Here is what I found:

Appearance matters, especially for Asian men because we have had historically stereotypes which make it hard to show value outside of skilled labor, food, and service, Appearance is a way to create inherent attraction within our norms and growing now is athletics (Shohei Ohtani) and art (BTS, K Dramas).

You need to take the strictness your parents put on you to get into Harvard or FAANG and put that into CHAANG. (and also FAANG).

Having clear skin, good hair, a great attitude, being physically capable, with an authentic style will do as much for your quality of life as whatever your parents told you to focus on.

Most Asian men are clueless about the importance of self promotion assertiveness and advocacy, on not only a micro scale but also on a global scale.

Confucian culture and boomer Chinese mentality has totally fucked Asians in the west. We actually have a lot to learn from Western society in that until recently East Asian - and especially Chinese culture is retarded for Asian male power globally.

So the first smart step China and Korean did is they learned from western information warfare and created KPOP + also put a spotlight on discrimination, cruelty and violent behaviour of Western men. Which is essentially what the CIA did with Hollywood + anti Asian propaganda.

Mate guarding is real while being attractive will get people to accept you more, you will still be expected to bend over backwards more to get access to social groups where you are the minority.

Some guys don't mind this (more power to them) and have thick skin. For me I would rather join and spend my time and money on groups that either accept me equally or at an advantage. For me I have the luxury of finding groups and people like this, but if I did not I would simply choose not to participate in a society I felt discriminated against me.

Places I enjoy supporting are Asian resteraunts, Artists, Anime, Food Festivals, and media.

War is not fought with only weapons, it is mostly about emotions and thoughts. Ironically Sun Tzu said something about winning a war without lifting a single finger which is exactly what the US did with China.

Media is everything, if you let other groups control the narrative against you then your group will be fucked. No Army needs to invade your country and your women will avoid you and your comrades will have given up on life. Just look at what is happening to the US internally now that Asian countries are on a more even playing ground in terms of media.

Like in America and the general West, I've noticed we're viewed as comical bumbling idiots, and we cause a lot of problems and are weird, ugly, asexual, yet super-horny dudes. Then in India, it's like the Indian left shows us as responsible for all the world's problems and just the most evil people on earth. Thoughts?

https://www.reddit.com/r/ABCDesis/s/NtRM7I8DJH

Diaspora acts like they've produced Zidane, Mbappe, and Pulisic, and meanwhile, all the notable athletes are from martial communities in India

After six years of working in India, I have found a job here that should treat me well. I was unemployed for a long time (due to Modi's brutal job market) while all my friends found work or emigrated, and now, after fighting the quota system and rigorous testing, I have found a job; I just wanted to share. Please share your positive wishes in the comments.

So I just read a thread here about an Indian guy who traveled to Australia and said dating there is harder than in Europe, where he hadn’t had any problems

The top comments were saying “it’s because of your race” Hello? You’ll see more IMWF couples in Australia than in the UK

Again:

Your race does not determine how attractive you are. Your height, looks, personality, confidence and communication skills matter

If you’re attractive, you’re attractive.

Women don’t care about your race. If you didn’t have much success in one country, it’s probably because you had a bad day, bad luck or it was just a coincidence, something that happens to every guy, regardless of race.
How many times do people have to hear this?

If you’ve convinced yourself you’re inferior just because of your race in certain countries, maybe this isn’t the sub for you. Go hang out in some white incel sub instead. Stop projecting your own insecurities onto everyone else

I am a 28 year old Indian who grew up in Australia and wanted to have a discussion about dating as a South Asian man in the west.

There are plenty of discussions on this sub about the racism we face when comes to dating in western countries but I wanted to dig a little deeper from my own anecdotal experience.

Recently I had the privilege of travelling around Western European countries and I had a great time talking and hooking up with women I met during my travels. It honestly blew my mind how well received I was there especially in Germany (first time a girl actually asked me out on a date). I don’t just mean that women found me attractive but women were actually open to engaging in a conversation with me without being scared of me.

