r/WeightLossSupport

Hi all, I am about 310lb (originally about ~450lb), but I have been down to 280lb.

So to cut a long story short, I am struggling to lose weight now that I'm in a relationship. I love my partner so much and will never leave her.

The problem I have is that she accepts whatever size I'm at and loves me anyway - and she has insecurities about another lady stealing me so she admits she doesn't want me to lose weight.

So as a consequence I feel she doesn't help me lose weight, she'll offer food above what I should eat, but I'm so happy in our relationship I can't resist.

When I'm focussed, I'm capable of losing weight. She was away for a month a while ago and I was left to my own devices- and I was able to put myself on a downward weight loss trajectory which was awesome. I missed her immensely, maybe I could channel that into weightloss.

But I'm gaining weight again. So I am just after support and encouragement please, how can I make this work? How do I steel my willpower and do this? I can see myself getting fatter in the mirror again. I want to make this work and lose weight.

Thanks in advance for any help.

having a hard time locking in; im a sahm to an 11 month old. lots of responsibilities at home so i find it hard to exercise (i just have a walking pad) when i do have down time im watching tv or on my phone. husband works 3 pm to 11pm. im mainly interested in calorie deficit; still eating the foods i eat but just smaller portions. walking pad daily and cutting out soda. more water. 250 lbs 5’1. goal weight: 200lbs

I've been overweight and obese for majority of my life and I've always followed the tips and tricks I learned from my grandmother who was also a larger woman:

Dry off thoroughly

Powder under any folds

Wear long pants/shorts to prevent thigh chafing

If you can't wear long pants/shorts, use deodorant

And it never failed me, but now I'm dealing with intertrigo. I didn't realize what it was until I happened to lift up my stomach and saw that it was bright, bloody red and irritated. The same for my breast.

I won't be able to make it to the doctor until tomorrow morning, but what can I do in the meantime? It hurts, and I don't want to make it worse.