r/Borderline

So, I just went to a particular psychiatrist for the first time today, and my main concern was the possibility of Borderline Personality Disorder. He read a document elaborated by my psychologist explaining all the symptoms I had and my other disorders, and then I told him about all my related symptoms - my unwavering fear of abandonment, extreme actions like self-harm and suicide attemps, instability in relationship and identity, past dissociative episodes, etc. He then said "that's a very clear Borderline case. You're like, classic Borderline." I just felt that maybe it was a bit too fast. Is it normal for psychiatrists to diagnose on the first appointment like this? Is this valid?

I'm 23 and still in the first year of university because i keep switching majors and none has made me happy, i'm failing half my classes because i'm too tired/depressed to actually try to go and work on projects, and i'm not even good at what i do. I'm an art major and it feels like everyone in my class is younger and more talented than me, it's like i have no ideas and won't be able to finish my degree ever.

I constantly think about giving up and just getting a job but my parents have invested so much money on my education it feels like i'm letting them down. I don't know what im doing and it feels like my life has no direction and i have no one to talk about this with because no one in my life understands what i'm going through so i'm posting it here, thank you for reading.

As the title states, my partner is traveling overseas for 12 days (for a study abroad program) and their therapist suggested no contact for that timeframe. I was recently diagnosed with BPD with intermittent explosive disorder and will be living by myself for that timeframe as well. I was wondering if anyone had some coping skills they’d recommend to get me through this upcoming experience?

For context, I work 2 part time jobs and don’t have much free time, so I feel good about how I’ll be during those parts of these next few weeks. Outside of work I mostly just smoke weed and make art/read.

I want my partner to not feel pressured into checking in on me during their time abroad, but I know I’ll miss them greatly and even just some pictures of their experiences would be nice. I feel like doing no contact is a bit extreme and know they’ll probably be texting their friends and family too, so it’s hard not to feel like I’ll be left in the dark if they decide to proceed with what their therapist suggests.

Coucou à tous 😊 j'ai une question concernant les personnes atteintes de troubles de la personnalité borderline : comment font-elles pour savoir si elles sont vraiment amoureuses d'une personne où si c'est juste un état passager? Merci à tout ceux qui me répondront

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I just went to see a psychiatrist for the first time and she prescribed me Seroxat 12.5mg for borderline and depression and Quetiapine 100mg for Insomnia, I'm scared because it's my first time taking meds and I read a lot of bad feedback about them, can you share your experience with those meds please?

Czy ktoś z Was doświadczał może takich symptomów? Moja bliska koleżanka jest osobą bardzo spokojną i ułożoną, inteligentną i pracowitą kobietą. Tak jest postrzegana przeze mnie i środowisko pracy. Jest pomocna i bezkonfliktowa. Któregoś razu przyznała mi się, że ona ma w sobie dużo złości i nienawiści do innych i do siebie, ale to wszystko tłumi i nikt tego nie widzi. Ma w sobie dwie części tę zdrową i odpowiedzialną i tą autodestrukcyjną, która nienawidzi jej i ją sabotuje. Ta część uwielbia ryzykowny seks, jazdę autem, silne emocje, adrenalinę bo bez nich boi się, że umrze. Do życia potrzebuje właśnie silnych emocji. jak jest spokój to pojawia się lęk że zaraz coś złego się stanie i pojawiają się myśli paranoiczne. Ma ogromne problemy z pamięcią i nie potrafi skupić się nawet na czytanym tekście. Czyta i nie rozumie, nie zapamiętuje. Ta autodestrukcyjna część zabiera jej wiele energii, choć nie widać tego na zewnątrz, bo wszystko maskuje. Ma też bulimię i zrobione testy na BPD, ale nie wyszło nic bo nie przyznała się do tej autodestrukcyjnej części. Czy ktoś z Was ma podobne doświadczenia?

hi everyone,
im F24 and i was diagnosed with BPD the day after my s* attempt a month ago, and since then i’ve been constantly on edge. im naturally someone who gets worked up easily, who misinterprets things, and who sees the worst in everything, but over time that had eased off and my sensitivity had become more moderate.

