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My 17 mo old daughter is very sweet, very friendly and loves older kids. Over the last month, she’s starting to grab though, she will grab at their clothes, their items, their food, their face. I remove her every time she does this and tell her “we can say hi but we can’t touch.” She only really does this with kids older than 3.

Her dad is the stay at home dad. I asked him today if she does this with him at the park and he says yeah of course! And then I ask if he removes her when she touches other kids, even if the kid doesn’t seem to mind. And he says “of course not.” I tell him he should remove her and tell her not to touch
because not every kid will like it. Also, to create consistency and habits.

To be fair, he’s at the park all the time with her during the weekday when it’s probably mostly younger kids and I’m with her when there’s a bunch of older kids. So he’s probably not seeing it to the same extent that I do.

Any advice? I’m a first time mom and just don’t know. I am removing her every second it seems when I go to the park with her now.

My 17 mo old daughter is very sweet, very friendly and loves older kids. Over the last month, she’s starting to grab though, she will grab at their clothes, their items, their food, their face. I remove her every time she does this and tell her “we can say hi but we can’t touch.” She only really does this with kids older than 3.

Her dad is the stay at home dad. I asked him today if she does this with him at the park and he says yeah of course! And then I ask if he removes her when she touches other kids, even if the kid doesn’t seem to mind. And he says “of course not.” I tell him he should remove her and tell her not to touch
because not every kid will like it. Also, to create consistency and habits.

To be fair, he’s at the park all the time with her during the weekday when it’s probably mostly younger kids and I’m with her when there’s a bunch of older kids. So he’s probably not seeing it to the same extent that I do.

Any advice? I’m a first time mom and just don’t know. I am removing her every second it seems when I go to the park with her now.

I feel like my daughter really quickly learned so many words, like 40 in a span of a month but she’s slowing down a little. Is this how speech progression goes? Feel like I wasn’t even expecting it and all of a sudden she has real words but now that I’m paying attention I think it’s slowed down.

She has maybe 25 words she uses very well, like if we are at a store she’ll point to an apple and say apple. No, mama, dada, more, up, help, baby, all done, ball, dog, hi, bye, ear, nose, mouth, cheek, eye, star, water, tail, shoe, ball, banana, yes. Like these are the ones she says constantly and daily.

Then the rest are animal sounds or things like knock knock, ah choo, hop hop hop etc.

And then the rest are stuff I have to point to and ask her “what’s this” (but without saying the word, I def don’t count if she’s just imitating). Usually she says what the thing is but sometimes not. Or stuff she says consistently but not often

So really maybe it’s just 25 words she knows?

Update: she’s using her hands normally again. Think she was just scared and hesitant. But she’s picking things up, throwing balls around. Looks like she’ll be ok

My daughter 17 months had an apparent injury during swim last night (dad was in the pool, I was watching) and started crying in the pool and holding her wrist. Went to see urgent care last night and had a normal xray. They were not able to move the arm to pop any ligaments back in so I guess unlikely to be nursemaids elbow?

She whimpers at time when I lightly touch her right hand/arm, for example when I drsssed her. She is able to use her right arm to occasionally point, lightly hold an item or put her both arms up if asked but only once. She asks me for help getting up.

But typically if I say arms up, she only put her left arm up and I asked her to put right arm, she said no. I asked her if it hurts and she said yes. She is in good spirits this morning otherwise.

I called the pediatrician this morning and waiting for a call back. Her dad thinks this is not a big deal.

Looking to see if anyone has had similar experiences

Update: she’s using her hands normally again. Think she was just scared and hesitant. But she’s picking things up, throwing balls around. Looks like she’ll be ok

My daughter 17 months had an apparent injury during swim last night (dad was in the pool, I was watching) and started crying in the pool and holding her wrist. Went to see urgent care last night and had a normal xray. They were not able to move the arm to pop any ligaments back in so I guess unlikely to be nursemaids elbow?

She whimpers at time when I lightly touch her right hand/arm, for example when I drsssed her. She is able to use her right arm to occasionally point, lightly hold an item or put her both arms up if asked but only once. She asks me for help getting up.

But typically if I say arms up, she only put her left arm up and I asked her to put right arm, she said no. I asked her if it hurts and she said yes. She is in good spirits this morning otherwise.

I called the pediatrician this morning and waiting for a call back. Her dad thinks this is not a big deal.

Looking to see if anyone has had similar experiences

My daughter 17 months had an apparent injury during swim last night (dad was in the pool, I was watching) and started crying in the pool and holding her wrist. Went to see urgent care last night and had a normal xray. They were not able to move the arm to pop any ligaments back in so I guess unlikely to be nursemaids elbow?

She whimpers at time when I lightly touch her right hand/arm, for example when I drsssed her. She is able to use her right arm to occasionally point, lightly hold an item or put her both arms up if asked but only once. She asks me for help getting up.

But typically if I say arms up, she only put her left arm up and I asked her to put right arm, she said no. I asked her if it hurts and she said yes. She is in good spirits this morning otherwise.

I called the pediatrician this morning and waiting for a call back. Her dad thinks this is not a big deal.

