r/January2025Bumper

Hi! My January 2025 baby is just over 17 months and my husband and I are leaning toward being OAD. We LOVE our daughter and we have been surprised at how content we feel as a family of three! We both work full time and have started getting back into our hobbies and spending time together as a couple. I truly feel like we hit the jackpot with our baby girl and I love being a mom.

I feel conflicted about being OAD because I always thought we would have two children. My husband and I are both very close with our siblings and she will not have any cousins close in age, so I feel unsure about deciding not to expand our family. On the other hand, it’s important to us that she has a well-rounded childhood, filled with sports/activities and opportunities to travel regularly as a family, which would become more challenging financially if we were to have another child.

I feel like I’m mourning the life I expected us to have even though I love, love, love our little family of three.

Anyone else feeling similarly? I just wanted to put this out there to see if any others within this community might be on the fence about being OAD!

We took our 17m to the dentist yesterday and found out she has 4 cavities, the first four teeth in the upper jaw. Our little girl eats such a healthy diet, no processed or added sugars EVER, and we are pretty good about brushing his teeth (non-fluoride paste though as per doctor’s advise).

We cosleep and I breastfeed her before bedtime and when she wakes up, as well as throughout the night.

Our dentist has asked us to proceed with SDF application This is upsetting since it’s the front four teeth, and the application would turn her teeth black permanently. I feel so distressed especially as a mother I feel I’ve failed her. If anyone has had similar experiences, please do share.

My baby has recently become very aggressive! He will scratch my face or chest and pull my hair super hard and poke my eye. I don’t even know why. He’s not angry or frustrated , he just laughs and gives me a cuddle and a kiss and then pull my hair so hard he takes a lot of strands in his fist. Or we’re playing pointing at things and naming, and then he points at my nose or my eye and scratches my face.

It’s not only towards me, he also does the same to his father or his brother, which sucks even more. I scold him and tell him NO! And he may cry a bit but does it again in a little while. It’s driving me crazy! It’s so painful.

This morning I was bent down (I don’t even remember why), and his dad tried handing him to me before I was ready. He had a bad form while passing him over, so he accidentally knocked me over with the baby. Thankfully, he realized I didn’t have him and caught him right as I fumbled the baby.

I stayed on the ground rubbing my ankle, kind of laughing it off, but my baby didn’t laugh. He stayed Stoic, looking concerned, and started walking toward me to check on me and touch me.

I’ve been thinking about it all day because it felt so strange—in the sweetest way. It was the first time I’d ever seen my baby worry about my well-being. 🤍

My girl is just over 17 months. (First time mom, so I also have no idea what I'm doing haha)

We have several board books in our rotation that discuss potty training, and she has taken a real interest in it. She follows me into the bathroom when I'm using the toilet and says "pee potty," "poop potty," "byebye pee," and "byebye poop" in correct situations. She has also been announcing "pee" and "poop" a few minutes before going in her diaper (not always, but often). However, after she goes, she has never seemed uncomfortable with the sensation or sought me out to intentionally get her diaper changed. She sometimes wakes up dry from naps, but I haven't really tracked the length of time that she's dry on a day-to-day basis.

This week we bought a toddler potty just to have around the house for her to explore and get used to it. Yesterday she said "pee" several times and insisted on sitting on the potty. She didn't actually pee in the potty, but she sat on it for 20min while we read books about potty training. When I got her in a fresh diaper and dressed because I had to do some other things around the house, she sat back down on the potty (fully clothed) and continued flipping through the books on her own.

I have next week off work, so I guess we're going to give pull-ups a try and see if she really wants to use the potty. I'm not planning to do any intensive potty training at this stage, just follow her lead and let her use the potty if and when she wants to.

Our daycare and family/friends keep telling me that it's far too early for potty training... But if I go into this without putting any pressure or expectations on her, I don't see how there's any harm in following my daughter's lead and letting her use the potty when she wants to.

Anyone else here with a kid that took an interest in potty training so early? If it was with a sibling who is now older, how did it work out?

Kid (January2025 baby) has officially started climbing out of his crib, so I guess it’s time to transition him to a toddler bed or floor bed… problem is 17 months feels so young for this!

I’m worried he won’t understand the concept of staying in bed when he can just get up whenever he wants 🫠
To make things more challenging, we’re not at a point where sleep is completely solid yet. We still have challenging bedtime protests, occasional night wakings and early morning wakes, so I’m worried that giving him free access to his room is going to make all of that even harder.

As if that wasn’t enough, he also just figured out how to open doors with lever handles, which means that either we block the door of his room somehow or he’ll have access to the whole house unsupervised (which i don’t feel comfortable with at this age)

Has anyone else been in this situation this early? How did the transition go? Did your toddler actually stay in bed, or was it total chaos at first?
Any tips for making the transition smoother or keeping everyone safe? I’d love to hear what’s worked

Anyone else with a low sleep needs kiddo? My 17 mo has been fighting his nap for weeks. It is causing bedtime to get pushed later and later, which was a sign we needed to drop naps before. But I️ don’t know what to do if it’s his only nap! I’m not ready to drop his last nap!

Anyone else in this boat already? Or anyone have any advice on how to go about the one to no nap transition?

Are y’all using fluoride toothpaste with your toddlers? I feel like doctors and dentists all say use fluoride but then every single toothpaste with fluoride says 2+ so I’m not sure… my girl still sucks on the toothbrush if I give her an inch.

What's everyones bedtime routine? I've been behind on dropping bottles and have finally thrown them all out (to stop my own temptation) but can't quite figure out when to give milk before bed.

Currently routine:

Bath + brush teeth
Bottle while we put on PJs and read a book
Cuddles for 5min then into crib

Leaving the room to brush teeth after books feels like it will excite him, should we do milk before bath??

Anyone going through a sleep regression? Maybe the 18 mo regression earlier? My daughter just turned 17 mo. Over the past few weeks, she’s been reasonably okay with sleep, just a brief wake up and back to bed within like 30 seconds. Able to fall back asleep and stay asleep if lie with her for a few minutes.

Tonight, she will not let me leave the room. She sleeps, I wait it out next to her, I leave, she notices, cries. Been doing this cycle for almost 2 hr now. I’m just laying on the floor just waiting for her to get in a deep sleep where she doesn’t notice me getting up.

Reminds me of a sleep regression we had many months ago, I forgot which one

Does anyone find themselves thinking to themselves how much they just don’t like being a mom most days? The tantrums have become out of this world, food refusal all of a sudden, same thing day in and day out, the constant climbing all over me then somehow managing to bite or pull hair. It’s like nothing I do seems to click to this kid that we don’t pull hair or bite, he just does not give a F. My husband works a lot/ travels for work often- so it’s really just me 80% of the time, especially during the week. I’m a first time mom, I feel guilty I feel this way but I am just burnt out from all ends. 😥