But now, since my diagnosis, i’ve been on edge every day; i feel that everything is unfair, that everything deserves violence because of that injustice. my social interactions are becoming a burden for me and for others.

is it the same for you? How did you react after your diagnosis?

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so i’m together with my bf for 2 years almost, 1 year ago he broke up with me because he was hurting from the false promises i gave him and i kept arguing even when things were unprovoked and stuff .. but we came back together and after that we had some good moments, sure there’s some moments where i get very sad and insecure and i overthink a lot and i do lash out on him.. i just don’t know how to stop this. it feels like when i overthink he is not doing enough and i’m alone sitting there and have to deal with it alone .. i also don’t wanna always be comforted by him it’s also exhausting for him. we do argue like every 2-3 weeks bcs i start something and then the cycle begins again.. we argue for days sometimes too. he wants revenge he says after i hurt him bcs he says he doesn’t know how to make me believe that i am hurting him and that the arguments are unprovoked happening.. and then i get hurt again bcs he wants to take revenge and so on.. and it gets very disgusting.

1 week we had an argument the whole week .. i went home, came back to him after 3 days but the day before we were okay and he said “don’t go” and i’ll miss you and such .. i’m here now at his place and yesterday we also argued bcs on saturday he asked me if i can meet his friend and i was not that happy bcs he knows i get very uncomfortable and i did meet some of his friends before but this time i didnt want to .. and i said to him “yes” on chat and on the train when i went to him i said to him i don’t wanna meet his friend .. he said to me it’s like a betrayal because i said to him before i do wanna meet him. then we argued again and he said im a liar .. and that whenever he wants something i say no. .. it’s not even true. he said to me i should’ve told him before that i dont wanna meet him.. this morning we woke up and he was hugging me not that whole entirely like he usually does but he did hug me .. and then we woke up and he said to me that he has something inside of him that he wants to do today to get revenge because he’s angry of me not always keeping my promises .. and still arguing. and that ticked me off bcs .. he said he wants to move on but wants revenge ?? and now we’ve argued again.. and he went to work and he said he will come home and i should not ask him anything and he said i can touch and cuddle him .. i just don’t know why can’t i change .. i’m trying. it feels like i’m slowly slowly loosing him.

Hallo Leute, ich war 3 Jahre mit meiner Ex Freundin zusammen welche Borderline hatte. Oft wurde mir in der Zeit gesagt, ich solle schnell das Weite suchen und laufen so lache ich noch kann..

Auch wenn die Beziehung am Ende auseinander gegangen ist, muss ich sagen das ich diese Zeit auf keinen Fall bereue. Ich würde sogar sagen, das ich in dieser Zeit am intensivsten geliebt habe und wurde.

Damit möchte ich eigentlich nur sagen: Scherrt nicht alle über einen Kamm und lernt die Personen erstmal kennen, bevor ihr vielleicht vorschnell Urteilt.

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Lately I’ve started drinking alone and it makes me feel better. I’m ashamed that I’m doing it. I know that I should just not do it. It makes me forget to binge eat. It makes me forget about myself for a bit. I don’t want to to it but I feel alone and like I have no one to turn to

Hey, ich bin Niki, 19 Jahre alt und würde vor kurzem mit BPS diagnostiziert.
Ich bin zurzeit in eine psychiatrische Klinik und nächste Woche werde ich entlassen.
Die Ärzte haben mir für ADHS elvanse verschrieben und für BPS Venlafaxin.
Elvanse funktioniert supi, habe damit keine Probleme….aber mit Venlafaxin schon, es hat mega viele Nebenwirkungen und ich bin mit dem Medikament einfach richtig unzufrieden und möchte was neues ausprobieren, weiß aber noch nicht was,
deswegen wollte ich euch fragen, welches Medikament hilft euch am besten und wieso?