u/Belzaw

I’m not anxious like 70% of the time. Also, I’ve been called chill, intimidating, and grounded. Grounded seems crazy for 6.

that’s it :)

I am an ENTP woman and I have a friend who I’m pretty sure is an ISTJ (she got infj on 16p but she’s so not Fe). We’ve been friends for about a year and a half now (met in college) and I feel like she’s been hanging out with me less because she’s started to have more friends. She says it’s not on purpose and that people are just inviting her more, but I also think she doesn’t like to bring up things that would cause conflict.

I’m fine with her having other friends of course, I just find her a bit hard to read. Just curious in general how one would know that an ISTJ actually likes you as a friend.

I will be doing my first solo trip in Europe soon and I was very interested in the Roadhouse hostel in Prague. However, it seems like mixed dorms are the only option. I am a 21 y/o woman and I have never stayed in a mixed dorm before. Does anyone have experience at this hostel or have general advice? Is it better to just find a female dorm at another place? Thanks

I feel like one of my core struggles recently has been an internal battle between wanting to be socially acceptable and dampen my personality and just wanting to be liked for who I am. I don’t think hiding my real self and “adapting” is my nature, but I have a strong desire to be someone people like. Most of the time I just either wish others would change or I give up on trying to be more palatable. But, I have a pretty big fear of ending up alone and disliked by people I care about because of something I did.

So basically, I thought I was an attachment type because of this internal need to be liked by people. But, I’m actually not that adaptable in reality, mostly just insecure. Does this sound like frustration? unrelated? idk

So I recently got into mbti (specifically jungian stuff but I digress) and I discovered I am an ENTP like for sure. I know correlation is like weird and inaccurate but I thought I was an enneagram 9… but ENTP doesn’t make that much sense? like pretty unlikely imo.

This along with some people commenting on my possible 7ishness has really made me wonder if I might actually be a 7. But I know other 7s who are much more extroverted than me. I’m technically an extrovert, but I come across like an introvert until you know me well. I have the occasional intense outburst of anger than 9s are described as having, but now I’m thinking “could this be disintegration to 1?” I do think whichever one I am, I’m either 793 or 973. I’ll provide a description here:

I like excitement and fun activities, but I don’t seek them out all the time and often what’s stimulating to me are solitary activities. I’m also not very risky or reckless. Some things that are engaging to me are dance, theatre, singing, drawing, browsing reddit, meeting with friends, playing games (alone and with friends), having interesting or intellectual conversations, and learning about political theories. I also watch youtube basically any time I have alone time.

It is fairly difficult to motivate myself to do boring things, especially without the pressure of something like school or other important responsibilities. I usually don’t think about goals, especially when they are in the distant future.

When I’m in a bad place in general I become less willing to admit that I’m wrong and I am more distrustful of other’s advice. I’m also less authentic, funny, confident, chill, and more insecure during these times.

I have been told I sometimes seem like I think I’m smarter than others. I do somewhat doubt other people’s conclusions on something I’ve studied because I know I put work into learning it and I doubt that they researched it enough. But, I truly don’t believe in “intelligence superiority” and don’t like that I come off this way.

Like 85% of the time I feel very neutral or numb. I’m also really awkward when people are emotional around me.
It can be somewhat difficult for me to understand why people get emotional about things that I don’t, but I usually try to understand or at least not dismiss them. I do want to be a good friend, but I find myself mainly able to provide solutions or “it’s not that bad” type of advice.

I often use humor as a way of getting people to like me, but I can’t be as entertaining as I’m expected to be sometimes. I can feel somewhat insecure if I’m in a group where someone else is the funny one.

Things people often say about me: “you’re quiet at first but then much more talkative and animated when you come out of your shell,” “you seem lesbian or at least bi,” “you can be quite argumentative,” “[insert something about me having a dominant or intimidating vibe]”

I started college a few years ago and have had a somewhat difficult time making friends. Now I may be over exaggerating, but I have like 3 people in college who I would call real friends, however they’ve been hanging out with me less and less. I have told them about my struggles and they say they aren’t distancing on purpose, but that they’re just getting invited to other’s events more and don’t feel comfortable inviting someone else when they didn’t create the event (which I think I believe). In middleschool and highschool I was always in a friend group of 7+ people for context.

I come off as an introvert, especially at first, but I have a deep desire to have friends and have long discussions with them. I get really scared and unhealthily aware of how I’m coming across when I try to make new friends, which makes me seem less funny and talkative than I can be. I also have intimidating “don’t talk to me” energy apparently.

I have felt more and more that I’m not very comfortable sharing my ideas with others since I come off very argumentative and most of the current friends I have are not the types who do well with being challenged. But this eats at me because the urge to tell someone about things I’m passionate about is so strong. I am also a woman and the way I naturally act is not seen as “womanly” which throws some people off.

I’m thinking it will probably get better but I feel like I’m really restricting major parts of my Ne in order to be more agreeable. If extrovert, why bad at making friends? (I know that’s not really what it means but ykwim)

Taking MBTI as an example, what type(s) would be most likely to figure out their functions by initially going off of what they’re not?

Are you consistently seen as masculine no matter what you do? I just found out I’m an ISTP and I think this might explain people’s reactions towards me. I personally don’t care to be more feminine in personality (I already dress fairly feminine), but I always feel like people are judging or making incorrect assumptions about me for being myself.

I have recently learned that my sister is very likely a 4 (I considered 9 but I don’t really think so anymore). So, I was thinking about her behavior in the context of trying to understand heart types. Is it a fair assumption to say that heart types tend to take their emotions/pain as reality?

Perhaps this is a 4 or BPD specific thing, but she seems to believe that when she feels hurt, it is all the fault of others because her emotional pain is truth. She doesn’t seem to understand that unfortunate circumstances, it being partially her fault, and that people end up hurting each other without malicious intentions are possible explanations. I could also see a similar pattern happening in 2s, possibly 3s as well.

This made me wonder if a general projection of one’s emotional experience onto others is a common pattern with heart types.

For context, I am someone who dances at my university 5 days a week. Sometimes the dances we do require heels and I have some of the best heels for dancing you can get. Somehow, everyone else is fine after dancing in heels while the back of my heels tear off. The most recent time, I even put band aids on beforehand but it still tore. Does anyone know if this sort of thing is related to hypermobility?

I am a college student and when I’m there, I use the on campus gym, but I’m home and I was looking for a gym for like 2-3 months and it’s all so expensive. Lots of sign up fees or only deals on long term memberships. Does anyone have tips on how to get a gym membership for the summer without paying huge fees?