r/flrdating

Imagine hearing my voice and realizing that, for once, you don't have to carry everything.. you just have to follow through. I know you’re tired of the charade. That mask of the ‘capable man’ you wear every day just to get through life. I can feel how exhausted you are from carrying the weight of your own decisions. Imagine the relief of handing it all over to a woman who actually knows what to do with you.

I'm looking for a naturally submissive man who’s ready to stop pretending he doesn’t crave deeper connection and a woman capable of leading it. Someone who genuinely enjoys belonging to a superior woman and takes pride in following her lead. I enjoy dynamics built on trust, clear communication, and genuine altruism. The kind where effort is noticed, loyalty matters... a D/s relationship that isn’t just about restriction but a little liberation too.

A bit about me:
I’m a writer, business owner, and natural leader who loves depth, intention, and the thrill of a deep FLR. As for kink.. I enjoy body worship, teasing, verbal seduction, face-sitting, chastity, feet, pegging, spanking... No drugs, or scat.

I love sneaky, stolen moments too. The kind where you're sitting in a meeting or walking through a crowded store and your phone lights up with a message from me. That sudden little shift. That realization that I’ve just entered your thoughts again (perhaps I’ve been living rent free in your head all along). Could be a reward, could be a task.. could just be something you don’t want to get wrong.

If you’ve read this far, come closer. Tell me your age (28+ preferred), where you’re from (US preferred), and why you think we’d be a good fit. And.. just so we’re clear from the start -in your first message- you address me properly. It’s Mistress or Ma’am. 👑

Hope to hear from you soon.

To the dommes; do you like the idea of fighting over control until you end up on top? Can you handle a bit of brattyness and resistance? Or do you expect complete submission, control and obedience?

I often hear women say they aren't a kink dispenser, which is totally fair. but it's also fucking hilarious bc the average female ad here is like "obese woman, looking for total slave. you have to be 6'5 tall and have abs of steel. (you MUST go to the gym and workout) and while i'm looking for a submissive, you actually have to be super masculine ass kicker in every other part of your life who's such a stud that you have super models lining up to be with you. But you firmly reject those big boobed, super models who own yachts, because you're ultimate fantasy is to rub my feet (I have bunions), and the only way you can achieve orgasm is through the pleasure you get from unclogging my bathtub drain. And if you even DARE ask what I have to offer, that means you're not really a true submissive, you're just a fetishist, but y'all ain't ready for that conversation"

I’ve been reading through some posts on this sub and I think from the variety of different people looking for partners, this is probably a perfect place to ask this question.

For people looking for long term, monogamous relationships, FLR with a deep dynamic… how much of an age gap feels acceptable to you?

I’ve been observing online discourse about age gap relationships and I think it’s good the majority of the younger folks frown upon gaps that are too large.

Personally (and ideally) I don’t want more than five years in either direction. I’m in my late 40s. I know there are gendered stereotypes regarding acceptable age gaps and that makes it tricky to give a blanket answer. I struggle with having people 10+ yrs younger than me trying to date me. I don’t think the intention is geared towards more than sex most times. And being F (she/they) I deal with some serious judgements about my life and body. I sometimes find people in their mid-30s attractive, but it’s getting weirder to agree to dates or even entertain talking romantically.

Does anyone have personal insight or experience with a FLR dynamic where there has been a noticeable age gap?

About me: I’m divorced, a convert/revert (ethnically white if it matters), and I have primary custody of a small child. I have a couple grad degrees but I currently write for a living. I enjoy travelling, reading, gardening, hiking, knitting and embroidery. I have a curvier/fuller body type. I wear hijab and dress modestly.

I’m located 1.5 hours north of Toronto and quite settled (own a home etc) but I am potentially able to relocate for the right person. This would require you to be willing and able to make a visit here within a month of us talking to ensure compatibility in person.

About you: I am attracted to men who are quite dominant, successful, masculine, and confident outside the home. Age doesn’t matter to me, I’m open to younger or older. You should have a provider mindset and ideally in future I would either stay home with the kids or work part time if necessary.

Physicality isn’t a dealbreaker but I tend to be attracted to taller and broader/stronger men. You must either be Muslim or willing to convert. I’m not looking to have a sexual relationship prior to nikkah. I would like to have children in the next few years.

What I’m into:
-Getting my way
-Micromanaging and controlling you
-Bullying you
-Sexual aggression, being mean
-Slavery, you as my property
-Service, you cooking for me, feeding me, bathing me, washing my hair
-Body worship
-Orgasm control and denial
-Being sexually selfish
-Being adored, the highlight of your day, your compass, your purpose

What I’m not into:
-Role reversal. Nothing about a house husband appeals to me and taking on masculine roles wouldn’t come naturally to me. Outside the home, you’re in charge. You lead, protect, and provide. Behind closed doors, you’re mine.