I have honestly given up going out in Melbourne to meet women and online dating is absolutely atrocious. I would never even dream of sharing personal vulnerable moments of my life with a woman I met on train or at a cafe. In Australia, the culture of approaching women is heavily frowned upon regardless of race. I sound as Aussie as any guy who grew up in a major city yet talking to women here in person or online is an absolute nightmare.

I know that because I was travelling and going out consistently for 2 months straight in Europe of course my chances of meeting single women would be higher. Also my Australian accent can be quite attractive in Europe. But the accent only matters once you open your mouth. Women will typically close off their body language if they see you approach them and don’t find you attractive. Of course this also happened in Europe. But the quality difference is night and day.

I am wondering if any of you can share similar experiences and maybe why this might be the case. There is a heavy push back on Indian migration in Australia but most white women my age do not support those beliefs. Yet dating apps and personal interactions when comparing my own experiences in europe tell a different story.

What do you guys think? I would love to hear your stories and have a discussion on this.

I regularly workout but I still miss kickboxing. I did it before moving to college. Also thinking about running more. Curious to what others are upto

Hello.. so i wanted to ask something.
Its kind a bit personal.
me and my husband have a great sex life honestly, we orgasm regularly. he is physically very strong and also good in bed and everything’s good there but we’ve been trying to get me to squirt and it’s just not happening.
we’ve seen stuff online, read articles, tried different things, but nothing’s working practically. Is there something physiological going on, or is this more about technique? just want to understand if it’s normal to not be able to do this after trying multiple times.
and who’s actually responsible for it, for real.
is it my body that is failing like any hormonal or physiological issue or my husband is doing something in a wrong way. i have heard online that many women squirt easily

About me : 33 , goes to gym everyday but has bulky dude with muscles personality. Well read and experienced in approaching or talking to women during day. Very bad in night game. Solo travelled to 13 countries and 20 states in India. Flings with Indian, Srilankan, Belgian girls while traveling. Also had a long makeout session with a swiz girl on roof of the hostel. But no sex.

Very very very bad in Luck when it comes to sex. Only hard work.

Goes to a city for 3 days trekking. Spots a 10 good looking British girl with dragon tattoo lines running from her shoulders to butt cheek. Saw her in the city bar with a dude. Didn't talk to her as I spotted a black woman so plan for the night was to hit on black girl and get rejected and go home.

Which happened and I was back in hostel drinking. I saw the British girl (let's call her Ben10, coz she was a 10 and hailed from city of Big ben) with the dude coming back to hostel trying to look for a makeout spot. I cursed my luck, I had nonidea she was staying in my hostel only, I didn't see her at all during the day.

Next day the van for trek came and I realised she is in my trek group only. I was over joyed. Geared up to deliver one of the best seduction game but then saw hickeys on her arms and I was like daaammmnnn.

But I didn't give up and thought, if I pull her. That is going to be a generational victory. She was 30 so I felt even more confident.

What then followed was 3 days worth of all seduction tactics I have learned, push pull, hot cold, plausible deniability of attraction etc etc.

But the only thing which I didn't see, was compliance from her side. She understood my intentions and kept it very civil.

I even had two major alpha moments which still didn't melt her.

1. Locals were forcefully trying to take photos with her which she didn't like, I turned the table and started taking photos with locals, which locals didn't like. We moved further and she literally jumped with happiness and said, "I love your.. game" .. We had good 10 minutes of talking and I thought, boys we in... But soon she again became civilised and the compliance evaporated and normal chats replaced the "vibe".

