r/Frat

Plan on joining (can't say the actual word since auto mod keeps taking it down) this fall and a little worried ngl. I want the brotherhood and experiences that come with being in a fraternity, but at the same time everything you hear about frat life makes it seem a bit unfriendly to us queers at times. I don’t even plan on bringing it up wherever I end up and just let them find out eventually on their own, but wanted to ask yall who either had gay brothers or are gay yourselves what it was like so I know what to expect.

Just to preface, I’m 19 going into my first year of college. reason being 2 years ago I was arrested and sat in a cell up until a few month ago when I was released. Being isolated from everyone and everything for 2 whole years completely tanked my social skills and I even lost multiple friends due to it. Now anyone I have a conversation with, whether it be a guy or a girl I seem like the most uninterested and awkward person because I have nothing to talk about or relate to. Greek life has just recently sparked my interest as something that may help me rebuild myself but I thought I’d come here for advice.

I’ve decided that I’m going to rush in the fall! There’s just one thing holding me back and it’s my parents.

Help me come up with a good sales pitch that I can give to them in order to get them on board with this.

Last year I gained a lot of weight on top of an already high weight cause of personal stuff. I’m losing it currently and already down 70 pounds, but I’m still pretty big. Been pretty self conscious about my size so I thought I’d ask other bigger dudes who joined frats if it was harder for them? I’m sure I’ll get teased and shit, but was it harder for y’all to join one? What was it like when you did? Anything you wanna share helps, my nerves are just getting to me.

For those of you who’ve already pledged, what helped you get through the process? Mine is about 16 weeks, and I’d appreciate any advice, tips, or things you wish you had known before starting.

Don't forget to check in on your brothers over the summer as some may go home to small towns where no ones around and it could be isolating, especially those with depression. There maybe some bros who cant afford to do trips etc to be mindful of to reach out too so they feel included in a way by FaceTime etc so they could be part of it. Sometimes we get so busy we forget to reach out, but staying in communication really does help everyone out.

Any advice at all would help feel free to be honest

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Large ACC school for context. I’m rushing as a sophomore in the fall this year because I didn’t rush last year. I’m living in an apartment this year that’s off campus, but it’s not super far away to the point where I’m completely isolated from the main part of campus. Will some frats care if I’m living off campus during rush or nah?

I’m in an upper middle tier frat at my school and I’m looking for advice on whether or not I should drop it. I love the brotherhood and parties but our sorority relations are not good and want it to be better. I’m also a stem major with a minor and the chapter can be quite distracting at times. We recently had a weird presidential situation where one guy stepped down for another guy to be a total dictator across all roles. He got booted but made a dent in the brotherhood. We also are moving houses. I have a role but unsure as what to do. I guess also being in a “middle” tier frat pisses me off. Thoughts?

So i’m living on campus for my first year and my school rushes in the spring so I plan to join a frat then. But, i’m planning on commuting the rest of my years of college and am wondering if that’s fine for a frat? Like live on campus while i’m pledging but for my following years when im in the frat I commute. My commute is 15 mins too.

Just got picked up from the airport. Driver was a balding chubby brown guy wearing a shirt with Sig Chi letters stitched on. Recent immigrant.

I asked him when he was in the frat and he looked at me blankly.

For context I was a KSig in college. He asked what I was talking about, and I had to explain what a frat was. I just said it was a type of college club for men and he got genuinely upset.

He spent the next 5 minutes talking in broken English about how he hates gay people. Because I said men’s club. Misunderstanding. Now we are sitting in silence.

Incoming Sophomore living in the house next year. I am extremely excited to live with my boys, but I've just heard so many horror stories of people fucking up their college careers from it. I've literally had an Uber driver last week tell me he had to drop out because living in the house fucked his GPA so bad. Does anyone have tips? I am premed and all the guys in the house are business majors so I am very worried.

Hello, how are y’all?

I’m an incoming at SMU but I am more than likely going to transfer to USC next fall.

Should I still rush or should i wait until im at USC?

Thank yall

A couple of us found out our brother was trans.

He was born female, did a bunch of test and surgeries, drank a bunch of beer. Completely indistinguishable from any other guy. He got through intense pledging without anyone knowing. And contributes a lot as an active.

We have another brother who would freak the fuck out if he knew. He’s very conservative and would immediately try to and kick him out. He’s been a complete dick to our only gay brother. I’m worried about it getting really ugly. What should we do?

I am an attorney who represents students in sexual misconduct, Title IX, and related disciplinary matters in colleges and universities. Over the past few years, I've given "Safe Sex and Student Conduct" presentations to a bunch of local fraternities.

The presentation covers how Title IX works, how university policies differ from state criminal laws, and how schools typically define concepts like consent, stalking, harassment, and sexual misconduct. I also discuss go over a few hypothetical scenarios, including what students should and should not do if they are accused or a victim.

The feedback has generally been positive, and students seem to find it practical and more useful than they expected. Plus, I can now say that I have said the word "penetration" in a frat house over 100 times.

I've been considering turning the presentation into an online course and would love some honest feedback:

1. Is this something y'all would actually watch?
2. Would chapters be interested in showing it as part of risk management or new member education?
3. Would anyone pay for it, or would it need to be free?
4. For those involved in fraternity leadership, what's the best way to reach chapters these days? I've typically emailed chapter presidents when I could find contact information online, but I'm curious whether there's a better approach.

Thanks in advance for any thoughts!

Whats up yall

I'm the Vice President of my chapter and my role focuses on overseeing committees, which basically means I oversee Rush, Socials, and Philanthropies. We're kicking off our summer rush with the classic dm's on insta and my chapters goal is 500 reachouts by the end of the summer. We were at almost 70 members but a big graduating class (re-chartered in 2021) and some drops left us now at 56. I'm at a medium-sized D1 school where the largest frat has 147 members. 56 isn't terrible, but I'd like to leave my position at 60-70+ members.

But here's a problem: Literally nobody seems to have any motivation to rush. I had to put out a $30 fine for underclassmen to reach out to 10 guys over the summer and still people didn't do it.

What's your guy's tips on cold dm'ing and motivating the member base to actually contribute and grow the chapter?