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It's just when you look at someone directly and make eye contact, I see their reaction. I see them getting sad or angry. It makes me edit the truth to soften it for them.
But if we are in the car, sitting side-by-side, looking forward, seeing the world move, I don't know—but I am sure there is something about that makes it easier to be honest.
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I started doing this experiment a few months ago Whenever someone comes at me hot—like a coworker trying to start drama, or someone trying to win a stupid argument—I completely stop fighting back.
Instead of defending myself which is what they want, I just look them dead in the eye and calmly say, You know what Youre actually completely right I agree with you
It literally crashes their brain. You can see the error 404 happen in their eyes
People who are looking for a conflict already have a script running in their head They expect you to push back brute force so they can use their next line When you completely remove the resistance they have nothing to push against. They just stand there stuttering, or they get visibly frustrated that they can't be mad anymore
It takes absolutely zero energy from me, and it completely derails their entire system because they didnt get the dopamine hit of a fight. It’s crazy how predictable human behavior is once you stop playing by the rules they expect you to play by
Anyone else do this It almost feels like a social glitch
Let’s have a real conversation. Is unconscious racism actually a thing, or do we just not talk about it enough?
Have you ever experienced it? If so, who was it from? And if you’ve been in an interracial relationship, did you notice it more after the relationship ended? Did attitudes, comments, or behaviors suddenly change once you were no longer together? How did it manifest?
I’m not looking to argue—I’m genuinely interested in hearing people’s experiences and perspectives. Let’s keep it respectful.
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"People love to believe they have free will, but from an observer's perspective, most of you are just predictable systems running on faulty code. Your biggest vulnerability? Your ego and your emotional reactions.
Let me give you an example from my time in school. There was a highly arrogant, aggressive individual (or group) who controlled the social dynamic through intimidation. Most people tried to avoid them, or fight them directly. That’s 'brute force'—it takes too much energy and usually backfires.
I didn't do either. I treated them like a flawed system. I observed until I found their 'stress point'—their absolute inability to handle a specific type of subtle humiliation in front of the right audience.
I didn't attack. All I did was introduce a tiny, perfectly timed input. A single calculated comment, dropped quietly when they were already on edge. It was the equivalent of a 1-byte error in their code. The result? A catastrophic system failure. Their own ego took over. They overreacted, lost their temper completely, and destroyed their own reputation in front of everyone. They dismantled their own social standing, and I didn't even leave a fingerprint.
I'm sharing this as a warning: True manipulation isn't about forcing you to do things. It’s about placing the right trigger in front of you and letting your own predictability do the work.
If you react to everything, your source code is public. The moment you let your anger or pride dictate your actions, you are no longer a player. You are just a piece on someone else's board. Anyone else see the world this way, or are you all just reacting?"
There's a question that's been bothering me lately: if fate truly exists, where is freedom? If my fate is already predetermined, where is free will? Please enlighten me.
I’d always considered myself a fairly good conversationalist, until one day I noticed how people would begin to tune out. Not rudely or explicitly, but i could sense that they were now elsewhere, their answer would get shorter, and they would try to end the conversation or interaction on an abrupt note. I thought that whether you are liked or disliked by people speaks directly about your personality.
Recently I listened to an in-depth discussion on the book "How to Talk to Anyone" by Leil Lowndes on Dialogue: podcasts conversation on books. After listening, I realized that it wasn’t personality at all but a was a set of skills I had never learned.
Here’s what I took away from it:
What makes “How to Talk to Anyone” compellingly different is that it does not suggest you become a different person or “fake” confidence you do not have. It simply makes the case that the difference between good socializers and awkward ones is a relatively small set of behaviors we all can actually learn, behaviors that nobody explicitly shares.
I really dislike being called by nicknames, and I feel like it has affected me more than it should. I don’t like any kind of nickname in general because I feel like it lowers my sense of self-worth.
Is it normal to ask my friends to stop calling me by any nickname (for example ‘Apple’ or anything else), especially when it comes from random things like childhood habits or jokes?
Is it normal to strongly defend against all nicknames and refuse them completely? Or should I just accept them as harmless and not let it affect my sense of freedom or confidence, since we only live once?
I’m trying to understand if setting this boundary is reasonable or if I’m overthinking it.
say your making a cold approach 5 minute pitch to an executive , who's floor requires a visitors badge.
what could you say to the person at front desk so they'd let you in? would saying you lost the badge work?
