Hai!! I’m 20, from the East Coast of the US (I can be more specific once we get to know each other more). I turn 21 later this year, I work a full time job and for the moment still live with my parents which I’m really hoping to change soon. It’d be nicer if it were to happen with someone I love. I’m looking for something serious, not just something that’ll just randomly end lol.

Anyway, about me: I’m 5’2 and latina, I speak both English and Spanish. I enjoy cooking and baking a lot, especially baking. I’m just now starting to get into video games, since I recently got a whole PC. I rarely use it though, as I don’t really know which games to play or have someone to play with. I love watching movies and shows. Some of my favorite shows ever are Supernatural and Peacemaker. I really enjoy Marvel and DC. I love Spider-Man, I actually bought tickets for the upcoming movie the exact day and hour they were released XD. So I’m very excited about that, I also watched Supergirl. I can’t wait for Clayface either! I watch Anime as well, some of my favorites are Kuroko, AOT, JJK and many more.

About my appearance, I’m a bit on the chubby side however I have been going to the gym recently and the scale numbers have definitely been dropping! I have brown eyes, dark brown hair and tan skin.

My type? I like a guy who is sweet, doesn’t mind my bubbly personality. I tend to talk a lot once I’m comfortable around someone. I would really enjoy someone who doesn’t make me feel afraid of voicing my feelings. My preference for age range would be 20-25, I fear anything a bit younger or older than that isn’t really suitable for me. I won’t lie.. I have a thing for Canadians. There’s something about you guys that I absolutely adore xd.

I’m sure I have more things to talk about, so if you’re interested lmk:).

At this point, I'm starting to think online dating is just a very elaborate social experiment designed to test how many conversations a person can carry before they start charging for the service.

You know the ones? The people who claim they love talking, then contribute "haha" every six hours and somehow expect a connection to magically form around it.

Still, I'm stubborn, so here I am 😂.

I'm 31, from the UK, and fairly alternative. I've got a shaved head (longer on top), several tattoos, and enough black clothing to convince people. I'm personally responsible for keeping the colour industry in business by refusing to participate. I'm 5'4", curvy (think soft hour glass/pear shaped 😊,  live alone, and share my home with three black cats who have somehow convinced themselves they're both my children and my landlords 😂. I also have 5 tattoos and most definitely plan on getting more ! Maybe we could get matching ones... 👀🫡.

Gaming is one of my biggest hobbies! 🙌. I play on PS5 and have a terrible habit of getting distracted by side quests, exploring every corner of a map, and becoming emotionally invested in fictional characters. My game backlog has reached the point where I suspect it may gain sentience. Outside of gaming, I enjoy music, cooking, baking, random YouTube rabbit holes, and the occasional nap that starts as a quick rest and ends with me waking up confused about what year it is.

Personality-wise, I'd describe myself as affectionate, loyal, sarcastic, and the kind of person who genuinely likes talking to the people they care about. I want to hear about your day, your weird thoughts, your random achievements, and anything else you're curious about 🙂‍↕️. 

What am I looking for?

Someone kind, emotionally available, and capable of holding an actual conversation. Someone who wants a genuine connection rather than collecting half-finished chats like trading cards. I'd love to meet someone who has their life reasonably together, knows how to communicate, and doesn't disappear for days at a time without warning 👌🖤.

And I'll be honest about one thing: if you're the type of person whose entire life revolves around work, we're probably not going to be compatible. I'm looking for someone who makes time for relationships, hobbies, and enjoying life outside of their job. Physically, I'm generally attracted to men who are slightly taller than me, slim or fit, and financially stable. Not because I'm interested in anyone's bank account, but because I've already experienced relationships where I carried all the financial responsibility, and I'm not looking to repeat that 🫠.

If you're funny, that's a huge plus 🙂‍↕️, If you're a gamer, that's an even bigger plus. If you can make me laugh when I'm having a bad day, you're already ahead of most applicants. So, if you'd like to apply for the highly prestigious position of Favourite Notification, send me:

Your age, your location (UK only please), what you look like or a photo, a random fact about yourself, your favourite meal or dessert 😊. 

Preferred age range: 27-35.

