r/gayjews

I’m North African/Arab, but I’ve noticed that I’m overwhelmingly attracted to Jewish men, and I’m wondering if anyone has had a similar experience.
I grew up in a neighborhood with a large Jewish community and was surrounded by Jewish people for most of my life before eventually moving to Europe. Interestingly, I never really felt like I completely belonged in my own Arab/North African community. I often felt more comfortable and understood around Jewish people, and I still find myself feeling a strong sense of familiarity or connection with the Jewish community.
When it comes to dating, I’m also generally not attracted to Arab men, while Jewish men are very much my type. I’m wondering whether this could be connected to my upbringing and the environment I grew up in, rather than simply being a physical preference.
Does anyone else have a similar experience of being attracted to a community/culture that isn’t their own, especially because they grew up around it? Or am I overthinking the connection between childhood environment, cultural familiarity, and attraction?

Hey! My friend lives in Israel and has a hateful roommate. My friend is straight but his bro is gay so he cares a lot. He wants to decorate his door with pride. Can y’all recommend gay Jewish artists, especially Israeli ones, with decent prices? He’s a lone soldier so low budget unfortunately. TIA!

Hi everyone, I will be visiting NYC for the first time this September. I want to consume as much culture as possible while I am there and would love some local recommendations.

I am really interested in checking out the local music and nightlife scene. I am open to rock, electronic, classical, and modern, basically anything as long as the music is actually good. I am interested mainly in independent alternative events.

I would also love to explore the queer scene. However, given the current climate and strictly for my own peace of mind and safety, I am looking for welcoming spaces (Jewish) that do not define themselves as anti-Zionist.

Thanks in advance for any tips.

Hi, I know this isn't necessarily a convert subreddit but it is a queer subreddit so I'm looking for a little help. I'm very interested in exploring Judaism but I'm having trouble getting in constant communication with the local Reform Synagogue. So I thought lets try the orthodox ones unfortunately they have a dress code and while I have no problem covering my elbows I'm AFAB non-Binary and get severely upset wearing skirts.

Does anyone have any suggestions for clothes that follow the dress code? I know the obvious answer here is "wear trousers under the skirt" but that is still rough for me. If there ISN'T a work around please just say and I'll try a bit harder to get in contact with the local Reform Synagogue.

Hello. This is a sincere question which I hope can be allowed here. So I have queer Jewish friends who invite me now and then for shabbat. Personally I’ve contemplated converting and was cautioned that even born Jews who are gay experience getting turned away from the synagogue (individual policies vary).

It‘s not that I intend to out myself to every single person or carry the rainbow flag; rather, I want to be able to be authentic and not constantly be cautious about hiding this central part of my being.

I’m interested to hear your experiences, if that’s okay

I briefly explained my thoughts

I recently came out of the chareidi world and one of the things I'm really struggling with is trying to speak to Hashem about the gay relationship I'm now in. I have this intense fear that if I ask Him to help me with my relationship then He will just end it because "that's really what's best for me", it's like I still have it hard-wired into my brain that being gay is wrong, even though I dont believe it, and that Hashem will use my tefillos against me and take away the person I'm in love with, but I know Hashem isn't evil, chas veshalom, and doesn't play mind games. I'm just terrified of "getting what I asked for", I remember a rav once telling me that the best thing two gay people can do if they love each other is not be together because that's the greatest expression of love. Like hearing that was so traumatising and has seriously messed me up, like I obviously trusted him at the time and actually foolishly agreed with what he said. And now that I'm coming out of it all, it feels like everyone who loved me in the community only loved me for the version of myself that I showed them.

I just feel so alone in the world at the moment and I don't know how to find my way

If anyone has any advice I would be very grateful, and if anyone would be willing to maybe be friends with me and we can support each other through this stuff that would be amazing. My partner isn't Jewish so a lot of the chareidi stuff he really doesn't understand. Feel free to DM me if you'd be up to chat :)

I’m a mizhrahi jew in a country where there aren’t many jews, and whenever I meet one they’re ashkenazi. I feel kinda lonely because I probably never will meet anyone like me in real life, especially in my university. To add more im a lesbian and i’ve never meet any LGBTQ jew in person.. I wish i could be in a place with more people like me.
Since im not religiously jewish, everything is more on the cultural and ethnic side, but id love to hear some responses to my lonely gay mizahri story lol

i’ve been wondering about something and would love to hear how different people/denominations approach this halakhically: what happens when someone is descended from a Jewish woman who later converted to another religion? does the maternal Jewish lineage continue to have any halakhic significance, or does her conversion change the status of her descendants in some way? i’m especially curious about how this is treated when the family has been disconnected from Judaism for a few generations and there’s limited documentation, rather than this being a purely theoretical question.

this is also personally relevant to me because i’m a trans guy, and chabad is currently the only jewish connection i have access to locally. would i be able to participate in jewish life there, even if there are halakhic disagreements about gender? i’m not necessarily expecting an orthodox community to share my understanding of gender; i’m mostly wondering whether i’d be welcomed as a person and be able to learn, attend services, and connect with the community. if anyone has experience with trans people in chabad, particularly in india, i’d really appreciate hearing about it. i’m hesitant because this is essentially my only local avenue to reconnect with my jewish heritage.

Hi all. I’m 31F, my girlfriend is 28F and Jewish; I’m not. She’s not out to her family. I hope it’s okay to post here; I’d rather learn from people who’ve actually lived this than keep guessing from the outside.

I’m mostly curious how it’s gone for those of you who dated someone outside the community while still closeted at home. Did it make things harder? How did you handle family expectations about dating and marriage in the meantime? And for anyone who eventually came out — what shifted, what made it possible? For those who haven’t, what does making it work day to day actually look like?
I’m not asking whether to stay. I love her and I’m here. I just want to understand this better and be a good partner in it.
Thanks for reading.