All right, so, picture this, yeah. You're at a bar, in a restaurant, okay. You at a bar in a restaurant. And you see this table, and that table is five men sitting around on a table, you know. When you look at them, you can already tell, yep, these guys got stuff, they got assets, they got shit going on. I'm sure they're talking about business, yeah. Something just money related, yeah. So then, you, you go to them, you stop them for a sec, you just stand in front of them, you're like, excuse me, gentlemen. I know this is to interrupt your organization here, but I really had to come up here and say it. Looking at you guys, I already tell, you're, I already tell you guys are talking about something serious, whether it's business or whatever. Am I right? Then they answer. And then you say, I know this is gonna come up weird, but please just find a way of incorporating me in it. Like, I don't know what you guys are doing, whatever it is, I wanna learn it. I also wanna do it. Just by looking at you guys, I can already tell you guys are worth something. I also wanna be worth something. So whatever thing you're doing, whatever thing you have, just please find a way of incorporating me in it. I can do anything. I'm 21 years old, you know. I'm physically able, and I'm mentally also able, you know. I may not look like it right now, but I'm very smart. So whatever thing you find, just put me in it. Blah, blah, blah. But tell me, like, in a real world scenario, how would that turn out?
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I'm not doing it to divide nations and races, in my opinion all lives matter just different shades. Just because a coal is not a diamond doesn't mean it can't be used.
Apparently I've been running a social experiment myself to find about about it with multiple burner accounts.
People said black lives matter, so I tried being racist about it in this site and there's no consequences.
Same goes for Asian, Arabics, American, Europeans, Australian. Literally almost 100 countries and hundred more races but 1.
The juice(you get the gist)
The moment I say the actual thing I'll get the ban.
Why?
I only said bad things about them once.
And the ban hammer strikes in a matter of hours.
While others were multiple times without consequences.
Apparently only one race/country matters, my opinions are wrong. If they're not a hypocrite that is.
Again all lives matter I'm not saying they're all rotten eggs, just why on earth are they so damn aggressive?.
I guess that's for another social experiment.
This is a burner account too btw, cheers
I'm a very shy teenager and I overthink social situations a lot.
Yesterday, my grandfather's cousin passed away, and today I visited their house with my family. While I was there, I met the daughter of my grandfather's cousin.
In my culture, different relatives have different titles. The sister of your uncle is called "Bhua" (or a similar term depending on the region), while your uncle's wife is called "Chachi."
By mistake, I repeatedly called her 'Chachi' instead of the correct title. At the time, I didn't even realize what I had said. Nobody corrected me, and the conversation continued normally.
However, when I got home, I suddenly realized my mistake and felt extremely embarrassed. Her mother was also there, and now my mind keeps telling me that everyone noticed, everyone thinks I'm stupid, and that they will tell other relatives about it.
The situation feels even worse to me because the family is currently grieving, so I don't feel it would be appropriate to contact them just to apologize now. Her father died yesterday, and this is not a normal event; this is a very significant matter in our culture.
Logically, I know this probably isn't a big deal, but emotionally I can't stop thinking about it. I keep replaying the moment in my head and feeling ashamed.
How do you stop feeling embarrassed about something that was clearly an accident? The biggest problem is that almost 100 relatives and family members were present, listening to me, and this is a very big deal for me.
https://youtu.be/64W0VXISY3s My experience on focusing on being social first and being a positive person in a community that lead to dating
Looking for advice,
I started a new job today, up until meeting my boss everyone seemed nice and cordial, reciprocating kindness with kindness.
The HR lady took me to meet my boss this morning, she introduced me and I said "hey good morning" without even skipping a beat he said "you'll be with Gerry, go clean out the truck." Then just walked off. HR lady gave me a look like this is my life now and walked away.
Fast forward a few hours, we finished our tasks and come back to the shop. My boss was crouched on the ground just staring into space for a few minutes, so I went up for round two saying "damn it's hot out here" he didn't react so I said "you having a decent day? Sure is hot out here" he slowly looked toward me and said "go take your break"
I've had plenty of grumpy bosses and always get through to them, but this guy's giving off psychotic control freak energy.
Any tips on how I can proceed? I desperately need this job for the paycheck.