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I’m terminally online so maybe very few have had the same experience as me and I’m gonna sound crazy, but I keep seeing people accuse general misandry/women who say the hate men as something that leads to regression in society and deters us away from progress towards equality. For instance, I’ve seen this take multiple times in discussions about men & feminism: that women who say they hate men or anything similar will deter men who are clueless about feminism from taking interest in it, or it will give them validation to believe in misogynist rhetoric. I just really get annoyed by this take tbh because I feel like if we’re talking about adult men here I feel like they should be mature enough to care about women having basic rights regardless of how they feel about the takes of women on the internet. I feel like it takes away all the responsibility from men it puts it all on women to hold their hand like we have to be a mom.

Recently I wanted to watch a video on white feminism. The video was responding to a TikTok that was saying that male violence is the root of all issues, and it brought up an example from violent racist attacks happening in Germany. The video critiques the TikTok for saying that patriarchy is the only problem when in reality it’s a part of a beast that also includes racism, ableism, etc; and that the TikTok ignores when women (especially white women) participate in upholding white supremacy and the patriarchy. I agree with this. At certain points the video also dabbled into how thinking that men are the only capable ones of committing violence ends up hurting women who get deemed “too violent” by society when they stand up for themselves and are no longer considered women and people of color as colonialists in the past would use the image of the “pure and vulnerable white woman” as a rallying cry to harm and colonize men of color who they deemed as “dangerous savages”. I totally see what the video was explaining. If anyone wants the link to the video I’ll give it.

However, what made me feel irked was this one comment in the comment section of the video that said “A lot of this bio-essentialist anti-male content on TikTok is essentially ‘Boys Will Be Boys’ but with a woke slant.” I hate bio-essentialism as a woman who does not fit gender expectations, but I don’t think that implying that all women who have an “anti-male” mindset believe in bio-essentialism is an accurate representation. For my own journey I just feel chronically disappointed with the majority of men, and I personally have more peace of mind through feeling indifferent about them; but I completely understand where women who make comments on the internet like “I hate men” or “I’m exhausted of men” are coming from, and it seems they mean is in a sense after seeing so many men continue to be complicit in the patriarchy rather than thinking they’re “inherently evil” or “violent”. I probably need more education on this kind of topic, but I just feel like a lot of people keep assuming that every single woman who is “anti-male” are leading to regressive ideas. I’m not saying that there are some out there that are actually regressive because it falls into white feminist ideas like the example of the TikTok; but most other cases of what people call misandry content is usually just women venting.

As a woman with small boobs, no ass, and my stomach being the most protruding part of my body, I know what I'm talking about lmao

All those "are you a boob guy or an ass guy" questions quietly assume one thing: that the woman in question already has a more or less flat stomach. If she doesn't, no amount of curves will save her. Hell, she can have no curves at all, and as long as she has a flat stomach, she will still be considered attractive by waaay more guys than any woman whose stomach is far from being fat.

And this is why I hate being a woman - guys need to get some muscles to level up their physical attractiveness, but for women, it's much more about the fat tissue placement and where it's located. And while you can easily gain muscle (when you're a guy), try telling your body where to store fat. Thank God liposuction exists, but at the same time, it's depressing that I have to go under the knife and pay quite a lot just to have a body that other women have from the get go simply because they didn't lose on the genetic lottery and I did.

i could probably get (terrible) chaser sex if i downloaded grindr because im supposedly “pretty” (psyop) but i need love before sex and no man will ever love a woman like me so i remain a virgin femcel

When you were born, you took your mother's last name.
She had the name of her mother before her.
That was your bachelor name.

When you were young, you'd tick "Mr." on forms.
Mr. Bachelor Name.
Then you got married.
You took your wife's last name, as per the custom.

When you're filling out forms today,
you tick "Mim."
Man in Matrimony.
Mim. Married Name.

When you have kids, of course they'll take the family name.
Your wife inherited this name from her mother.
It's your family now too.
Your inheritance and your legacy.