2. When the trek was over, everyone were sitting tired. I walked in, ordered a beer, cracked it open and sat beside a camp fire at 6 am. Half of the people frowned, rest half cheered and bought beers themselves. The idea of drinking beers at 6 excited few, baffled few. From side eye I literally could see her beaming, admiring me and slowly inching towards me and the campire with her beer bottle. Literally a 19 year old brit lad came and said, Bro right now you are mogging and aura farming. And I was like hell yeah bruv. 😁😁

Sadly the trek got over, we both were headed to same city later, but I didn't took her insta etc. Sometimes seduction don't work, specially on a freshly hickeyed girl whose dude might be waiting for her after trek in the city later.

P.S: I did meet another black woman in the city later and we made out in the backseat of the Uber so it wasn't a full failure of the trip.

So, as you know, unless you have been living under a rock, there has been a rise in hate against Indians and Hindus in particular, both online and on the internet, these past few years. My theory of it is as follows: Basically, what I think has happened is that Hindu society was once a very great and prominent place during the times of the Guptas, Shungas, and Mauryans, but over time ossified due to greater belief in caste and the rising influence of Brahmins. As a result of this, and in particular the rising influence of Brahmins, Muslims came in and easily routed us and ruled for a thousand years. After this, there was a brief but organized revolt where Hindus attempted to take power, and in the chaos, the British took over. After some time, they left too due to various factors, and India began its independence. During this time, technological and social changes took place overall the world, such as the internet, television, and immigration. In the past few years in particular, Hindus finally took power in India through the BJP and began spouting their views online. This led to backlash by muslims around the world who began spreading hate against them everywhere. This was coupled by the fact that south asian muslims never stopped spreading hate against them and had been working against them all this time with the assistance of the victims of caste: the dalits. Combined with Indians immigrating everywhere and taking jobs from everyone and being the weakest people on planet earth whites began coming after them too. To summarize, Hindus are a broken people that began shooting at everyone and spawning everywhere, and it led to backlash against them by just about everyone.

Hi everyone,

I’m looking to build a small group of accountability partners for anyone interested in:

• Gym workouts
• Muscle gain and fitness goals
• Home workouts and bodyweight training
• Home gym setups
• Staying consistent and self-motivated

The idea is simple: many of us start with good intentions but lose motivation when working alone. Having a community where people share their progress, struggles, and small wins can help everyone stay consistent and inspired.

This is not a coaching service, paid group, or promotion of anything. It’s simply a place where we can encourage each other, check in regularly, and keep moving toward our fitness goals together.

If you’re interested in mutual accountability and positive motivation, feel free to comment or send me a message. Let’s help each other stay consistent and become healthier and stronger together!

Met this girl on Bumble and we genuinely hit it off. Only issue is she keeps bringing up her ex from 5 years ago. She says he was abusive and that I'm a clear upgrade from him, but then she sent me a photo of the two of them looking like a happy couple, which threw me off.

Then it got weirder. We were talking about sexual history and I said mine was 3, all from longish relationships. She immediately starts bragging about hers, says she had "a roster in Bangalore full of navy guys. I tried to shut it down with a joke and change the subject, but she doubles down, and was like I also fucked NSG commandos and elite para soldiers, all high rank, one was 6'5" (I'm 6'0").

Now I'm lowkey turned off. Maybe I'm just the jealous type, or maybe I bit off more than I can chew. What would you lads do? Ghost?

Hey, I just really need to get this off my chest because it’s been messing with my confidence. I’m 24M and from a south asian family. I feel like I’m pretty independent, I drive everywhere, I work, I take care of my own stuff, but whenever certain family members are around, it’s like I can’t do anything right.

My cousins, for example, joke about how I cut a pizza or how I pour a soda, and yeah, I know i do certain things differently and they also might be teasing sometimes, but it still gets to me (and i think and ruminate about it for months and feel inferior every time i think about it). And then my grandfather, who I love, keeps criticizing my driving whenever i’m in the car with him. The thing is, I do these normal things all the time, no one’s breathing down my neck, and it’s only when they’re around that I start to feel like I’m actually doing something wrong.