-Feminization. Nothing about a feminine man appeals to me. The stronger and hairier you are, the better

-Someone who wants to be forced to submit. I’m not looking to wrestle you into this. I want a strong man who is capable of taking control if he wanted, but actively chooses to kneel at my feet.

-Anything short term, casual, online, etc

Please only message me if you’re serious, you know what you want, and you’re ready to pursue something marriage-shaped.

I’m unlikely to respond to low effort replies.

Met someone they passed all verification. I saw her, she said my name, and we was even on FT lol. As we start approaching the session she is adding and changing price. Every day something happens and she needs 50-80 for last min things or incidentals. Long story short when I finally get smart what would you think. I say no to sending and our session is over now. I’m bout tired of this fetish fr lmk if this is common.

Relationship only. Anywhere un the USA or Canada.

looking for men with any one of these fetishes:

●Muscular women

●Cuckold (optional, not required)

●Men being degraded/humiliated

●Petplay (you're the pet)

●Sadistic Femdom (NOT gentle)

●Futanari

●Big Clits 4"inches on a very muscular women

●pegging using huge clit/toys

●JOI to huge boobs

●Belly inflation

●Sissification, while the woman is masculinization

●Golden showers (you receive)

●RoleRoversal /FLR

●small penis humiliation (sph)

if you have any of these messages me with the one you're into or multiple

this is for Long term roleplay only.

Please message me wirh the ones tou like and how old are, and a physical description.

I’ve been on Fet for a while now but only recently have been engaging more. I’ve had quite a few guys message me with subject lines “cash” or “spoil you” or “2k a month”, etc. I’ve engaged with a couple - it seems like they either want you to domme them, be their online sub, etc. Has anyone actually done this? Is it legit or is it some kind of scam? I don’t want to be taken advantage of but I also wouldn’t mind some extra cash right now. Plus some of it does sound fun. I’m just cautious as online stuff and payments can be risky.

I’m a Dominant & feminine Princess looking for my life partner. I’m looking for a deep emotional connection, passion, and compatibility.

In a relationship I am a Princess 👑 - I like a partner who takes pride in serving me in all aspects of our life. I enjoy being adored, pampered & worshipped, and having a partner who truly loves being of service.

About me…

Born & raised in SoCal. Own my own business + consult. Open minded & intelligent. Feminine & nurturing. Positive & optimistic. Non promiscuous. Sapiosexual. A true partner who will support your innermost ambitions.

YOU should be…
- Looking for a LTR and love
- Highly intelligent, decisive, ambitious, confident, a big thinker, and an accomplished leader who can take take calculated risks
- A gentleman who loves treating his partner like a Princess, and enjoys sensual intimacy - worshipping, being obedient/submissive/service 🙇‍♂️ + some suffering
- Someone with strong character, emotional intelligence and integrity; masculine, open minded, empathetic, expressive, communicative, mature, level headed, supportive, chivalrous, kind, caring, consistent
- Someone who enjoys managing our day-to-day life to ensure my comfort and pleasure, and is devoted to making decisions that support my growth and happiness
- Seeking a well rounded connection where kink is a natural, fulfilling extension of the emotional connection
- Age ~30-52, any race/religious background, preferably spiritual
- Capable of courting in a traditional way

(I have had a sub/slave before. No casual - I date for marriage. If you are interested in finding a serious connection, reach out via DM)

My priority is finding a genuine, kind hearted partner and a compatible intellectual and emotional connection. There are varying dynamics I am open to with the right partner.

My Interests:
Entrepreneurship, hiking, real estate, interior design, deep chats, working out, restaurants, travel, tech, spirituality, being social, personal growth

Other Basics:
5’3” | Liberal politics | Practicing Muslim | Mixed Black & Arab (LA born) | Prev married | Kids | Monogamous | Strict but loving/sensual Domme |📍Los Angeles

I'm a slim/athletic university student living in London, with a major interest in Femdom. I've been interested for a while, and my last relationship allowed me to really explore it for the first time, and now I need more. I'm pretty kinky, incredibly dominant but very gentle (trust me VERY domme, VERY gentle), looking for online play that could maybe lead to IRL in the future.

