r/enneagram6

I (almost) always got INFP on tests, but drifted away from it because I slowly stopped relating to the stereotypes, which was kind of a silly thing to do.

I was trying really badly to find my "real" mbti type because there was no way I was an INFP even though INFPs are supposed to be emotional and are "bad at logic since their Te is their lowest function", right? This is what I thought for a long time, and I got a period when I thought I was an ISTJ because I thought it fitted better with 6w5.

I also have an ISTJ mother so I had to develop my Te, and I value Si ; I do like routines, but get tired quickly of the same places.

So, I'm pretty sure I'm an infp 6w5, and this is why I had such a hard time finding my type.
Does anyone relate?

I am writing because I guess my real concern with the enneagram is how I can take concrete, practical steps to move toward a greater level of integration in my life and my inner self. When I take tests I seem to score highest as a 6 or a 9 but I definitely think I am a 6 (unfortunately)😤 I know this may seem like a naive or silly question but it is really what I want to get out of learning about the enneagram.

I will be posting a version of this to every type's subreddit, and when I'm done I'll go back in and edit it with links to every other one for people's interest.

Here are the others: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 7, 8, 9

I’m not anxious like 70% of the time. Also, I’ve been called chill, intimidating, and grounded. Grounded seems crazy for 6.

that’s it :)

Sx6s, from your experience, people with which instinctual variants are the most compatible with you romantically? And with which instinctual variants are the least compatible with you romantically?

Please write if you're sx/sp or sx/so.

Also if you noticed that you tend to be compatible/ incompatible with certain Enneagram types, you can add that as well.

how do phobic sixes tend to deal with conflict and anger as opposed to nines (myself)? As a nine I avoid conflict or wait it out by being passive aggressive or just disappearing and can easily go all day without texting. I know phobic sixes also flee when it comes to conflict but I know they are in the Reactive triad so I'm curious about the nuances here?
Thanks!