r/CheatingGF

Someone I know sent me screenshots of my fiancé’s account on Fetlife. I made a fake account to look it up and she was active the first four months of our relationship and from what I can tell she isn’t active anymore. Our sex life is basically nonexistent I never complain or push her because I honestly don’t care how much sex we have and she isn’t kinky with me at all and I’m a pretty kinky person and have never hid this side of me from her. She has also accused me of cheating because I watched porn and got off and called me disgusting. I have also caught her messaging one of her ex’s twice and trying to set up dates with him while I was out of town for work the second time I caught her. After I confronted her it stoped or she probably started hiding it better. She said she didn’t have any dates with him and nothing happened between them and that she wouldn’t have done anything with him but the flirty very sexual messages don’t make me believe her. I’m very frustrated I love her and we have a great relationship otherwise.

On my 22nd birthday, I found out that my girlfriend cheated on me with another guy. The worst part is that technically, she cheated on him with me too, because she knew him before we even started dating. We were together for 9 months ,, 9 months of what felt like pure love. Our families knew each other, everything felt serious, and now it feels like it was all for nothing.

And the sad truth is… I chose to stay with her. Maybe that makes me an idiot. But honestly, at the beginning of our relationship, during the first month, I also had a superficial sexual encounter with another girl I knew. That’s one of the reasons I felt like I couldn’t act like the perfect man or judge her as if I was innocent too. The difference is that I stopped. She continued talking to him , a guy she had known for over a year.

She still doesn’t know about what I did.

Now it’s been a month since I found out, and even though I forgave her, I can’t forget it. The trust is broken. Whenever we’re not together, my mind starts overthinking. I keep asking myself: what’s stopping her from doing it again? Even if she ended things with that guy, how can I know for sure? Maybe she’s talking to someone else now. Maybe she just got better at hiding it.

I hate that I even think like this now. I can barely sleep at night. I’m constantly anxious, constantly overthinking, constantly worried. Sometimes I want to check her phone just to calm my mind, but I rarely even have access to it anymore.

She promised me she would work on rebuilding the trust, but honestly… I don’t feel like I’m healing at all.

My last post gave me a lot of hate in comments. I have been trying to be a good wife and not cheat on my husband again, he also had cheated on me with an exact opposite person of who I am, but to be fair, I was the first one to do it. I am trying to see him as a good person and not wishing bad on him, but I am offlate attracted to this muscular guy who is a bartender, and I keep running into him. We text and chat and he point blank asked me if I ever slipped in my marriage, I confessed that I did, now i find myself telling him all my cheating stories. Which he calls me at night to listen to. I feel like if I meet him again, he will for sure have me on all fours,. He blurted it out when he drunk dialed me. How do I resist this temptation. Dm me if you guys and gals have ideas

Back in my undergrad years I ended up falling hard for someone in a several year relationship when we first met. She told me she needed some time to end the relationship with said person but never actually got the courage to do so. Sadly at that point I knew I would rather have a bit of someone than none at all so I never said anything. Fast forward a bit less than a decade later that guy got engaged and I ended up telling him about it because it continued that whole time.

As far as I know the engagement is still on and all I can think is I did something wrong telling this because it just hurt a bunch of people and severed my “connection” completely. I truly do not know if it was the right thing to do but rather what I would want if I was in those shoes.

I asked my now wife to marry me one November. She said yes and I remember thinking this is why people talk about the honeymoon period. The excitement of choosing a ring, telling people, families throwing engagement parties and making plans for the future- I never felt closer to my wife to be. An added bonus was that her family were less judgemental about her staying over in my place - rural catholic Ireland and an obsession with what the neighbours would say.

Still on the crest of a wave, December was busy, amongst other things her work Christmas party which, as always, was an overnight affair arranged by the company - same as every other year or so I thought until 4 years later.

Lying in bed one Saturday morning, out of the blue, she confesses that she slept with a work colleague at the Christmas party. Shocked was an understatement - the last 4 years had been great, we had a kid , a new house , I had a new job. I asked the usual questions - who was he? A guy whose name I’d recalled hearing her talk about - in hindsight that was a signal but I didn’t pick up on it - too engrossed in my own perfect world. I asked why- she couldn’t give me an answer, she claimed to be as happy as I was and that it was the biggest mistake of her life. To be honest I knew we could get through this but took some time and revisited it with her a few days later.

