r/SocialEngineering

Getting out of a 6 year abusive relationship (I’m 22) where he cut me off from everyone. I had 0 friends the whole time and even wasted my college years being a recluse bc he wouldn’t let me speak to anyone but him.

I spend all my weekends inside building my brands and working on robots to reduce daily frictions (pointless in theory but lots of fun) / optimizing my life. I also WFH so that’s great... I don’t go out, don’t watch stuff most girls my age do, but I studied fashion and optimized my look for fun, (love shopping) now I’ve been described as a 9/10 so I have the looks thing going for me (I swear if u saw me you would think I have loads of friends, like I rly rly studied how to optimize my makeup, hair, and style. I got cosmetic procedures done, latisse, permanent straightening, nanoblading, Botox etc etc after simulating countless looks on a facial model of my own face and picking the best lol)

I need some girl friends in my life, but idk how to speak to people at all. Idk where to begin. I feel like as a guy it’s more acceptable to go up to random people and talk to them, as a girl it’s just weird.

I have cool hobbies, 6 figure tech job, and goals but this is a HUGE gap in my life. When I get invested in something I get INVESTED, so Ik if I put in the effort and studied this I’d be fine, I just need to ensure I’m putting my effort in the right places. Thanks !

I’ve been thinking about something recently. I’ve had a few experiences where I initially had a good rapport with someone, but over time they started constantly making fun of me or turning me into the easy target of jokes.

I came across the idea that people tend to keep doing this when they sense some kind of weakness, but I don’t necessarily think that means the person actually has a weakness. Sometimes it could simply be that they notice you don’t push back, you laugh things off, or they realize that certain reactions make the jokes more entertaining for them.

I’m trying to understand the psychology behind it rather than just take it personally. What are the general things that make someone more likely to become a target, and how can you set boundaries early without becoming aggressive or changing your personality?

I hope this is allowed, but does anybody know of any quality books on psychological warfare and manipulation? As I’ve been dealing with this very manipulative coworker and I wanna learn how to defend myself against it, I’m getting exhausted of it. I would really appreciate guys, I need desperate help as nobody believes me as they can’t see it.

Whenever I meet someone new, I get really stiff, nervous, and uncomfortable. My anxiety spikes and I just freeze up inside. I've tried the usual calming techniques deep breathing, telling myself to relax, etc. but honestly nothing seems to make a real difference in the moment.

Has anyone found techniques that actually work for this? Not just theory, but stuff you've genuinely tested and that helped. Would really appreciate real experiences,

I (23, F), found myself in a weird setting. I kinda ruined my life but at the same time I've gained a second chance from life by leaving my ex. The thing I want to focus the most is my personality. For my whole life I thought I am a good person and I blamed my looks or other factors for lack of friends or a boyfriend. The fact is I have a bad personality and manners and therefore no social skills. I thought it's adhd and turns out it's entitlement, rude behaviour and pride and arrogance. Could I make the post and ask you how to fix this behaviour all together instead of masking?

I want to act right. As much as I can. I honestly dont even know how to act in certain situations, I dont even know how to react to others.

And then I want to make friends. Not those who want to be friends with me, but those I want to make with others. I dont want to be friends with just anyone.

Could you tell me how to actually change? Not just read self-improvement books or do some tactics in order to make others think I am nice and cool?

I started high school half a year ago now and there is a social rule to greet each other when passing. This rule is meant to make students feel welcome and appreciated but I normally don’t reply when another student is saying hi to me, I mostly reply to a teacher I like and respect but no other teens. But this this rude behavior? I don’t bitch blink them or anything— I just keep a straight face and walk by

I tend to attract liars, or even turn people into liars because of my emotional sensitivity. People in general have a hard time opening up to me befuae I can be kind of pushy. I am okay with that, and actually as I come to terms with it people have become more open. I do attract liars. Men who liar. Female friends who lie. Big, medium, small.. people lie to save my feelings.. I not only want to have people around me be able to be honest more.. Id also like to attract honest people.. What should I do during conversation to encourage truth? What are some things to look out for in terms of honest people”.

Hi at the moment I’m getting ready these courses PTS and OLEC course any tips would help thanks