r/biracials

When I go to a store or an event in a predominantly white area with my white mom. I noticed they’ll acknowledge her and say hello but either they ignore my existence or just look at me weird. I’ll say comments to my mom about how weird that was, but of course she’s oblivious to it.

Silly question, and I know there's no rule. If you're in a couple like this, what do your kids look like? If your parents are like this, what features do you have?

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Husband and I are trying to conceive and while waiting to get pregnant (and healthy baby is most important ofc), I can't help but wonder what our kid/kids will look like. I think our mix is a bit less common though.

When I see content online with black/white mixed couples and their kids, usually I see either dark-skinned black people with white partners or biracial black people with white partners. I've rarely come across our combination during this search to see what their kids look like. It's just on my mind since we're starting this journey to popping one or two out.

More Context:
I'm black and "light-skinned." So instead of the combination of darker skin + white partner, which would probably produce children that look somewhat like me, it seems more up in the air. But I'm also not actually mixed to the extent that a biracial person is. People often think I'm biracial or Afro-Latina. My mother and her mother are the same, as well as a few other people on my mother's side. Some have green eyes or hazel eyes ( my uncle / mother's brother has light brown hair and green eyes) and my great grandfather on my dad's side had blue eyes and some people were lighter skinned on that side ofc but less so than my mother's side. And most people have darker skin ranging from medium brown to dark brown skin. My father is somewhere in the medium brown category but a bit lighter than what most black people mean when they say "brown skin." My super white husband has dark hair and blue/grey eyes with a bit of green. He had blond hair as a kid and grew out if it, which is common.

...and multiple black women disagree pointing out that they view themselves as more oppressed for their racial identity than their gender. This dialogue occurred on tiktok btw, but it really had me thinking, because I too believe women are more oppressed due to gender. This is also arguably a questionable point to me, because biracial people (women in this case) can identify as biracial/ mixed/ mulatto or black, so they would be black, too. I notice many of the responses were 'we have it harder' or 'you don't go through what we go through', but it feels like we are always struggling with this lack of empathy from our monoracial counterparts. I can empathize with people across multiple aspects of their identity, yet people view us as privileged, which is a hugely inaccurate value judgment.

In my opinion, the oppression that women face globally is possibly more significant than the oppression people face due to ethnicity.

Please note: I am not claiming all men are oppressors either, as men can experience significant social issues as well due to their gender.

Hey so I’m a 50/50 biracial and I looked mixed to most people however some people would consider me black passing. Whenever someone assumes that I am just black I get offended because that’s not what I am and I don’t like when people just assume things. I’m just wondering if this is internalised racism as I don’t have any self hate towards myself I just don’t like when people assume. It would seem weird for me to not correct them because at the end of the day I’m not mono racially black.

I don’t know if it is only me but I have noticed that there’s a stark contrast in the way black+white biracial ppl look depending on the race of the parent. So I’m biracial with a white father and black mother. I’ve noticed biracials with black fathers look more black. While biracials with black mothers look more yt passing. Ever since I’ve noticed this trend I’ve picked up on it with mixed people around me. Those with black fathers are darker have more black features, while the reverse is more evenly split or they just look fully white. I’ve seen exceptions to this phenomenon. But has anyone else noticed this what do you think. I think the male usually has the dominant gene which is why a white fathers kids will look white like him and why black fathers kids will look black like him. Has anyone else noticed this?

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