I’m not sure if maybe I am messing up or if it’s just this whole family dynamic that’s making me second guess myself. Is this common for south asian families or am i just slow? It’s like, sometimes I feel confident, and other times, when they say something, I just feel completely off. Whenever they make nitpick what i’m doing, I don’t respond and just stay calm because I can’t ever think of any comebacks on the spot. I feel this is all my fault because i’m not sharp witted or intimidating enough, otherwise I wouldn’t be an easy target right? Does anyone else get this?

I really don’t know if it’s just me or if I should be adjusting how I do things. I do have a history of low self esteem so maybe i’m just being too sensitive. But I do feel like they are hyper critical asf with me. Am i the issue for letting them treat me like that. Maybe I need to man tf up and stop being so sensitive? Idk man.

I’m a South Asian, 30s, non-religious, lived here for over a decade. I grew up outside of Canada and went to a school with mainly South East Asian girls (Indonesian, Malay, Filipino) and to this day I just find them more attractive than anyone else. I don’t find white women attractive at all.

Other than the physical attraction, I’m also an atheist (ex-Muslim) which makes it hard to find compatible brown girls as many of them still value religious background. Also I like to eat as non-halal as possible, love pork ramen lol. I find that Chinese and Viet women have similar lifestyles to me where they are completely secular and have no dietary restrictions.

However SE and East Asian women have been particularly upfront about the fact that they “don’t like Indian”. For the girls that are open to dating outside of their own race, they mostly seem to want white men only. On dating apps their bios will explicitly mention that they like white or European guys, or blonde hair, etc. a few actually write “not into Indian”. I’ve been to many in-person dating events and when I got rejected by the women I was interested in, I noticed they rejected other Asian guys as well and went straight for the white dude they had their eyes on from the start. Some girls did give me their IG only for me to see from their stories that they’re always on dates with 👱🏻‍♂️. WMAF seems to be the most common interracial pairing in general here. I’ve tried talking to white women but man they just don’t do it for me….

I tried using apps like Feeld where my face was hidden at first and got a couples of likes, and talked to girls on Reddit r4r but the first question I get is always about my race and that’s a dealbreaker. It’s insane how predictable that’s become. A couple of times out of boredom, curiosity, and higher than usual desperation, I tried reaching out to some sugar babies just to see if I could try the experience of going on dates with them but even they asked me for my race to confirm that I’m not brown - wtf? Are we THAT unattractive to them? Even paid arrangements are as difficult as genuine dates.

If anyone is in the same boat as me: are we doomed to either stay single forever unless we learn to change our preferences?

In this post you will learn about a relatively unknown but 100% legitimate, empirically validated field of neuroscience that explains a significant chunk of literally EVERY human beings behavior in regards to things like race, gender, nationality, religion, etc. But despite this most people have never even heard of the concept. Why? Because it's only really taught in specialized fields within higher education. It also tends to make people feel uncomfortable.

I am referring to the neuroscience of the human in-group/out-group brain. In the next few paragraphs you'll gain a basic understanding of what that is, how it works, and why it undeniably proves that pretty much everyone who says racist things about your race secretly views your race as a threat to the tribal/socio-sexual status of their race

Brief Introduction:

Due to millions and millions of years of evolution, EVERY single human has an in-group/out-group brain. This has a strong, pervasive influence on our thoughts, speech, & behavior regarding our in-groups + out-groups. It is a universal feature of human cognition, even the most neurodivergent or schizoid personality types have one. Its literally biologically impossible NOT to have in-groups or out-groups, the physical structure of the brain demands it. This was selected for in pretty much every species. Even bacteria have a very primitive early form of an in-group out-group brain, its known as quorum sensing and it was the precursor to the animal/human in-group out-group brain.

The human in-group out-group brain comes with several "instincts", behaviors triggered under specific conditions. Here are 3.