And because I'm curious about who's actually reading this, include a 🍪 somewhere in your message.

Maybe this time Reddit will prove me wrong 😂.

https://vocaroo.com/ if you wanna send a voice note !

I’m not pinning this.

I’m not putting a mod label on it.

If this gets buried, it gets buried. I’m saying this as Sage.

And honestly, I’m tired.

Not tired of the community.
Not tired of building for it.
Not tired of trying to protect it.

I’m tired of the way so many people approach it.

Because I say community, and I think a lot of people still see:
“Oh, cool. Another place to drop a dating ad.”

That’s not what I wanted this to be.

This is Introverts Safe Dating.

Introverts. Safe. Dating.

Dating matters here, obviously. I’m not pretending it doesn’t. But I hate that for a lot of people, that’s the only part they see. I honestly wish I could change the name sometimes, because I think the word dating makes people skip past everything else.

This was never meant to be a free-for-all.
It was meant to help people connect.

Introverts are the focus, but anyone who wants real connection is welcome here.

The working definition I use here is simple:

>“An introvert is a person who gains energy from solitude and quiet, and finds highly stimulating environments draining.”

That is not a flaw.
That is not being broken.
That is not “socially defective.”
It just means a lot of people here want depth more than noise.

Some people here are shy.
Some struggle in person.
Some are lonely.
Some are trying again after being hurt.
Some have never really had a space where they felt comfortable being honest.

That matters to me.

And I need people to understand something else too:

I believe in people.

I really do.

Every person who posts here.
Every person who comments here.
Every person who messages me.

My first instinct is not “how do I catch this person doing wrong?”
My first instinct is usually “maybe this person can choose to do good.”

That does not mean I think everyone is harmless.
That does not mean there are no limits.
There are.

This community is not for bots.
It is not for scams.
It is not for predatory behavior.
It is not for people who want to turn vulnerability into something to take advantage of.

But I also want to say this clearly, because I think some people get weird about it:

Having NSFW history does not automatically make someone a bad person to me.

People are complicated.
People have lives outside this subreddit.
People have interests, pasts, and contradictions.

What matters more to me is how you treat people here.

Are you respectful?
Are you genuine?
Are you honest about what you want?
Do you treat people like actual human beings?

That matters more to me than pretending I can sort the whole world into “good” people and “bad” people from a profile glance.

Still, there are lines.
And when someone keeps crossing them, I will act.

That brings me to something else:

This place is not for shallow connection.

In a weird way, all of us here are trying to show people who we are and why we’re worth getting to know.

So no, I do not think “hey” is enough.
No, I do not think “DM me” is enough.
No, I do not think one-line empty replies are enough.

I understand being shy. I really do.

But if someone takes the risk to post something vulnerable here, and your whole response is “hey,” you are putting the entire weight of the connection back on them.

That is not effort.
That is not depth.
That is not kindness.

Give people something real.
A thought.
A question.
A shared interest.
Something that proves you actually saw them.

There’s a line from Castlevania I think about a lot:

>“If you kill us all, you end human cruelty, yes. But you end human kindness, too.”

That line sticks with me because this place only works if I keep believing both things are real.

Cruelty is real.
I’ve seen it.
Bad intentions are real.
I’ve seen that too.

But kindness is real too.
Effort is real.
Surprise is real.
People trying in good faith are real.

And if I stop believing that, then this place becomes nothing but defense, suspicion, and cleanup.

I don’t want that.

I want a real community.

And yes, that means sometimes I remove people permanently.

Not because they disagree with me.
Not because I expect perfection.
Not because I think I’m better than them.

But because at a certain point, someone’s pattern tells me they are making this place less safe, less genuine, and less human for everyone else.

Protecting the room matters.

I also want to say this:

I’ve had help behind the scenes from another mod, and I’m grateful for that. That person has helped me grow, challenged me, and made me better at thinking through this stuff. I’m not saying that for applause. I’m saying it because this community has changed me too.

It’s taught me that keeping people safe is hard.

Not just because there are bad actors.
But because people will say “there’s a problem here” and then never actually give us what we need to respond.

