'll be sitting in traffic needing to go to bathroom and I will relive the entire wetting accident. The shock the of pretty blonde test proctor. The loud laughter from two girls who were returning their tests and stopped in their tracks when they heard the sizzling sound saw the growing puddle on the floor. And of course, the walk of shame back to my dorm through the quad in my soaking wet pants. I had to walk through a busy dining hall to get to my dorm so I could quickly change my wet clothes and go to my next final. I am 52 but I always feel like I'm 14.

I am tired...but I am afraid to go to sleep.

Hello everyone, I have a bit of a delema.

Im going to be staying at some people's place as im going to be building a truck for them. I need to wear protection and im wondering if i should let them know about needing it as I dont know how well I could hide it in the trash and dont really want to make trips to go dispose of them.

How would you approach the subject with them? Ill be diapered with a diaper cover, bed pads ect to hopefully keep from ruining a mattress. I was thinking I was gonna be in a hotel but they decided for me to stay at their place. ​