r/CheatingGF

I know people can make mistakes. I know people can change. But when someone you deeply love betrays your trust, over and over again, something inside you changes too. Even if they say they’re sorry, even if they promise it will never happen again, the memories stay. The doubts stay. You start questioning everything—their words, their actions, even the moments when they’re simply not around.
I’m trying to understand whether trust can really be rebuilt after cheating, or whether staying only means living with the fear that it will happen again.
For those who have experienced this: Did your partner genuinely change after cheating? Or did they eventually do it again?
I’m not looking for judgment. I just want honest experiences and perspectives because sometimes hearing from strangers who have gone through the same pain helps you see things more clearly. ❤️
I honestly can’t bear the pain anymore. I just need to unload the heaviness in my heart right now because it feels like it’s becoming too much to carry alone.
I keep going back and forth in my mind, trying to make sense of everything, trying to find some kind of peace or answer that will stop this ache.

So my Gf is a very attractive girl, she's 23 fair skin medium sized boobs but her hips are wide and butt is big with her thick thighs. It's been 3 + years of our relationship.

So I noticed some changes in her behaviour like hiding her from me etc .

One day we went on a little trip to nearby hill station and we had great fun together and we slept , but I got wake up in the middle of the night to pee and suddenly it came to mind to check her phone what she's hiding from me .

So I opened her phone quietly I checked her insta, got nothing , checked her snapchat there was nothing too

And whatsapp too . But suddenly I got it , there was an option for locked chat on whatsapp. I checked it was obviously locked . I tried passwords but they were not matching . I tried many different passwords but none of them could open it at last I gently hold her hand lying on bed with her and wait for sometime so she couldn't wake up and after that I slowly touched her finger on the fingerprint it got unlocked. I quietly went to the toilet and saw there was only one chat . It was one of her batchmate at her college. I opened the chat and I saw flirty texts . I scrolled all the chats . She was having sexting with him very often , they had chat about sex so much , I read it from the top. She was offering herself to him like come here I'm on my knees put your cock in my mouth and the guy didn't resisted . They had sexting many times and I scrolled all the chats and I found that my gf had already bouncing on his cock. They were having chat regarding how was their sex meet like I really enjoyed getting fucked by your cock, my pussy is still wet, let's have sex again some day etc . I was so angry and sad but I noticed that while reading those chats how my gf was getting fucked made my cock so hard.

I’m 19 and my now ex bf is 18..We have been together all through high school and never had any problems everyone knew we dated we did everything togethe,he was pretty much my only friend because I have always been shy and awkward he was also my only body before this occurred…

So one day we were walking to class and a guy my bf had problems with made a comment about how my butt looked in my jeans we tried to keep walking but he kept calling me over , my boyfriend said no so I kept walking but he kept asking so I just went to see what he wanted , he asked for my number and I told him no and left (btw my boyfriend was pissed that I went to see what he wanted)

Later that night somehow he found my instagram😭 he texted me asking me if I wanted to hangout and smoke I kept saying no but he eventually convinced me idk what the hell I was thinking

So he picked me up brought me to his house and we were smoking and drinking just talking about life and about 7 beers later we end up making out I felt so bad but at the same time I was so drunk and ignored my feelings one thing let to another and now I’m getting fingered by him (I could not stand it somehow it was better than my boyfriends dick) he asked me for head so that’s what I did I’m not very experienced but somehow he said I was one of the best

Ik he liked to bully my boyfriend but for some reason that thought turned me on even more next thing I know im on my knees giving him puppy eyes begging him to fuck me

So he does and it was the best sex ever…. I thought my bf was good but he was out of this world I guess because he was more than twice his size and I’m a small girl

Out of no where my boyfriend calls and this is where it gets worse he tells me to answer and I do😭

I try to hold my whines as much as possible but can’t he ask me what’s going on and I tell him my stomach is hurting and that’s when the guy FaceTimes him , shoves my head into a pillow and pounds me like no tomorrow I completely lose control and cum the guy made me say humiliating things to him I was so into it I did (I let him know I was cumming and that I was being fucked by a real man) my boyfriend has never made me finish that was my first orgasm , I felt so bad I was whining and moaning “im sorry it just feels to fucken good”

My bf hangs up blows up my phone with name calling text and the guy records himself cumming on my face and sends him to video my boyfriend was pissed people told me he cried and destroyed his house

I don’t know what to do I want by bf back so bad he was my only freind and cared about me so much he was perfect I let one stupid mistake ruin everything I hope one day he will forgive me ……..let me know if yall have experienced anything similar or if I’m the only one with a wild experience like this

