r/Fostercare

It’s been a while and as of now I got to visit them in person and stay with the them for 2.5 months during 2024. One of my brothers just graduated and seeing the pics honestly made me cry. I’m just so happy that after not being able to be in their lives for so long everything turned around. Their mom plans to take us to Disney including my child in January. Granted I won’t be able to do much because I’ll be freshly postpartum but I’m excited regardless to see them enjoy themselves.

I know it might sound dumb or a small problem but I feel like it’s just the one part of my life I do feel in control of is self expression

Im just so mad that I can’t have my cute room forever and I’m gonna be in a foster home/group home & Im scared of having my clothes stolen or my stuff. Im really scared for my belongings . And I’m just scared I won’t be able to feel good about myself and I’ve thought of asking people if I could store stuff at their house & just keep what I need with me. ruining my clothes and not being able to get to pick out a specific replacement Everything that makes me me. All my belonging. Im just scared of not being able to be who I want to be

Going into foster home/group home

Like everything is so perfect and beautiful and I’m so sad like this is me

I am scared , Im thinking of hiding all my important stuff.

It’s a privilege 

I feel disgusting a lot of the time already and like Im slop.

I’ll be going into foster care by the end of the summer but my dcs worker hasn’t been responding to any texts I contacted someone about getting a social worker they said I’ll get one when I’m put into the system. Nobody is showing any care towards me she just said well be working on finding placement nobody’s telling me to pack my bags or preparing me for anything 

decorating.
my savings.

Freedom to watch whatever show or movie . Be by myself wear whatever I want cause I have my own room. Im being stripped of all that. And I wish I could just live where I am now where we detached from each other were just in the same house and I take care of myself practically , she gave up on me before we got to do therapy

It’s just as much her fault as it is mine.

They act like it’s all my fault. 

I really feel invisible when I’m not expressing myself Im scared of having it all taken away , im scared of feeling trapped and like there’s no autonomy.

the idea of a group home has been appealing to me cause I know there supposed to be following a strict schedule not just parenting in a personal opinion way.

I just feel like my teen years are something Im gonna have to live through but not let it mean much for the long run.

Foster care adoptions in the United States fell to 46,935 in fiscal year 2024, the lowest level since 1999 and a decline of more than twenty-six percent since 2019, even as 34,817 children who had already been legally freed for adoption remained in the system without a permanent home. The decline is not isolated to one category — total children in foster care have fallen for six consecutive years, reunification rates have dropped below fifty percent, and seventy-four percent of states are missing the twelve-to-twenty-four-month permanency benchmark established by the Adoption and Safe Families Act of 1997. Behind those numbers are documented, named cases on both sides of the ideological divide: children who died in foster placements after years of documented agency failures, and children who died after being returned to or kept with biological or kinship caregivers despite repeated warning signs that were not acted on.

I’m an adult now, and will I have stopped doing things to prepare plans (hiding & stock pilling food, finding nearby safe locations, packing págs, etc) I can’t stop making plans, and the underlying anxiety.

I’ve tried grounding techniques like 5 4 3 2 1 and the box method but it doesn’t seem completely help. I know about the underlying issues and I’m trying to deal with them, but how do other former foster kids deal with the behaviors and anxiety when it no longer needs to keep yourself safe, but it keeps effecting my life.

Dos anyone else feel stupid for making plans into adulthood, or am I just weird?

Hi! I just graduated from undergrad last month, and I really really want to go to law school (or, any master’s program).

I was in foster care in the state of Oregon and they only have the tuition waiver for undergraduate school. However, I went to school in Texas (UT Austin) and I ended up getting the whole thing paid for, thank god.
(Because I was involved in foster care in Texas but never officially under the state, I didn’t get the tuition waiver but my school + grants + scholarships paid for it. I only think this is possible because of the amount of money UT Austin has.)

Does anyone think that it is possible to go to law school / grad school for free? Will I just have to face student loans? ☹️
Majority of the grants and scholarships I have are only for undergraduate students.

Any ideas are appreciated!