So I need to say this as plainly as I can:

I cannot help people who will not let me help them.

If someone sends you creepy DMs, sexually pushes on you, gets manipulative, gets aggressive, or makes you uncomfortable, and you never tell us, then I do not know.

I cannot see your private messages.
I cannot act on something I never receive.
I cannot investigate a ghost.

If all I get is:
“there are weirdos here”
but no usernames, no screenshots, no report, no modmail,
then I’m swinging at shadows.

And I don’t want to do that.
I want to actually help.

I have removed posts.
I have removed comments.
I have banned users.
I have also tried to teach people when I thought they were ignorant instead of malicious.

But I can only respond to what I know.

So please, report things.
Please send screenshots when something happens in DMs.
Please use modmail.
Please do not assume silence means we don’t care.

I also wish the Discussion, Advice, Question, and Success Story flairs got used more.

I mean that.

Because I don’t want this place to just be a board people throw ads onto and disappear from.
I want people asking for advice.
I want people talking.
I want people learning.
I want people sharing what worked.
I want actual community.

I’m not asking anyone here to be perfect.
I’m not asking anyone to be super confident.
I’m not asking anyone to magically know the right words every time.

I’m asking people to try.

Try to be real.
Try to be kind.
Try to put in the same effort you hope someone gives back to you.

That is what I want this place to be.

Not just another dating subreddit.

A community.

Age: 25
Gender: Female
Location/time zone: Texas (CST)
Looking for: A genuine connection that can grow into a relationship. I'd love to meet someone kind, communicative, and emotionally mature who is looking for something meaningful.
Open to long-distance?: Yes
I enjoy quiet nights in and meaningful one-on-one conversations over crowded social events.
Interests: Cooking, documentaries, reading, movies and TV shows, true crime content, and working on my health journey.
Favorite quiet activity: Cooking a new recipe while listening to a documentary or podcast, then relaxing with a good show afterward.
Conversation starters: What's the most interesting documentary you've watched recently? What's your signature dish? What can you absolutely yap about for hours without getting bored?
Boundaries: Looking for respectful conversations and genuine effort. Prefer people around 22–25 years old. Friendship first, then seeing where things go naturally.

Hi! I'm a 25-year-old Mexican woman from Texas looking to meet someone who appreciates the quieter side of life.
I'm plus-size and currently focused on becoming healthier and feeling my best. It's an important part of my life right now, and I'd love to meet someone who is supportive, kind, and working toward their own goals too.
When I'm not working, you'll usually find me watching documentaries, trying new recipes in the kitchen, or enjoying a cozy night at home. I'm naturally introverted, but once I'm comfortable with someone, I can talk for hours about random facts, interesting stories, and whatever topic has captured my attention that week.
I'm hoping to find someone who values communication, consistency, and getting to know each other beyond surface-level conversations. Physical attraction matters, but personality, effort, and compatibility matter even more to me.
If any of this sounds like your kind of person, send me a message and tell me: What’s the one topic you can yap about for hours without running out of things to say? 😊

p.s. i’m more interested in having conversations about anything and you’re more than welcome to double or quadruple message me! don’t be dry or weird! 🙂

Hi everyone, my name is Retro and I’ve been quietly scrolling through this community for a bit and finally gathered the courage to put myself out here.

I’m a 30-year-old introvert living in Germany, and I’m looking to find a genuine, meaningful connection with someone who understands the beauty of a quiet life.

Right now, I’m in a very slow, low-energy chapter of my life, so I’m really looking for something that feels safe, gentle, and free of pressure. I’m much more at home in a comfortable, quiet room than out in a crowd.

I like gaming and really love fantasy themes, farming simulators, and cozy RPGs. When I have the energy, I also love creative writing, text-based roleplay, and working on small, patient crafts like hand-sewing.

What I’m looking for:

I’d love to find someone kind, patient, and understanding. You don’t need to be a master conversationalist, if you get social exhaustion or sometimes don't know what to say, you are in safe company here. We can start with slow text messages, share random tiny thoughts about our day, or just be a quiet support system for one another.

If you're looking for a safe harbor and a soft place to land, I’d love to hear from you. Please feel free to send a message and tell me a little bit about what a comfortable day looks like for you.