By then I was contemplating kicking her out for a while, knowing that her mums house would be the only option and that she would have to tell her family what she did. But I realised I was doing that more so to hurt her mother, to let her know that her daughter was a dirty slut who couldn’t keep her legs closed - the total opposite of everyones perception of her.

So instead I asked her to tell me every sordid detail from that night. What happened, who else knew, what she felt at that time, what they did. 30 minutes of explicit details from a sobbing wife, ashamed and embarrassed repeating what she had done and I didn’t let up . There were some contractions from what she said a few days earlier and I needed clarification, needed the truth.

My truth was that I was trying to shame her, I told both her and myself that I was doing it to get closure. When she was crying as she admitted buying a morning after pill on her way home the next day I realised I was getting aroused hearing about it.

What I ended up with was a complete picture in my head of that night, a picture that I’ve replayed time and time again, sometimes still surprised that my wife had actually done this in real life.

Without me realising it started affecting me mentally, I couldn’t help thinking of them when we fucked, comparing myself to him, still questioning why she did it. Gradually this resulted in cumming quicker than normal and progressed to full on premature ejaculation.

Our sex life has been turned on its head. The woman who loved long passionate sex sessions, who talked about having “multi orgasms “ is now in a relationship where that is a distant memory. I’ve accepted that I’ll never make her orgasm through penetration, I’ve told her the reason. She accepts some responsibility and the reality is that we are both paying a high price for her indiscretions 20 years ago.

So here's the background. Been married 16 years. Most of it very happy and to a wonderful wife. We have 2 kids and a good life. About a month ago i was on our computer and found all these gchats from wife to all her GFs etc etc from 2008 on. I know this is invasion of privacy so i don't want to go into that here. I learned a lot about who she was that i didn't know. Kind of hurt me a lot more than i thought it would. She was a Club girl, with many sexual partners etc etc. Learned through her chats she was seeing like 5 dudes on and right when she met me. Found out she continued for a few months afterwords but they all ended. I trust her to not cheat (except maybe a little less when she drinks to much and out with her gfs) but i don't think she has cheated on me during our marriage. Long story short she really liked this guy when i met her but i think he knew she was a party girl and didn't want anything long term. Fast forward few years later we married in 2011 and i found out that guy moved a few streets over from us. I find another chat with him and her talking about them having some dog dates, it had a little flirtatious wording and induendos. She has no reason or business talking to some guy she use to bang who ended it with her. I thought someone doing that a few months after she got married was beyond disrespectful and hurtful. So then a few months after i found another gchat with her and her gf saying did you here so and so broke up (the guy). Wife says to her I've been walking by his house wanting to go in and see him.( had an angel emoji with halos) at end of sentence. I confronted her and she totally denied nothing happed and i was just being jealous and over reading it. I want to ask yall your opinions. Thanks.

So basically she said she just needed some space that she just needs to find her self. Few days later guy I work with shows me her hinge profile. I ask her about she says it must be old. Looking for some

To see if you can get her to reply or agree to meet up. And give me the time and place if so.

Hey i want to convince my wife to have threesome as one more girl.

So we met at a local pub and after a few months of dating I come to Western Australia for work and she decided to come with and work here as well. She often spends nights at my house who i share with my Irish coworker and previous to him a uk coworker. Here’s where I think she’s cheating. I work night shift so we don’t see each other much at the house. This also means my coworker and her are both home at the same time. On a few occasions when I have rang her she has been short of breath, multiple times she says she is 10 mins away but doesn’t leave house for an hour or more and her labido with me is now basically non existent despite her always having a very strong sex drive. I’ve confronted her and asked 2 times amd the most recent was after she said she was on her way and then didn’t show up for 1.5 hrs, drunk, and crying because I was upset and denied doing anything. What do people think because I have paid for all her flights, her food, and giving her a house to live in.

My girlfriend cheated and she wants me to take her back, we have talked about having 3ways before i am wondering if we should have a 3way before we get back together so its a bit more open.

We have discussed doing it and don’t have much of a sex life would it help it tho??