Looking to see if anyone has had similar experiences

My 17 mo old was at swim class with her dad (I was watching them) and she started crying and holding her hand/wrist. Her dad said they were doing a movement and she didn’t like it and started crying (that’s when I noticed she was holding her hand and crying).

A couple hours later, she is not using that hand normally. She was able to play and manipulate a strawberry with both hands to eat it bc she really likes strawberries. But she won’t hold onto anything else I give her with that hand.

I took her to pediatric urgent care. Took an x ray, x ray looked fine, bones looked fine etc.,, they said it could be nursemaids elbow, tried to pop it but nothing happened so I guess it’s not that. Basically they gave her Motrin and said to wait until tmrw and reassess.

We got home and she was reluctantly using the hand again to point and stuff and hold stuff but still much preferring the other hand. I am still nervous about this because I have anxiety and tend to think the worst.

Would love to know if anyone has similar experiences

I always see her with her kid in a covered stroller. One day as I was walking by with my own toddler, I saw that kid’s leg poke out and felt so bad and gave them a $20.

Does anyone know what their situation is? Feel so bad for the kiddo. She seemed older than toddler though judging by the size of her leg but it was hard to tell.

Anyone going through a sleep regression? Maybe the 18 mo regression earlier? My daughter just turned 17 mo. Over the past few weeks, she’s been reasonably okay with sleep, just a brief wake up and back to bed within like 30 seconds. Able to fall back asleep and stay asleep if lie with her for a few minutes.

Tonight, she will not let me leave the room. She sleeps, I wait it out next to her, I leave, she notices, cries. Been doing this cycle for almost 2 hr now. I’m just laying on the floor just waiting for her to get in a deep sleep where she doesn’t notice me getting up.

Reminds me of a sleep regression we had many months ago, I forgot which one

My almost 17 mo old daughter thankfully doesn’t really bite or hit or throw things too much, but she’s got the flailing and wailing down. It has definitely escalated and 90% of the time it’s when she doesn’t get something she wants, like the raw chicken or my keys.

She will wail and flail dramatically to the ground. It’s actually super funny but when I have my hands full or if we are in public in a restaurant or something, it’s not ideal. Usually I just take her outside if we are in a restaurant. At home, I just say no and try to redirect and stay calm. Sometimes I unfortunately give in. Her tantrums often sound like she’s in pain and I get nervous which I guess is why I give in.

I’ve heard things about firm hugs or squeezing legs to regulate. Wondering if that works for anyone, or if there are other tactics out there.

Sometimes I feel like I’m being mean when I say no. I was raised by really critical and harsh parents so it’s possible I go overboard to not be like that. Even at 17 months, I’m finding the transition from “can’t spoil a newborn” to “disciplining a toddler” a little tough

What are we doing for tantrums? My daughter thankfully doesn’t really bite or hit or throw things too much, but she’s got the flailing and wailing down. It has definitely escalated and 90% of the time it’s when she doesn’t get something she wants, like the raw chicken or my keys. The keys especially, it’s to the point where I’m terrified of her seeing me lock the door because she will go nuts over the keys.

She will wail and flail dramatically to the ground. It’s actually super funny but when I have my hands full or if we are in public in a restaurant or something, it’s not ideal. Usually I just take her outside if we are in a restaurant. At home, I just say no and try to redirect and stay calm. Sometimes I unfortunately give in. Her tantrums often sound like she’s in pain and I get nervous which I guess is why I give in.

I’ve heard things about firm hugs or squeezing legs to regulate. Wondering if that works for anyone, or if there are other tactics out there.

Sometimes I feel like I’m being mean when I say no. I was raised by really critical and harsh parents so it’s possible I go overboard to not be like that. Even at 17 months, I’m finding the transition from “can’t spoil a newborn” to “disciplining a toddler” a little tough

Edit: today I let her just have her meltdown while just sitting next to her trying to soothe with words and she started hyperventilating. Is this normal??

My almost 17 mo daughter hasn’t slept through the night in what feels like forever. I am lucky though that she usually wakes up briefly and falls right back asleep if I come into the room and lay on the floor next to her.

She wakes usually twice - around midnight is the first wake and that’s fine because I tend to go to bed late. But it’s the second early early morning wake up am that hurts. If I don’t come in, she will continue crying. She’s not sleep trained - prior to this, aside from a brief regression or two, she’s always been a great sleeper.

This seems to coincide with a language explosion. Lots of new words. Is this actually related? I’d love to hear if anyone else experienced the same. During this early morning wake ups, I tell myself, this is a GOOD thing, she is just learning a lot, but I don’t know if I’m being delusional and it’s just one of those “if your baby puts their head between their legs, you’re pregnant” things.

It might make me feel a little better if this was the case haha because honestly I’m kinda worried about sleep and if I actually need to sleep train (I don’t want to) her bc I am tired.

I’ve been wondering about autism/ADHD/ND in general for my daughter since we have a family history of ADHD. These days I’m not so much worried from a place of fear as much as I am curious and want to know if I need to do anything to help her, or if this is more just developmentally typical for age

So she meets all her milestones, scores a 0 on the Mchat, though index finger pointed slightly “late” just before 14 mo. She has many gestures, has 40ish words, understands a lot, imitates well, good joint attention, follows instructs however….

