r/Selfhelpbooks

I’m looking for a book to teach me how to accept my emotions (particularly fear at this moment). I’ve come across two books and have read some reviews. Unfortunately, I just don’t care to waste my own time.

Here’s what I gathered from the two books:

Feel the fear and do it anyway (Susan Jeffers) - According to most bad reviews this book is one of those be positive no matter what books.

The Places That Scare You (Pema Chödrön)- And this book talks about accepting yourself and others but apparently anger is not apart of yourself you should accept.

Anyways I just want to read something that will teach me to accept all of my emotions, and show me how to sit with them.

Hey all! I’m about to go on a 3 week solo-holiday by myself and I want to do a bunch of self love things. I’ll be away from everyone and everything just me and my mind and travel. Anyone have good recommendations?

I have bought a lot of self help books, all popular titles like Atomic habits, How to win friends, etc
But I haven’t completed any of the book.

Main problem which I feel is,
- they are so dense and boring
- and very hard to remember

Me and my professor were discussing this problem and we thought of a solution on which I want to hear thoughts of you people,

What about if I convert the lesson into a comic, where you have to take decisions and accordingly the story will change,

Eg: if you selected a wrong dialogue, you can see the reaction of the other person.

Hence we can solve these 2 problems by
- making reading visual
- and lessons where you can apply the learnings

Would love to hear your thoughts:

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I have a number of mental illnesses including OCD and my mind is a constant clutter that is alway screaming at me and churning and won't shut up for a nanosecond. I'd like to get into mindfulness and meditation, but I'm going to be really, really bad at it. What's a good, gentle book that eases you into the process in a basic way?

Hi, as you can see on the title, lately i noticed that me myself and my peers are facing the same issue. anxious about the future, heavy responsibility, peers pressure, others expectations on us, loneliness, constant comparison with other people life etc. all these problems while growing up and in the process of becoming an adults. do you have any books recs about how to navigate our adulthood? so that we can manage and take care of ourself more better? thank you

The irony is not lost on me.

For the last however many months I've been writing in the cracks of my day. Early mornings, lunch breaks, after everyone's asleep. Somehow I've ended up with 10 finished self-help books, short plain-language ones about the stuff most of us quietly struggle with. Saying no without guilt. Building real confidence. Not burning out. Actually starting the thing you keep avoiding.

And here's the part that's almost funny. I'll write a whole chapter telling someone to back themselves and take the leap, then close the laptop and go do a job I want to quit because I'm too scared to bet on myself. I literally wrote the book on this and I can't follow it.

The real wall is income. My day job is the only reason I'm not panicking, so quitting to write full time feels reckless even though it's all I want. I keep talking myself out of it.

On top of that I genuinely don't know where to sell these. Amazon KDP seems obvious but I hear mixed things, and I don't know if I should look at other places, sell direct, or what. I have no audience and I've never marketed anything in my life. I'm also kind of shy about the whole thing and part of me wonders if I'm just fooling myself.

So, to people who've actually done this: where's the best place to sell? And how did you know when it was okay to leap, or did you never fully quit? Any tips for someone starting from nothing would genuinely mean a lot.

Thanks for reading this far.

This is kind of embarrassing to admit, but I think I started reading for the wrong reasons. I was at a point where I felt like everyone around me was shallow. People wanted to talk about gossip, parties, money, celebrities, politics, random drama, and I kept thinking there has to be more to life than this. At first reading made my ego worse because I started feeling like I was different, like I saw something other people didn’t see, and that can become dangerous because you begin confusing awareness with superiority.

Then after reading more, especially old books, spiritual texts, psychology and biographies, it started doing the opposite. Instead of making me feel above people, it made me understand people more. I started seeing how much of a person is not really chosen in the way we pretend it is. Their fears, their reactions, their need for attention, their avoidance, their anger, their obsession with status, their inability to sit alone, a lot of it comes from somewhere. It doesn’t excuse everything, but it explains more than I wanted to admit.

That changed my life because I was becoming bitter and calling it intelligence. I thought I hated society because I was awake, but really I was disappointed and lonely and I didn’t know how to process that without judging everyone. Books gave me more language for human pain. They made me realize that a person can be annoying and still be carrying something heavy, that someone can look confident and still be terrified inside, that shallow conversations are sometimes just people trying to stay away from the deeper thing they don’t know how to touch.

I still don’t want to waste my life in meaningless conversations, but I don’t feel the same anger anymore. I think reading made me softer, and that was not what I expected. I expected it to make me sharper, smarter, more impressive, but the real change was that I became less reactive and less cruel in my mind. That probably helped my life more than any “success” book could have.

I am 19 year old male wanna seek growth in life . Help me guide by recommendations for growth .

I will read the book with most recommendations.

Atomic Habits – 4 years later, and I still use it daily.

I read this book over 3 years ago, and it's one of the few self-help books that actually stuck with me. It didn't just hype me up for a week—it gave me a practical system that I still lean on every single day. The biggest shift was realizing that motivation is overrated; it's your environment and systems that carry you. I stopped relying on willpower and started designing my surroundings to make good habits easy and bad ones hard. The 2-minute rule got me out of bed to exercise, habit stacking helped me read more, and the identity shift—thinking "I'm the person who shows up" instead of "I want to lose weight"—completely changed how I see myself. After a few months, I wasn't just more disciplined; I was sleeping better, working sharper, and feeling more in control of my life. Even now, years later, I catch myself using the frameworks without thinking. It's not a magic pill, but it's the closest thing to a cheat code for consistency I've ever found. If you're on the fence—just read it. Then re-read it a year later. You'll catch something new every time.

I’m looking for self improvement books that actually changed your life. I read Allen Carr’s Easy Way to Stop Smoking and it helped me a lot. Looking for more books that really change your mindset and habits.

I’ve heard How to Actually Attract by Rick Lewis is good. What other books do you recommend?

Hello

Looking for books that could support a man on a healing journey - ideally either on the topic of healing inner boy, rite of passage, father wound , mother wound (like Madonna complex , enmeshment , healing nice guy traits, and Peter Pan syndrome)

I like King, Warrior, Magician, Lover by Gilette & Moore, Iron John by Robert Bly & The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida - so any other book recs pls!

Thx

I recently started thinking negative and desperate and magically instagram being instagram started showing videos about self help books like becoming supernatural, the power of your subconscious mind, the biology of belief etc but i am confused where to start. I am a beginner so pls suggest me one book to start with. I want to attract good things and lead a positive happy life and i think reading is the only thing that can help me in this era. Appreciate a book that i can actually implement practically and actually see improvement.

I’ve read quite a few. Meditations, 4 agreements. The alchemist.

I’m sure this gets asked a lot here.
What books have you read that had a massive impact on you, and/or your life?

Working through a breakup, and kind of trying to rediscover myself, who I am, and what direction I’m going in moving forward. Thanks so much!

I recently started reading books like power of your subconscious mind, surrounded by idiots, meditations, Prince by niccolo machiavelli. ;

Please suggest me some good books