I only have one request: be gentle

​

Hi!

I'm an 18-year-old girl from India, 5'8", and probably the kind of person who looks quiet at first but can spend hours talking once I feel comfortable around someone.

I've always found that the best connections start as friendships. There's something special about getting to know someone without pressure, sharing pieces of your life, and slowly becoming a safe place for each other. So while I'm open to something more if the chemistry is there, my priority is building a genuine friendship first.

A little about me:

📚 I love reading, especially when a book leaves me thinking about it long after I've finished it.

✍️ I write poetry. Sometimes it's happy, sometimes it's emotional, and sometimes it's just my way of making sense of the world.

🎵 Music is a huge part of my life. You'll usually find me listening to something, singing along terribly, or discovering songs that instantly become part of my personality.

💃 I enjoy dancing, even if nobody's watching.

I'm the type of person who appreciates meaningful conversations. Tell me about your dreams, your weird hobbies, the song you've had on repeat for three weeks, or the random thought that kept you awake at 2 AM. I genuinely enjoy learning about people.

What I'm looking for:

• Someone around my age (18-24 preferred)

• Kind, respectful, and emotionally mature

• Able to hold a conversation and put in mutual effort

• Open to friendship first and seeing where things naturally go

• Someone who values honesty and communication

A few things worth mentioning:

• I don't mind exchanging pictures once we're both comfortable and have built some trust.

• I prefer quality conversations over one-word replies.

• I can be shy initially, but that usually doesn't last very long with the right person.

If you decide to message me, please tell me a little about yourself instead of just saying "hi." I'd love to know your age, where you're from, your hobbies, and something you're passionate about.

Looking forward to meeting some fellow introverts and seeing where a conversation might lead. 🌸

hi I'm from India, i like watching movies and series, reading, drawing, writing, walking, anime, nature.

there are so many mediocre things in our lives love shouldn't be one of them

Distance doesn't matter

so looking for some yearning passionate love for the rest of my life

I watch marvel movies as well, almost watch everything mostly romantic and horror, I like to draw, and write poems and poetry,

about me, I'm hopeless romantic,I'm 5'6, average body, hairy, black eyes,

I'm looking for deep conversations, emotional connection, emotional intelligence, great understanding, a nice romantic guy. to be with as long as we live, I'm not picky in to looks but might be picky into personality, outer beauty will fade with age not inner. so probably would like a guy who respects, make each other priorities

I like hairy mature guys, not into guys younger than me, guys who can hold a conversation and know how to treat someone they love, I'll try my best to keep them happy as well

if anything interests you hmu, hope you are having a great day

Hi there! I’m looking for a kind man to build a peaceful life with.

I’m loyal, thoughtful, intuitive, and drawn to connection that is genuine and intentional with a little bit of sarcasm and wit mixed in. I love when the conversation flows easily and I can really connect with someone on a deeper level. I have a big appreciation for the simple and peaceful things in life like listening to the rain, watching a beautiful sunset, or having a cozy evening at home. Some of my favorite things are reading historical fiction, hunting for treasures in antique shops, interior design, and spending time with my sweet little dog and opinionated cat.

I'm Christian, politically conservative and looking for someone with the same or similar beliefs and views. Living for the glory of God shapes everything for me and Christ is the foundation of my life.

I feel a strong calling to consider adoption in the future, but I'm open to the Lord's leading and if you don’t want kids I wouldn’t consider that a dealbreaker. I have peace with whatever God wants to do with my life.

I have a physical health condition that causes muscle weakness, but I’m living a full and joyful life. I don’t mind sharing more about this over DMs. I have blonde hair, green eyes, and I’m about 5 feet tall. I’m willing to exchange photos after a bit of talking.

Above all, I want to live a God glorifying life that is fully surrendered in faith to Jesus Christ. I would love to meet someone who desires to walk together in this, someone who values a Christ centered relationship and wants to pursue a life built on kindness, honesty, and intentionality. Someone who likes to laugh and be silly together, and someone who wants to prioritize studying the Bible and prayer together. I want to be someone’s best friend and biggest supporter in life. I’m open to long distance within the US if you’re open to relocating to sunny Florida at some point. I would be up for a no pressure conversation with anyone between 30-48 that this might resonate with.