So today I went through my fiances phone she let me. First she had her text message open and was just gonna show me that. Then I went to her home screen. We both had agreed to delete all social media besides Facebook. Well she still had twitter installed. She had a password thing for her twitter chats. Idk it did say anything besides password access button. Well I deleted that. Then went through her contacts. Over 100 guys. We both had previously cheated on each other. Well she told me she blocked all of them only like 5 were blocked. So I went through and blocked and deleted the contacts. Probably shouldn't have done that before I went through her face time logs and her deleted messages. But when I went to her messages. She flipped on me because I was trying to restore them. She was grabbing my arm trying to prevent me from getting out of the car and was screaming at me to give her phone back and that it was just spam shit. I told her then she shouldn't have an issue with it. And when I tried to get out of the car she put her arm around my neck and was kinda choking me. She was screaming in my ear to give her phone back. Idk how to work iPhone so after i restored like 5 messages that were deleted that day. Because this was around 2am. I was trying to get back to the messages but I couldn't get back to the actual messages. It was blank numbers but it didn't say the name of insurance companies or anything like the other spam numbers. But I have never seen her flip out like that. Like she was literally choking me over it. But she says she doesn't remember it because she must have blacked out. I had apparently been looking at her phone for about an hour. And she was getting pissed. I'm just wondering if there is any way I can see messages that go uploaded to a cloud service. I already feel it in my heart that she's not being faithful again and will probably delete them completely and make sure it doesn't show up in her deleted messages. But I'm just wondering if there is anything I can do to see those messages

I was on my GF’s house yesterday and we were talking about food…

Then she asked “Do you remember that time where we we were eating pizza and you bought me some chocolates?”

Well, there’s an issue… I have very good photographic memory, and I remember all the times I ever bought her something… but this time specifically, I have absolutely no recollection of.

She even described how the chocolates looked and even told me I ate one.

Darn, she told me I asked her then if she wanted them, she said no… then I supposedly told her she could eat them later.

— AS PER MY MEMORY, A VERY GOOD MEMORY, NONE OF THE ABOVE EVENTS EVER TOOK PLACE.

She then asked me “How can you not remember?”
“We even went to the motel that night!”

Now If I try and get some explanation, she will pick up a fight saying she doesnt want to talk about it.

If I push this subject further, she will break up with me I feel it.

Note: We did go to eat pizza several times, and yes one time I did gift her a rose and ONE chocolate.
Not four. And not the type of chocolates she described yesterday.

You can't be with someone, who doesn't understand the wrong in what they're own doings. the same way you can't be with someone who doesn't worry about you, and doesn't take your feelings into consideration as they would their very own. Same thing goes with disrespect when they're doing it ain't no problem once you return that same energy you're the bad guy smh

When someone betrays you in someway and you leave them, they then decide to pull closer and say I love you and they start doing things you had wished they done before the betrayal. Just know the pull closer is not love, when you left you triggered their abandonment wound. Their fear of abandonment does not equal love.

my girlfriend was whimpering and moaning last night on the phone and its an online relationship, while i was sleeping with her on the phone and this morning i asked her about it and she said she was sleeping and said she didnt want me to feel sad and also apparently was at the store for 4 hours that day too. and then later that night we were talking about it again then i told her the same thing and i let her know if she wants to mastrubate do it with the phone muted and she got mad and said she never did that and said i was making her feel like a hoe and that i was accusing her of cheating and then she started crying and then i heard her again tonight doing the same thing and when i heard a loud moan i said "what the fuck" and i heard my echo when i said that but after that i didnt hear my echo anymore and i also heard her phone buzzing I don't know if I should leave her.

Hey you guys so basically I have a girlfriend who I’ve been off n on for a while now. Like as in we got back together a lot times we tried other ppl and stuff we still came back. We knew each other since June 2024 And we just hit one month on August 5 and she told me she needed to take a break that’s alright because I hear she been going through some stuff about her uncle passing away that affected her. I said some stuff about if you really need the break I respect your decision and before I’ve been left on read I said “baby you okay?” She leaves me on read. Blocks me on TikTok, turns off her location, blocks me off her spam account on Instagram who knows she might block me on snap or iMessage. I’ve been trying text her what are we because genuinely I’m very confused. And I still got her on my spam account on TikTok so I checked her pfp and she had some matching couple pfp shit or smth. And I found the acc who’s basically matching with her pfp. He lives all the way in north fucking Carolina bro… we live in Illinois not to mention we both go to the same school and her house is 3 minutes away on car..? This hurts me so bad because that’s technically she cheated and some what ghosted me saying she needed a break till school?. I mean whenever I got back with her she’s always leaving me on delivered for long periods of time I thought she would had changed and stuff yk? But genuinely I don’t know what to do. School starts on August 17 and I don’t know what we are and if I should say smth to her cus I legit found her “sides” acc on her old tiktok account she’s following recently.

So it all started my bf told hes friend he could stay at our house for a week while in the process of getting his own house it was time for bed he said come stop in our bed its big enough then my bf told me to sleep in middle, I only have very revealing bed wear so I went to bed first and got under the covers waited for them to come. So they get in my bf starts to play with me then said a comment to hes mate ask if you can have a feel a just laughed when he said, anyhow one thing led to another, my bf let hes friend go all the way with me with my consent, we have never spoke about that week as things happened every night for the full week I just dont no what hes thinking I cant say I never enjoyed it because I did and would again