r/EckhartTolle

I am working on observing the voice in my head rather than getting lost in it. But it leaves me with a question: when should I believe the thoughts that arise? My biggest ones center around unfairness; when I feel unfairly treated and need to stand up for myself, or set an important boundary.

If all thought is just conditioned mental noise of the ego, is there such a thing as a "right" or "true" thought to trust, or is total disidentification from the entire thinking mind the only path? How do you navigate daily life without placing belief in the voice?

Hi,

I’m in my 30s, living with my wife, our kid, my parents, and my younger siblings (22 and 15) all under one roof. We’ve got the upstairs, they’ve got the downstairs, but we share the same entrance.

Honestly, I still haven’t figured out how to make enough money to get our own place. The only real option would be a mortgage, but me and my wife just don’t have the cash for it. And it’s not even just about the money, it’s also about my social skills. I worry about fitting into a work team and just holding down a job without constantly stressing about whether I’ll have enough for the next payment.

On top of that, It feels like I'm doomed to have a bad relationship with my parents and siblings - because trust me, at this age, living under the same roof is NOT what I want. And yeah, I know accepting it doesn’t really change anything. Even Eckhart Tolle once said he couldn’t live with his parents, lol 😄

The quote continues: “You must have failed deeply on some level or experience some deep loss or pain to be drawn to the spiritual dimension.”

As someone who has been passing through hard times the last few years, and currently at the end of Tolle’s The Power of Now, I would love to hear any uplifting stories of people who came out the other side. Enlightened or not.

With metta 🙏

you're just this completely silent floating "space" that is always just silently observing? how am I the only one who gets freaked out about this?

I have read a bit of the “Ask and it is Given” but I found it a bit confusing and boring. I hope to try to skim it and potentially reread what I read and what also particularly attracts me. I do enjoy her talks, I can definitely remember noting she is well spoken.

I’ve been following Bashar channel Darryl Anka for a while, he is one of my primaries teachers I use as a stable of spiritual understanding. Right next to that, one that I hold more closely is Eckhart Tolle. I’ve integrated both of their teachings in the one understanding “If you’re present, you’re following your passion, and if you’re following your passion, you’re present.”.

But I find I still someway get some confusion from Bashar‘s idea of passion and what it really is and how I can realistically follow it, meaning listening to it and act on it. And so I’m hoping a third perspective could maybe more easily tie this altogether in terms of how passion and the universe works, and how I can really see and feel a change in my moment to moment life and see more synchronicity that Bashar promises by using Abraham Hicks explanation of how it all mechanically works and use that deeper understanding to my advantage.

If you aren’t familiar with Bashar, just to make the teachings connect, one of his quotes on the law of attraction is that "You are always attracting what you need automatically, it's your definitions they are keeping them away."

But then, in anyway, this very well may be my negative ego trying to understand more and gain more knowledge. Or it could be my curiosity (Passion). That is something I have to discern.

But do tell me, if Eckhart Tolle is presence, Bashar is Passion, what is Abraham Hicks?

The reason for my question is that I have spent a lot of time thinking about physics, in addition to trying to experience physics through inquiry and meditation.

Albert Einstein, Stephen Hawking, etc., have all established that space-time is actually a unified fabric (and not two separate dimensions).

To try to answer my own question:
My guess is because Eckhart has emphasized that the body is the vehicle for awakening. He has said that “we enter the body in order to realize that we are not the body,” so my guess is that the body is more tied to the here and the mind is more tied to now…

What do you think/feel/intuit?
Why would Eckhart (who I respect tremendously) focus more on Now and the dimension of time more than Here and the dimension of space?