Hello there! I guess I should start by saying a little about me. My name is Maria, 24, Mexican, 5’4, black hair and dark brown eyes and plus size/fat.
I’m quite introverted and I have social anxiety, so it’s very difficult for me to meet and talk to people. I believe this is the best way to try and put myself out there.
Some of the things I enjoy are puzzles, swimming, even though I don’t really know how to swim but I love to be in a pool. I recently got into baking which is definitely not going the way I expected but I’m trying.
I’m looking for something serious and monogamous. Someone respectful, who isn’t afraid of showing his feelings and can communicate openly about anything. I prefer someone between 24-29. I have never been in a relationship before, so everything is new for me.

[F38] Portugal | writer, reader, nerd, introverted chaos gremlin with a structured life

Porto-based, Geneva-raised, perpetually between places and languages. French, Portuguese, English, think in all three at once and belong fully to none of them.

I have ADHD, so conversations jump. That's not chaos, that's just me. If you need linear exchanges you'll find me exhausting. If you don't mind the detours, the detours are usually the best part. Once I'm comfortable, I will talk for days. Literally.

I write across genres, dark fiction, autofiction, literary thriller, fantasy. I translate literature. I make music, bass, guitar, vocals, and I mean that seriously. I collect LPs and still make mixtapes, completely unashamed. I read obsessively, in originals when I can. I shoot film and digital, nature and historical places mostly. I cook properly and eat without apology. I grow things. I go to medieval fairs not as a social experiment.

I'm into history broadly, Egyptian, Greek and Celtic mythology specifically, the Morrigan in particular. Fantasy Literature. Morally grey everything. Music runs from medieval folk to grunge to metal with a lot of stops in between. Black Sabbath. Pantera. Alice in Chains. Soundgarden. Tool. Dead Can Dance. Lankum etc

Mom. My life is structured around that. Limited bandwidth for people who skim.

Looking for friendship first, something real if it gets there. Long distance is fine.

DM me something that proves you read this. Not "hey."

Edit: I will NOT answer thirsty comments.

I'm someone who loves films, art, nature, and quiet days. I'm more of an introvert, but I really value deep conversations, kindness, and a good sense of humor.

Life hasn't exactly gone the way I'd hoped, and dating has been pretty much nonexistent for me. I'm not looking for anything rushed, just someone who'd like to get to know each other, chat about everyday life, share movie recommendations, and see where things go.

If you're kind, emotionally mature, and looking for something genuine rather than casual, feel free to send me a message and tell me a little about yourself.

Poll: Should we add optional user flairs?

While reading through the feedback on my recent post asking what features everyone would like to see, one suggestion that caught my attention was optional user flairs.

The idea isn't finalized by any means, so before I spend time building anything, I'd rather ask the community what you actually want.

Here are a few ideas I've been considering:

- 🌍 Broad location (Europe, North America, Asia, etc.)

- 🎯 Intent (Dating, Friendship, Conversation, Gaming, etc.)

- 🎮 Hobbies & Interests (Gaming, Reading, Music, Art, etc.)

- 💬 DM Preferences (DMs Open, Comment First, etc.)

- 🚫 I'd rather not have user flairs.

A couple of notes:

- These would be completely optional.

- I'm not considering exact locations or anything that would compromise someone's privacy.

- The goal would be to make it a little easier for people to find common ground and start conversations—not to turn ISD into a dating app with labels everywhere.

The poll only allows one vote, so pick the option you think would add the most value.

As always, if you have an idea that isn't listed, I'd love to hear it in the comments.

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A quick look behind the scenes

Most members only see the posts and comments that make it through.

What you usually do not see is everything that gets filtered, removed, reviewed, or stopped before it reaches the community.

Over the last 30 days, this subreddit has had:

• 936 posts/comments published
• 575 posts/comments removed**
• 38 items filtered by Reddit safety filters
• 156 posts removed
• 4 reported items

I am sharing this because I want the community to understand two things:

1. Moderation is active here.
2. Low-effort behavior is not accepted here.

Bots, scams, NSFW content, spam, suspicious links, low-effort comments, and rule-breaking posts are not being ignored. A lot of it simply gets handled before most members ever see it.

