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He is so generationally bad at arguing things lmao, I started thinking about this because of the latest Premo where he just cannot argue his side of the Pizza on a plane debate properly. Off the top of my head, he's had:

Dr. Mario

The Water Barrels

Famous Cousins

Jeff Probst + Jimmy Beast (same episode as famous cousins btw)

Got perma'd for this, for some reason lmao

I sparked a lot of controversy with this statement on a subreddit for immigrants in Sweden and I have never been more downvoted. I want to share my honest experience after living in Sweden for almost eight years and interacting with a lot of locals and other immigrants. I hope to have a healthy discussion about the pros and cons of living here but if people want to attack me or downvote me for doing this AMA, you’re welcome to do that. I am open to sharing my opinions and experience living here and also what I have seen happening at the companies where I’ve worked and maybe some of the stories others have shared with me. So go ahead and ask me anything about living in Sweden as an immigrant.

Edit: as I said I’m open to talk about Sweden but please don’t ask me personal questions as I won’t answer those, it’s not the point of this AMA and I don’t want to share my personal health condition on the internet. I’m obviously open to sharing my opinions and experience though. I also started getting very overwhelmed by all the questions where I’m from. I answered at some point and I’ve also said I’m white but then I deleted some of those details since I really don’t think it makes such a big difference to my experience in Sweden. I really wanted to keep this AMA about sharing my experience in Sweden and hopefully having a healthy, open and nuanced discussion instead of explaining my skin color and ethnicity in details.

This post exploded so I will provide a summary of the most common questions and my answers:

Yes, I speak Swedish, not perfectly as I have an accent but unfortunately I can’t improve my accent that much. My pronunciation will just never be truly Swedish it seems.

I moved here for work but stayed for love. I am planning to move out as soon as I find a job elsewhere which takes a while since the job market seems to be extra tough everywhere. Where I move to next will depend a lot on the job I’m offered and I’ll make sure to do a ton of research in advance.

I think moving to Sweden was my biggest mistake since I am convinced that my career, social life and savings account would have been much much better elsewhere. I am jealous of my acquaintances who have similar background as me and are better off elsewhere in Europe. I’m also jealous of many of my immigrant friends who left Sweden and are happier elsewhere so I’ll move soon too.

Taxes - no, I have no issue paying taxes. My issue is that I keep on hearing that healthcare, social security and institutions are good in Sweden and that’s not my experience.

Immigration and racism - the racism I’ve faced is subtle, not in my face and behind my back. I think it’s obvious how Sweden treats immigrants nowadays if you look at the institutions. I am one of the 100000 immigrants who have been stuck in the application process for citizenship for years and there’s even a court decision that my application should be processed as soon as possible. However, I’ll most likely just be rejected in a few months due to the new rules and the fact that I don’t pass a test for Swedish culture that doesn’t even exist yet. Then I’ll need to wait for the test to be created and possibly wait a few more years in the queue again. Currently 75% of the decisions for citizenship are decided within around five years which is the reason why my application has been untouched for years. I would have hoped that I’d get a more fair process as an immigrant trying to integrate here and gain the right to vote and have say in politics but at this point I just want to forget about all of it and move out.

Here racism isn’t really in your face but more like behind your back. If you want to read more concrete racist comments you can go to r/Sverige As for my personal experience with what i would claim is racist there’s always assumption that I moved here to work in a warehouse or some other lower-paying job as that’s what immigrants do apparently. Ive also heard about questions behind my back about my education or my beliefs or values as they of course must be worse than people born and raised in Sweden. I’ve even been accused in a restaurant about not paying my bill for some reason and the accusation was dropped immediately when my Swedish friend appeared. In general, the treatment I get from others when I’m alone is extremely different compared to if I’m with a Swede. My non-white friends get way worse treatment and comments behind their backs.

As for being safe - in my neighborhood yes but I’ve been harassed many times around the city and even in public transport. It even reached a point when people around me had to call the police in a few cases. I also always get asked whether I was harassed by Swedes so I’ll just add that most of the people (not all of course) harassing me were blond and spoke perfect Swedish. Never asked them where they were born and raise though as I was too busy trying to get out of a bad situation. And yes there are ghettos here but I don’t go there as I never had to

Healthcare - my experience is quite bad. I moved here with a prescription and diagnosis and it took me eight months to get help again. I’ve been told to just go private since it’s better and faster. My subsequent experiences with healthcare were similar - basically endless waiting time and just told to go elsewhere, referred from place to place to place forever.