Kinks (non-exhaustive): JOI, edging, milking, anal play, toy play, body worship, gooning, orgasm control, giving instructions

About you:

I'm looking for a submissive around my age (18-30), and I have a preference for muscular or slim builds. I want you to be obsessed, obedient and attractive. Toys of any kind are a bonus! Dick size does not matter to me, but general hygeine is important. You must be comfortable sharing yourself (I have posts and will also share more of myself). UK/Europe based is preferrable for potential IRL but anyone is welcome. I expect an ASL, and to be called mommy/ma'am/miss, whichever you prefer. I am very gentle and respectful, I hope to recieve the same respect. Tell me your kinks and limits, then ask me how you can be of service, hopefully we can get up to some mischief together xD

A bit about me: I’m a writer at heart and I tend to view the world through a lens of nature, introspection, and a touch of wit. I value a life that feels grounded and intentional; I maintain a meditation practice and I have also started practicing yoga. I am 169cm tall, 100kg and shrinking). I am a big girl who is comfortable in my body. I am Southeast Asian. Obscuring my nationality/heritage only to avoid redditors who are just out to fetishize.

I have never been a fan of the "swiping culture" or the shallow nature of most dating apps. I’m looking for a connection that is real, intentional, and moves beyond surface-level chatter. I’m not here for aimless texting; I’m looking for something meaningful.

What I’m drawn to: I value quiet confidence, emotional maturity, and a steady sense of consistency. I find it incredibly attractive when I can learn from someone—whether it’s a perspective on their career, a life lesson, or just a unique way of seeing the world. Smart, affectionate, consistent.

The "fine print": I am strictly child-free and not looking to change that. I’d prefer someone in a similar life stage who values a calm, independent, and intentional lifestyle.

Lifestyle: I’m a remote professional who values flexibility. I split my time between my country's capital city and various beach towns.

Connection: I’m looking for someone who appreciates depth and isn't afraid of a conversation that goes down a few rabbit holes.

If this resonates with you, please send a message including your age and where you’re from. I’d love to hear a little bit about what makes you *you*.

Wishing you a wonderful week! 🐚✨

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I can't think of anything more wonderful or anything that would suit me more than an FLR. I find it very exciting to think that there may be a woman out there who wants this too

I am not sure exactly what form the relationship would take. I’m submissive so I like to please my partner. (I am actually dominant in everyday life. I would only be submissive to you.) Much would obviously depend on you and your wishes and desires. Also, I don't think relationships fit so neatly into a boxes. Every relationship is different. You got to find what works for you as a couple.

The bottom line is you would be the boss and HoH. You have the final word. My role would be to support and listen to you, heed your advice and wishes and learn from you so I can be the man you want. Kink may or may not be part of the relationship. Very open to exploring this if this is what my partner wants. (As I say, I like to please my partner)

Saying all this, for this to work for me there would have to be a disciplinary element to the relationship. I need boundaries and a woman who will spank me when she decides this is necessary. I know this might seem harsh and even cruel to some, but this is really not how I see it. I am not masochist. I don’t enjoy pain, but I know the spankings would be given out of love with the aim to instruct and improve me. I am very deeply attracted to a woman who can take charge in this way. I would adore her.

I am based in the UK, but these relationships are so hard to find and so special I would certainly consider long distance. Oceans would be no obstacle; I will swim to you if I have to!

I keep fit and eat healthy food so I am in good shape. I am 6ft..I look young for my age (I think). I have my hair shaved close. I am white English. Blue-eyes. I don't smoke. Don't drink (these days)

Have a wide range of vanilla interests. Too many to list here. Love nature, the arts, literature and good company. Love to cook. I am spiritual. I meditate. Bit of a wanderer by nature. Have lived all over the world.

Ideally I’d like to find a long term relationship with all the usual components: love, lust and romance. Seeking someone I’m compatible with on many levels, not just physically. Someone who reads preferably

Say hello. I would love to hear from you.

Hello, are you also cooking under the heat?

It's finally easing off for the night. But still, it's so hot.

Im looking for a genuine irl flr centered around kink

Me:

- 29 years young

- Into nerdy stuff, manga, games, you name it. What board games you got?

- kinky, into cuckolding, chastity, getting rimmed. Mainly interested in my own pleasure not yours.

- quite happy in life, I'm more of a let's crack on with it type of person

- slim to average, I try to exercise daily, if it wasn't for this heat.

- got a nice butt

You:

- if you have a relationship, an existing dynamic or a sub, I'm not interested, sorry.

- must be living in the UK, sorry foreigners, you are hot!

- below 50 years old, above 18.

- interested in cuckolding and chastity

I promise I'll respond to anyone who has genuinely read and made an effort, even if it's to say no thanks and good luck (well, in the next 48 hours, after that I might not be here of course)

Edit - I think people are not taking it well when I reply that it won't work out, so I I think I will just not reply if i don't think it will work out, but I do hope you find what you are seeking to those people!