r/autoromantics

How would you deal with people who like tell you they really like you (romantically or platonically) and say they want to be "close" with you? (idk if admirers is the right word lol)

Idk but for not auto people they tell me to take it just as a compliment, but I feel like it's probably less flattering for auto people because we already love and admire ourselves so much and we don't necessarily appreciate having that from other people (personally, I find it kinda an intrusion).

For me, it can make me kinda jealous... Do you have ways to reduce that? Or would you just try to distance yourself from them instead? I'd love some different perspectives/advice for that and for how I could communicate my disinterest politely but clearly and also feel less intruded upon in general when people act interested in me

Do you all have a preferred version autoromantic flag? I feel I've seen a lot around but we don't really have one "official" one. Not that we need one, but just curious (unless you like really hate the one that we have here and if so PLEASE TELL ME)

I’ve noticed that the queer community usually has some jewelry to signal what orientation they are, like for lesbians it’s the carabiner and for aces it’s the silver rings. What jewelry would auto people have?

Personally I’ve gotten okayish reactions since I only tell really trusted friends, and it’s mostly “oh, cool.” And I know someone else who is also autoromantic

What are some moments where you were misunderstood because of being autoromantic?

Usually I'll go to like the park or sometimes to a cafe that I like. It can be annoying though, because people sometimes think that if you look like you're alone, you want to talk to them... Like, can't you see I'm having a moment? So I often try to go to places with minimal people.

Anyone here who is a sologamist/Self Partnered?

If you haven't married yourself, its okay.

I decided to marry myself via text.

I've seen people one here post about texting themselves and I'm wondering what apps you guys are using because I think it would be fun to actually text myself. :D

When I was really stressed out (going mute, mind shutting down, just not feeling today), I had a talk with myself and cuddled myself.

It really calmed me down when I thought a robot plushie with lavender scent would.

Apparently only my own touch soothes me, whilst others touching me does the opposite.

I think self cuddling can be a form of romantic love in the face of stress.

I think its very important to self cuddle now. It really helped me to talk myself down from the big stress bomb I was in.

Do you guys ever self cuddle?

For me it started somewhere when I was around 12-13 so around 3-4 years now, I didn’t exactly put that label on myself but I was dating myself by that time already and even told a friend of mine! They were actually pretty understanding and we are still friends until now ^^

Additionally, do you guys keep anniversary dates?? If so, how do you celebrate them?

I was trying to write my own boyfriend and he ended up "fusing" with me and became a part of me.

This "fusion" felt like I didn't lose my fictional boyfriend, but instead gained his love and respect through having him become a headmate of some kind.

I feel him and I mentally fusing to be a way of showing myself romantic love in a more autoromantic way.

Has anyone here ever tried being ficto and it ended up going to you being autoromantic still?