1:

Deliberately spreading hate/propaganda/gossip against "out-groups" in an attempt to "derogate" them (lower their value/reputation) is a very common evolutionary human instinct called "Out-group Derogation"

Scientists have suspected this for almost a century now, but only in recent years has brain imaging technology proven that out-group derogation is actually a specific neural/hormonal threat response mechanism in the brain.

And that this mechanism actually exists in EVERY humans brain. It's not activated in everyone's brain, just in people who are currently experiencing a tribal threat response.

A very rough explanation of how it works; The process begins in the lower brain with the amygdala (which is specifically the threat detector of the brain, though still a part of "you")
"You/it" detects an out-group as being a tribal threat to your in-group, over something evolutionarily desirable like social status, power/resources, mates, etc. This causes stress, anxiety, insecurity, anger, jealousy, envy, bunch of strange negative primal emotions like that. Then it gives the individual stress relief & a dopamine boost upon successfully "derogating" the out-group. It also temporarily boosts their self esteem and self perceived status.

2:

A similar instinct that works along very similar neural pathways is called "**Competitor Derogation**", where people "derogate" sexual rivals to try and make them seem less sexually desirable.

3:

The opposite instinct is "**In-group Favoritism**" where people will do the opposite of out-group derogation, basically positively evaluate and spread positive information about their in-group in an attempt to boost their groups status.

Disclaimer: When I say ALL racist people, I mean the vast majority of people who actively say racist things. Because there are still edge cases where out-group derogation occurs without perceived status threat. For example, "coalition signalling", unconscious/unintentional out-group derogation such as internalized racist thoughts, dating preferences, or simple online grifting to make money.

Examples of coalition signalling;
Bob is a Mexican guy who moves to Northern China and starts hanging with a kinda nationalistic and proud group of Northern Chinese people. Bob wants to fit in so he may strategically engage in out-group derogation against the Southern Chinese to signal loyalty to the Northern Chinese group. Bob doesn't give two shits about status competition with the Southern Chinese, and he doesn't feel like they threaten him or his group in any way. But he pretends to hate them and will say negative things about them to signal loyalty to his new friend group.

A Nigerian immigrant to the US moves to a heavily White Republican area and becomes influenced to want to be an American Republican. So he may derogate Black Americans in front of White Republican Americans to show that he is on their side. But he doesn't feel any sort of insecurity regarding competition with Black Americans.

Examples of unconscious and unintentional out-group derogation:
Bill Williamson is a Polynesian guy who never dates Asian women because he doesn't like the way they look. This is technically racist and technically considered out-group derogation, but it's not active/conscious, he's not broadcasting it to people, hes not trying to cause any harm. So it doesn't require status threat. It's safe to say Bill doesn't feel insecure of Asians.

But if he was repeatedly engaging in active/conscious out-group derogation towards Asians, gossipping about them, spreading negative information about their people and country, there is a specific reason he feels the need to do that. And the reason is because he feels that Asian people are threatening the status of his group, Polynesian.

Other than that, the vast majority of people you see saying racist things about your race online or IRL do have the out-group derogation mechanism activated in their brain, and are feeling some sort of status insecurity VS your race

This is a sensitive topic and I am not trying to stir up some beef but there is an elephant in the room I feel we have to address.

The Muslims world is really racist to Indians and Desis, Muslims and White Supremacists make up the majority of anti South Asian racist posts online.

One Common trend I notice though is South Asian muslims constantly upvoting and supporting anti Indian racists. For example whenever Sneako a famous muslims streamer engages in anti South Asian and anti Indian racism like calling Indians slurs he is always backed up by large amounts of Pakistanis, Bangladeshi and Indian Muslims.

Anti Indian Racists enjoy huge support from South Asian muslims and South Asian muslims regularly use anti Indian slurs like calling us J***Ts despite also being the same race and the slur applying to them as well.

What do you think can be done to get South Asian muslims to stop engaging in being racist toward their own kind and stop their self hatred?

Let's keep it civil in the discussion. I don't want to foster hate.