Bonjour, j’écris ce message comme bouteille à la mer,
Je vous met dans le contexte : je suis une jeune fille de 18 ans avec un passif lourd. J’ai subi de l’inceste, viol, menace de mort, tentative de meurtre et j’en passe. La vie ne m’a pas laisser de chance. Afin de me soulager de cette douleur mental je me suis échappé dans pas mal de drogues ( Canabis, Héroïne, Crack, Taz , Mdma..) . J’ai fais énormément de psychiatrie pour dépression, syndrome de stress Post traumatique, trouble de la personnalité borderline. J’ai pas mal de séquelles.
Il y a environ 2 mois, j’ai tester le LSD. J’ai l’impression de m’être vu de l’intérieur. Voir l’enfant ronger que j’etait au fond, le traumatisme, l’horreur que j’ai vécu et que je me suis fais vivre. Je me suis dégoûtée de me traiter de la sorte. Depuis cette prise je ressens les émotions des autres , je vois le monde et les gens différemment. Comme si derrière chaque action je voyais leur intérêt , comme si ce n’était qu’un jeu. Je vois le fond des gens, mais aussi leur vices , leur traumatisme, leur peur , leur colère.. j’ai l’impression que tout le monde se donne un genre en faite! Je suis perdue , j’essaye de me renseigner car ça me fais peur de comprendre tout ça , j’ai l’impression d’avoir un pouvoir mais d’être une folle au millieu de tout ces gens pleins de malices et de désaccord. Si quelqu’un a lu jusqu’ici, j’ai besoin d’un avis, un chemin à suivre pour m’aider à comprendre qui je suis et comment mettre à bon profit ce pouvoir.

I also watch his YouTube vids almost every day. But I'm not sure his teachings ever "clicked."

How many % of your life in the past 12 months can you say you "lived" his teachings? How can you say so?

I went through a stressful period earlier this year. I turned to drinking alcohol and subsequently experimented with smoking cigs. Never been a smoker but could feel the habit forming. Then I stumbled across an Eckhart Tolle video where he says to delay urges. So if there’s anything you want to stop doing, just delay it. If you really want to do it after the delay then that’s ok. Next time delay longer and longer.

So, this one is interesting to me.

Noam Chomsky is one of the most cited intellectuals in the 20th century who has made contributions to various fields like linguistics, activism and who regularly comments on geopolitics.

Given that Tolle has frequently criticized the over-identification with the mind and/or intellect - would Chomsky fall under this rubrique, too ?

Would a hyper-intellectual life like this be considered a wasted life ? I personally feel about guilty and inferior about not being as accomplished as intellectuals like these.

The question popped to mind while listening to a YouTube interview with Goggins.

My body right now has become my bondage. Intense emotions and knots in the emotional body and physical body have led me to continually feel painful feelings. Sexual suppression lies at the core of these feelings. Currently partaking in semen retention, whilst trying to uncover my sexual orientation. An issue that I have always buried underneath since I was young. Discovered things about myself that made me question myself. Those questions never got answered. Led me to continue to pretend along the straight path while never fully knowing the true essence of who I was. Felt like a part of me was trapped or continually constricted.

Maintained this semen retention for about two months now, however I feel everything rose up even stronger. The pain is becoming the forefront of my life and needs to be handled.

My big upheaval is trying to cope/understand a way out of the pain of what I'm feeling. I'm feeling like I may be transgender MTF. I'm dealing with the pain of being unable to express that and even accepting it is hard and not fully there for me. It's a knot in me that feels impossible to unwind.

I can't seem form a clear sense of identify based on gender which feels like the biggest obstacle in my life right now. I am 21 years of age.

Eckhart says, this doesn't have to be an obstacle if given the right spiritual guidance. It could even be an advantage because this could make it easier for one to disidentify from identification with form.

My question is how do I seek out this support, and guidance through this process? I feel lost and vulnerable, I've glimpsed the reality of what he's saying, experienced brief moments of dis-identification. And it's felt powerful.

However as the same time it seems impossibly painful and hard for me to exist in this reality because I can't never find a moments rest where I feel like I belong.

Basically trying to turn this pain into a blessing but struggling with it on my own.