She elopes these days. Or maybe I’m not understanding what eloping means. We were at the playground today and she ran off when the gate was open and into the sidewalk. I always fear she’ll go on the street and I won’t catch her in time.

She will do this sometimes in stores too, but usually she will come to me if someone approaches her (like just a random person walking by). I am always keeping my eye on her but again, what if one day I don’t?

As for the grabbing kids, she only seems to grab older kids. Kids her age she plays with age appropriately though she can be hesitant and shy at first. I’ve learned that telling her “it’s okay to be shy, we can go when you’re ready” or “mommy will come with you if you want” will really help her.

But it’s just such a stark contrast to how she interacts with older kids. She will see a kid on a playground, beeline towards them and start grabbing on their clothes and face. The other day she grabbed a girl’s nose and said “nose.” This is probably my fault since I let her touch my nose to teach her “nose” and stuff.

I have a feeling she’ll have an autism or adhd diagnosis sometime in the future, if only because of those two reasons but mostly due to family history. Was wondering if anyone here has any thoughts or similar experience. And again, I do not care if she is autistic or neurodivergent. I would be more surprised if she wasn’t, again given family history. I will say I’m worried about her not knowing how to play with kids and being excluded when she’s older.

I want to make it clear that I want to support her. I apparently had undiagnosed adhd growing up and my mom was in complete denial of it, which is nuts since I check pretty much every single box as an adult (and as a child too). As a result I had a difficult time doing stuff and “reaching my potential” and never really felt “normal” (still don’t)

I started working out a few weeks ago again after zero exercise since my second trimester, so almost 2 years of no working out. I gained 80 lbs postpartum and lost 60ish without really trying.

Prior to pregnancy, I ran 5 miles, 5 days a week. I also did solidcore 3-4x a week. I did reformer Pilates earlier this week for the first time and it was insanely hard, but running 5 miles came so easily to me pretty much by the second week of starting to run again.

I thought that it would take awhile to start it up again, but no. Has this happened to anyone? I went through and to an extent am still going through some postpartum anxiety and got diagnosed with OCD and ADHD during postpartum. Just feels like such an escape.

I’ve taken breaks from running before and it would take me a couple months to get back where running was “easy.” Just confused why this time it’s almost like I never stopped.

Not sure why I’m posting this, just talking I guess.

I started working out a few weeks ago again after zero exercise since my second trimester, so almost 2 years. I gained 80 lbs postpartum and lost 60ish without really trying.

Prior to pregnancy, I ran 5 miles, 5 days a week. I also did solidcore 3-4x a week. I did reformer Pilates earlier this week for the first time and it was insanely hard, but running 5 miles came so easily to me pretty much by the second week of starting to run again.

I thought that it would take awhile to start it up again, but no. Has this happened to anyone? I went through and to an extent am still going through some postpartum anxiety and got diagnosed with OCD and ADHD during postpartum. Just feels like such an escape.

I’ve taken breaks from running before and it would take me a couple months to get back where running was “easy.” Just confused why this time it’s almost like I never stopped.

Not sure why I’m posting this, just talking I guess.

My daughter is 16 months old and the absolute light of my life. The thought of not seeing her half the time kills me to think about, but I genuinely do not want to be in this relationship with my partner anymore.

Everything else I can handle. I have no feelings of sadness about the split, I am financially stable, he’s a good dad. Just can’t imagine not seeing my little girl, especially while she is still so young. Part of me wants to wait it out but I feel like that’s just selfish. Just feeling emotional right now.

My daughter is 16 months old and the absolute light of my life. The thought of not seeing her half the time kills me to think about, but I genuinely do not want to be in this relationship with my partner anymore.

Everything else I can handle. I have no feelings of sadness about the split, I am financially stable, he’s a good dad. Just can’t imagine not seeing my little girl, especially while she is still so young. Part of me wants to wait it out but I feel like that’s just selfish. Just feeling emotional right now.

My daughter tested positive for egg allergy at 8 months old. At that time, her levels were high at 11.5. She retested last week and we got a 3.5!

Waiting for a call from our allergist but am I okay to be hopeful that this is a good indication that she will grow out of her egg allergy? She’s tested zero for the ovomucoid and can tolerate baked egg in muffins and stuff.

Would love to hear any experiences

My now 16 mo old tested positive for egg allergy at 8 months old. At that time, her levels were high at 11.5. She retested last week and we got a 3.5!

Waiting for a call from our allergist but am I okay to be hopeful that this is a good indication that she will grow out of her egg allergy? She’s tested zero for the ovomucoid and can tolerate baked egg in muffins and stuff

My now 16 mo old tested positive for egg allergy at 8 months old. At that time, her levels were high at 11.5. She retested last week and we got a 3.5!

Waiting for a call from our allergist but am I okay to be hopeful that this is a good indication that she will grow out of her egg allergy? She’s tested zero for the ovomucoid and can tolerate baked egg in muffins and stuff