I see that so many people assume they can find my medical history from my previous posts. Some also assume about my adhd and that I came to Sweden looking for stimulants. No, I didn’t move here looking for them. I’m receiving dms in addition to the many comments here asking about my conditions and claiming it was self-inflicted even... I haven’t and I won’t talk about it online and I hope people respect that. The few posts I have online about my health are open and you’re welcome to read them. I definitely won’t disclose anything more. If anything all the disrespectful comments, targeted messages, calling me things and prying show me that sharing my experience is not a good idea.

Sick leave - I actually find it very unfair that if you’re sick the first day isn’t paid. I know some think this is a better system but I’m tired of colleagues coughing around me or working from home with fever because they don’t want to be on sick leave. Then for two weeks you get 80% of your salary and after that you get money from the social system. When I was sick for more than two weeks (yes it happens when you live somewhere for eight years) I waited for four months to even get my application started. I know people who are high earners and were sick for more than a year and just went back to work because they couldn’t afford to be on sick leave anymore since they were earning half their regular salary (if you’re sick for a longer period of time then the sick leave payment decreases). I also know maaaany cases where people were laid off while on parental leave or sick leave. All this makes me say that I don’t have any confidence in the safety net here and I don’t want to risk paying most of my income in taxes and have little savings since I know my savings are my only real safety net and I won’t get much if I get seriously sick some day.

Social life - it’s hard to make Swedish friends in my experience and almost nobody around me has Swedish friends. I think integrating here and having a social life is incredibly difficult. I made some very good friends over the years but almost all of them were immigrants and left for other countries so I had to start trying to integrate again and again.

This post gathered more than 575 comments in less than two hours and I’ve been trying to do my best to answer all questions and provide a summary in my edit in the post of the most common questions instead of saying the same things over and over. I’ll try my best to answer everything as soon as possible. I initially set aside four hours for this AMA but I’ll need additional time later to go through it all.

Edit 2: i really tried my best to answer all the questions directly as a comment or provided a summary in my post as some questions were overlapping. I know that probably some people think my answers were not detailed enough etc but I tried my best during the four hours I allocated to this AMA.

I’m going to randomly check some of the notifications even after the AMA is closed but won’t focus as much on replying to each because it’s no longer an active AMA, and i don’t have the time for all the hundreds of new notifications.

I got a lot of hate in some comments and dms and I see some comments were deleted since they were found to be disrespectful. If anything, it makes me feel that sharing my opinion and experience is not welcomed by many even on Reddit. To those, sending me some kindness - thank you, it’s really appreciated.

Take care everyone and as I wrote many times, I hope for more kindness and tolerance in the world!

I was watching the dnd episode 42 and they talked about something that had to do with the podcast episode 42 and i dont get it can someone explain?

I'm on a deep relisten to the premos at work lately and I noticed two instances:

Ep 121 Slime makes up a character in conversation named Barnabus

Ep 122 When asked what job slime would have in medieval times, he said he would be a fletcher

The ancestors were there from the beginning

Crazy aura going straight back to cases might I add

i introduced her to the yard when we started dating 2 and a half years ago, she didn't follow any streamers or youtubers, and she loves the pod and anything adjacent. we've fallen asleep to the yard, ludwig streams, slime hardcore minecraft vods, tip 2 tip was a ritual every night. she says the bants comfort her because they remind her of our friend group hanging out. and its still playing when i wake up so every morning i get a small reminder for how lucky i am to have such a cool partner and why its worth it to get up in the morning to go to the ball crushing factory. puts me in a good mood.

don't blow it off smoov guys, there's a chill ass viber wife for everyone.

Not on Spotify? Usually posted midday Tuesdays

Yo

Oi bruv viewer here working in security. Chubby Cattle was mentioned at work today, because they are hosting active malware disguised as a captcha. I'm sure they don't realise this however not sure if they are actively aware (I'm pretty sure)

Side note: if a captcha ever asks you to cntrl + c or v, or hit any ddr combo of letters, just don't do it

Anyways, that's about it. Found it quite funny at work and figured I'd sneak in some great internet safety advice at the same time.

Anyways cheers

Edit: mandatory safety reminder. Please do not interact with it or do anything the site says. You have your own brain, please use it

Edit 2: I've had to look into it for work and turns out they have also been hacked and transformed into promoting online gambling (this is now resolved). They really must be having a field day rn getting spit roasted and bukaked in the security world

Edit 3: how tf did I post this twice