Low effort is still low effort

This is an introvert-focused community. We understand shyness. We understand nervousness. We understand that not everyone knows how to start a conversation easily.

But comments like:

• “hi”
• “hey”
• “DM me”
• “can I DM?”
• “message me”
• “your DMs don’t work, DM me”
• “add my Discord/Snap/Instagram”

are usually not real conversation.

If someone took the time to write a post about themselves, they deserve more than a drive-by comment. You do not have to write a perfect message, but you do need to show basic effort.

A better comment could be as simple as:

>Hey, I liked what you said about gaming and horror movies. I’m also into those. What have you been playing lately?

That is not complicated. It is just human.

Moving off Reddit too quickly is a red flag

This does not mean people can never exchange Discord, Instagram, Snapchat, or other contact information.

If two people have already started talking and naturally decide to move elsewhere, that is their choice.

What we do not want is people immediately trying to pull others off Reddit before any real conversation has happened.

That behavior is common with scammers, bots, NSFW accounts, and people who are not here in good faith.

So if your entire comment is basically “add me somewhere else,” do not be surprised if it gets removed.

“DM me” is not always bad

Context matters.

If someone writes a thoughtful post and ends with “DMs open,” that is usually fine.

If someone writes a thoughtful comment and says “feel free to DM me if you want to talk more,” that can be fine too.

The problem is when “DM me” is the whole interaction.

There is a big difference between inviting conversation and avoiding conversation.

AutoModerator is intentionally cautious

AutoModerator is not perfect.

Sometimes it catches exactly what it should. Sometimes it misses something. Sometimes it filters something innocent because it matched a pattern commonly used by bad actors.

That can be frustrating, but it is intentional.

I would rather manually approve a genuine post than leave harmful content visible for everyone else.

The goal is not to remove as much as possible. The goal is to keep the community comfortable enough that genuine people can post, comment, and connect without constantly running into bots, scams, NSFW spam, harassment, or lazy copy-paste behavior.

If your post or comment is removed

If you believe something was removed by mistake, send Modmail.

Please do not repeatedly repost the same thing. That can make your account look like spam or rule-circumvention, even if that was not your intention.

A simple message is enough:

>Hi, I think my post/comment may have been removed by mistake. Could someone review it?

If you are here in good faith, we would much rather help fix the issue than push you away.

What this community is trying to be

This subreddit is not meant to be a low-effort DM farm.

It is not meant to be a place where people spam the same message everywhere and hope someone responds.

It is not meant to be a place where users are treated like profiles to collect.

The goal is genuine connection: dating, friendship, conversation, shared interests, support, and community.

You do not have to be perfect. You do not have to be the most confident person here. You do not have to write a novel.

But you do need to be respectful, genuine, and willing to put in basic effort.

Thank you to everyone who posts thoughtfully, comments respectfully, reports suspicious behavior, and helps keep this community different from the usual dating/friendship spaces online.

You may not always see the moderation happening, but it is happening.

Gosh I’ve not done one of these in a long time but I’ll keep it short. I’m always down for a chat and I enjoy learning about people (studying to become a psychologist) and love listening to someone talk about something they’re passionate about, gets me just as excited!

I’ve been told I’m a bit of a golden retriever haha So if you’re after that kind of golden retriever energy hit me up!

Look forward to meeting some cool peeps ^^

Age: 25
Gender: Female
Location/time zone: Texas (CST)
Looking for: A genuine connection that can grow into a relationship. I'd love to meet someone kind, communicative, and emotionally mature who is looking for something meaningful.
Open to long-distance?: Yes
I enjoy quiet nights in and meaningful one-on-one conversations over crowded social events.
Interests: Cooking, documentaries, reading, movies and TV shows, true crime content, and working on my health journey.
Favorite quiet activity: Cooking a new recipe while listening to a documentary or podcast, then relaxing with a good show afterward.
Conversation starters: What's the most interesting documentary you've watched recently? What's your signature dish? What can you absolutely yap about for hours without getting bored?
Boundaries: Looking for respectful conversations and genuine effort. Prefer people around 22–25 years old. Friendship first, then seeing where things go naturally.

