r/FacebookDating

I haven't had access to FB dating for almost a year.

I had it, got into a relationship off of it, became single, made a new one and after a few days decided I wasn't ready to date and deleted it.

Ever since then almost a year ago I've never had it come back up for me to use. I'm in the US, my account has never been flagged, banned or reported, just no dating.

I've tried deleting cache, uninstall and reinstall, going into settings and all of the tricks I could find online.....

Anyone else had this issue?

When I downloaded this app about 6 months ago for the first time I got like 5+ matches in the first day. This time I'm barely getting anything.

Are there any apps worth using besides those 3, similar to FB dating ?

I’ve been trying online dating, and while I get matches, a surprising number of them never send a message. It makes me wonder if this is just how dating apps work now or if I’m doing something wrong.

On the flip side, one of the few guys who did message me mostly sends long voice messages talking about himself and has never asked me anything about myself. It ends up feeling more like I’m interviewing him than getting to know each other, so that hasn’t felt like a real connection either.

Part of the problem is that I feel really insecure about sending the first message. I guess a part of me worries that if a man is genuinely interested, he’ll reach out first. At the same time, I realize I might be missing out on good conversations because I’m waiting. I also don’t want to feel like I’m chasing someone—I think I’d just like to see equal effort from the beginning.

So I’m wondering:

1. Women, how often do you match with men who never message?

2. Men, do you ever match with someone you’re genuinely interested in but never send a message? If so, why?

3. Do men ever feel the same insecurity about sending the first message, or is that mostly something women experience?

I’m trying to figure out whether this is just normal online dating in 2026 or if I should start getting over my fear of initiating conversations.

New to the app and generally get about 5-7 matches per week. Out of those matches maybe 1-2 will message. Why? What’s the point? Why bother? I give someone about 48 hours to engage and then I unmatch. If effort is that low from the beginning it’s a red flag to me. Should I allow someone more time? Am I being reasonable?

Which conventional date activity do people suggest frequently that you would rather avoid doing, or are really tired of at this point?

I (28F) had been talking to a guy (29M) for about a month. We finally went on our first date this weekend.
He wanted to meet at a bar at 9 p.m. I suggested coffee or dinner earlier because I wasn’t comfortable meeting a stranger that late, but he joked, “Don’t worry, I won’t kidnap you. You’ll be safe.” He offered to pick me up, and I agreed as long as we stayed closer to my area instead of driving farther away.
The beginning of the date honestly felt great. We talked for hours, he paid for the drinks, held my hand, hugged me, opened doors for me, and kissed me. I kissed him back. I hadn’t experienced that kind of affection in a long time, and I genuinely liked it.
Later we went to a second bar. While we were standing together, he grabbed my butt. I moved his hand away. He smiled and said, “Just trust me.” He did it again. I moved his hand away again. Throughout the night he kept touching me in ways I wasn’t comfortable with, and I remember repeatedly moving his hands away or asking him to stop. Every time he would say, “Just trust me.”
By then I’d had a few drinks. I told him I didn’t want another because I was already drunk and wanted to go home. He insisted on one more drink and brought me one anyway. I took a sip but remember almost stumbling, so I left the drink and told him I wanted to leave.
Instead of taking me home, he suggested we go somewhere private. We got into his car, and he drove to a dark parking spot.
We started kissing again. I remember kissing him back at first. After that, my memory becomes very patchy.
I remember him trying to take my clothes off. I remember saying “stop.” I remember saying it more than once. He replied, “You don’t want me to stop, do you?”
The next clear thing I remember is being in the back seat with his finger inside me while he was trying to touch himself. He then tried to have sex with me but couldn’t. He took my hand and put it on his penis. I remember yelling “stop.” That was when he finally stopped and said, “Okay, we don’t have to do this.”
The part that confuses me the most is that i apologized to him afterward, like he got disappointed when I forced him to stop. He said it was okay and drove me home. I blocked him as soon as I got home.
Now I keep replaying the night. I know I made choices that put me in that situation. I agreed to the second bar. I kissed him back. I got into his car. At the same time, I also remember moving his hands away, refusing another drink, saying I wanted to go home, and saying “stop” multiple times.
I was in an abusive relationship for four years that ended two years ago. Since then I’ve spent a long time rebuilding my life and genuinely thought I was finally ready to date again.
Instead I woke up feeling ashamed, used, and like I somehow caused this.
I’m not looking for people to tell me I did nothing wrong. I know there are decisions I’d make differently.
I’m asking because I genuinely don’t know how to separate my choices from his choices anymore.
Where do you think I made mistakes?
Where do you think he crossed the line?
Am I blaming myself too much, or not enough?
Please be honest. I can take it.

Hello,

I know how frustrating it can be to join a dating app looking for something more meaningful than casual then run into the posers. Here is how I filter it out as a woman on that God forsaken app.

I am nolonger there, I am content with whatever happens. Dating took my light away.

1. These two options being on the same profile "something casual" & "long term relationship". You are in fact about to deal with someone who is unintentional and only honest about the casual part.

2. The body checking or print photos.

3. "I just want a wife, already own a house". Unless you are into that traduire rubbish but you will be a labor performer.

4. And if you do happen to meet someone and they keep rushing to meet you, they are trying to speed run the dates that way it feels like you have known them forever and get to the sexual part.