r/SingleChildfreeHappy

I find my self becoming increasingly disappointed and detached from the women in my life. I am having a through the looking glass experience.

I am at an age where “people should be married” so a lot of my friends are married, getting married, or looking for their man. It wasn’t this way a mere 3 years ago, but it’s like they all collectively snapped up and started looking for marriage. I am slowly realizing I am the most radical one in my group.

A lot of the women that I have grown up with are suddenly looking for other lives that I know with a matter of time will have little to no space for me. Even the way they talk about pursuits (learning to dance, learning about plants etc) is in reference to “keeping themselves busy” until the man and family appear and they do more “important” things. They tell on themselves soo much when they talk. I am bewildered by it.

I remember telling my mother about my dream of being single and living with my friends and she laughed and told me my friends WILL get married I should stop dreaming and all this talk was childish. How right she was.

It’s very difficult for me because friendships are the anchors in my life. So with this initial friendship group I am trying to learn detachment and deprioritize them so I can make space for more radical women.

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Hi, Found this on a anti sex industry account on instagram, it’s from a 2025 study and I’ve translated it from Swedish down below (the statistics is from people who has been filmed in the Swedish porn industry):

• 84% had PTSD
• 65% were raped when filmed for porn
• 69% had attempted at least one Suicide attempt
• 77% was exploited for the first time in porn as children
• 88% was subjected to sexual assault as children
• 96% was subjected to assault/abuse as children
• 51% had been choked during the production
• 33% had been tortured during the production
• 45% had some form of disability
• 86% had been part of "traditional" prostitution (Source: Donevan, Jonsson, & Svedin 2025 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/epdf/10.1080/08039488.2025.2464634?needAccess=true)

And these statistics are from Sweden, a so called “equal” country where “buying sex” is illegal. (Sorry if something is unclear or grammatically incorrect)

Childfree AF! This is not talked about enough how childbirth, pregnancy, and postpartum can really negatively affect women. Working in the medical field and seeing how women can be in so much pain while delivering definitely added to my decision to never have kids. The pain and distress is not worth it to me. Very sad how this woman snapped but if we didn't live in a patriarchy maybe there would be more sympathy for pregnant mothers.

Men oftenly use this to threaten childfree women but the thing is that we will all age with child or not. Why the fact that I will stay single and childfree have to do with the fact that I will get old like all person in this world? At least I’m not gonna age prematurely because of stress and the effect on pregnancy in my body.

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Let's be honest for a minute.

When you're single:

- You sleep whenever you want.

- Your money is your money.

- Nobody asks, "Who's that girl in your comments?" 😂

- You can disappear for 8 hours and nobody calls a relationship meeting.

But when you're in a relationship, suddenly you're a detective, a therapist, a financial advisor, and a full-time customer care agent. 😭

And somehow, "I'm fine" becomes the most expensive sentence you'll ever hear.

So let's settle this: Is being single more peaceful, or is being in a relationship actually worth the stress? 👀

Defend your answer in the comments. 😂