Hi! I'm a 25-year-old Mexican woman from Texas looking to meet someone who appreciates the quieter side of life.
I'm plus-size and currently focused on becoming healthier and feeling my best. It's an important part of my life right now, and I'd love to meet someone who is supportive, kind, and working toward their own goals too.
When I'm not working, you'll usually find me watching documentaries, trying new recipes in the kitchen, or enjoying a cozy night at home. I'm naturally introverted, but once I'm comfortable with someone, I can talk for hours about random facts, interesting stories, and whatever topic has captured my attention that week.
I'm hoping to find someone who values communication, consistency, and getting to know each other beyond surface-level conversations. Physical attraction matters, but personality, effort, and compatibility matter even more to me.
If any of this sounds like your kind of person, send me a message and tell me: What’s the one topic you can yap about for hours without running out of things to say? 😊

p.s. i’m more interested in having conversations about anything and you’re more than welcome to double or quadruple message me! don’t be dry 🙂

Hello,

I’m looking for something real a serious, monogamous relationship with a man who has his priorities straight and is ready to build something meaningful. If you’re just browsing or “seeing what’s out there,” this probably isn’t for you.

A little about me:
I’m a 27 yo black woman of faith who values family, growth, and genuine connection. I take relationships seriously and believe a strong foundation starts with shared values. I’m goal-oriented, emotionally grounded, and looking for a partner not a project.

What I’m looking for:

**• A believer** :someone whose faith is part of how he actually lives, not just a label
**• Emotionally intelligent** :self-aware, communicates openly, handles conflict like an adult
**• Goal-oriented** :knows where he’s headed and is actively working toward it
**• Stable** :financially responsible with a steady income
**• Takes care of himself** :physically active and health-conscious
**• Between 27–32** :though the right person matters more than the number

What I offer:
A woman who’s serious, loyal, and invested. Someone who communicates, shows up, and wants to grow alongside her partner not ahead of or behind him.

Logistics:
EU/ USA / open to long distance

I’m happy to start with a conversation and take things at a natural pace. If this resonates with you, introduce yourself tell me a little about who you are, not just what you do.

DMs open. Serious inquiries only.

Hey! I’m Raine (19, they/them). I'm looking for a guy who wants to build something real and meaningful over time; definitely not looking for hookups. Distance isn't a big deal to me, so I'm totally open to getting to know someone from anywhere!

A bit about me: I draw, I love music, and I’m a massive fan of story-driven stuff (Doctor Who, OMORI, Persona, Deltarune, Hazbin Hotel, Helluva Boss, TADC, Breaking Bad/Better Call Saul, and I actually just started House MD). I absolutely love hearing people ramble about the things they're passionate about, whether it's character analysis, worldbuilding, or breaking down a narrative.

I'm big on taking things at a comfortable pace and actually communicating. Also, I heavily prefer voice calls over endless texting once we get to know each other a bit; I make a much better dedicated co-pilot when we can actually hang out on call!

If we sound like a match, send me a message with a little intro and tell me about a piece of media you could talk about for hours.

Hi!
Im a 21 year old black woman from the east coast USA looking for someone to chat with and hopefully work towards a long term relationship! I love love and everything about romance—the giddy feelings, the sweet texts, all of it.

I have soo many interest. Even though I am a bit awkward or shy at first I can talk about almost anything. I love silly memes, pop culture, religion, debates, and world cultures/foreign languages. I am currently learning French and Spanish. My dream is to travel the world with my partner. My dream job is a diplomat!

I also love animals we can exchange pics of our pets 🐈🐈‍⬛🦮

Physically I’m pretty tall 5’10 / 177 cm and slim/average body type.

I would like someone 21-26 preferably in the USA, if you’re outside the country please consider the challenges of a LDR before reaching out!

I hope this gives you a good idea of me excuse the grammar it’s 1 am haha don’t hesitate to reach out if we could be a good fit :)