My husband and I have been together since 2022. When we started dating he was amazing. The only issue was a huge red flag and I should have known better than to continue the relationship. We began seeing each other in January. In mid March, I got a phone call from a phone number one digit off from his.... I answer to a woman telling me that my then boyfriend was actually her fiancé. He swore they split in August.

I continue the relationship against my better judgement. He kept pushing for us to get married, said I was his twin flame, blah, blah blah. I married this man like a fool after 5 months of dating.

I begin to find dating profiles and hidden Facebook accounts telling women we were getting divorced. I would find where he emailed himself nudes of women that are definitely not me, I'm blonde, they were black/brown haired.

I found emails to the same ex telling her he was leaving me and stringing her along.

Its been almost a year since i stopped looking. Every time I looked, i would find it and be hurt then not leave. But now something has changed within me. I am sick of his shit. ALL OF HIS SHIT. And I know he is back on the apps. He's taking selfies with muscles showing (mind you he hates having his photo taken by me). He is secretive with his phone and doesn't want me anywhere near it. He is on snapchat again... crawforddirtyy (like that isn't sexually suggestive enough).

I have a fake tinder profile. I am trying to find him. When I do, I need definitive proof he is cheating so I can leave with my head high and no "what ifs" that he can explain away like he always does.... "I created it but never used it" is a popular one.

Thanks for letting me vent. I will update soon.

Yesterday was a freezing cold day here! So what to do? Coffee and a marathon binge-watch!? Or go for a walk!? Guess what I ended up doing...

My best friend ( of almost 1.5 years) is dating with my other friend (also a very close friend ) behind my back
The bigger problem is that one if them is in this 7 year old long distance relationship and the other one just started seeing someone new .
I feel so icky and betrayed and conflicted now
What should i do .
They are both my friends and always one of them is in a long term committed relationship

My biggest fantasy has always been sharing my wife with another guy, but as a game of complicity between us — the third person would basically be a “tool” to make things hotter together. I’ve told her years ago and she understands, but she’s always said she’s not interested in doing it for real.

During sex though, she often does something that confuses me. When I take her from behind in doggystyle, she grabs two of my fingers, puts them in her mouth and sucks them while looking me straight in the eyes, clearly pretending she’s blowing another man. She does it spontaneously and we also sometimes play with a dildo.

I’m not sure if she’s just playing along to please me or if she actually enjoys the fantasy deep down. Has anyone experienced something similar? Do you think these kinds of spontaneous acts mean she’s secretly curious, or is it possible she’s only doing it for me? Any advice on how to talk about it would be helpful.

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So about 3 weeks ago I found out my girlfriend of 6 months kissed another guy while we were dating and broke up with me to give him a chance, when I found out, I was pissed and she told me 3 days after I found out and was still pissed, then she realized the guy she kissed didn't make her feel, "as good as I made her feel" kept saying how she trusted me and loved me, then after that I was speaking with her and I said to her Im not going to prom which I thought was understandable and she was pissed off but she cheated on me and now is making me feel shit about it constantly bringing it up trying to get em to change my mind, I had big big plans that have been in place since before I even dated her and she expected me to still go after she cheated on me, and she said how she feels horrible and how she's sorry and that she still loves me she said that if she went to prom it would just be a reminder she's nobodys first choice and she said how I broke a promise when she cheated on me expected me to be okay and see it's a mistake and broke a promise she'd only choose me, it was also cat and mouse for 3 days dating and not being together not being able to decide between the new guy and me in the end she blocked the guy and came back to me trying to date me again and I care about her still so much but I dont know what I want to do about the situation and I keep putting off saying stuff because I dotn want her to do anythign, it took me a week to tell her I don't want to date you again, and she said please give me another chance, she keeps trying to prove it to me but I honestly just want to move on, I dont want to date her and also just with prom I said to her I would go and we could go as friends, before I knew she cheated, then afterwards I said to her that I don't want to go and she got pissed and I don't tell her how I completely feel because I dotn want to upset her anymore but do I just like text her completely how i feel because I feel like she's just disregarding my feelings and constantly trying to make me feel bad about my decision and idk but my trust is broken and I dotn want to date her again and I just kept feeling shit how someone I thought wa my friend kissed my girlfriend after she liked him, I need to talk to him too