r/genderqueer

Hey everyone,

I’ve identified as demigirl for a few years now after knowing something hasn’t felt entirely right for basically my whole conscious life. It still feels like a fitting label for me - most of the time. Sometimes I feel less like I wanna use the word ‘demigirl’, especially in certain contexts. It’s not that I’m embarrassed/ashamed to say that I am demigirl, a lot of the time I just can’t be bothered to explain to people what it means. Plus, sometimes I don’t like using the label since the word ‘girl’ is still in it.

So my question is: can I swap between labels? Can I say I’m genderqueer and also say I’m demigirl?

I hope this makes sense lol, thanks in advance!

Hi. I am 18/19 years old. I was born a girl and ever since my freshman year I have wanted to be more of a boy. I would always watch LGBTQ shows mainly with 2 boys together. This would be in my mind 24/7 and I was always wishing that I was a boy. Eventually this thought went away and I haven’t thought about it since.
Now that I am 18 I have met the LOML and we live together and do everything together. He is transgender FTM. Ever since a couple of months ago my thoughts came back about wanting to be a boy. I admire my bf a lot and I think a lot about wanting to be more like him. Ex. Wanting to look more like him, wanting to see if I could become like him, wanting to see how I would look and feel. When we are in bed I love to be called “good boy” and handsome, and etc. but I still want to be his girl but want to be more of a boy? Is it too late to transition? Is it all just in my head?

Hi. I'm 22, born female and for over 4 years now I've been struggling a lot... I live with my fiance (21 f) and everything is fantastic except... sex. It's not like I'm not enjoying it cause i really do, it's just that i don't like the way I'm receiving pleasure from that. To be straight - I can't stand having a puss during our intimate activities.

Overall i don't like being feminine, I don't feel like a full woman and i hate being called one, but it doesn't bother me being one in my daily life.

Only when it comes to sex i can't stand it. I wouldn't call myself trans cause i don't feel like a man nor a woman at all.

I developed huge body dysmorphia just beacuse i simply don't have a penis. I like who I am but I forbid myself taking pleasure from intimacy with my love, cause everytime she is trying (and even tho i physically enjoy it) I stop her, start crying and ruin all the mood.

I just wish i was different and could take pleasure like men do.

I'm weird. I don't like it. Am i going crazy? What's wrong with me?

Sorry if it's chaotic, I'm not fluid in English.

Hi there.

I’ve been considering wearing a binder for some time now (if I can figure out how to ask my parents) and wanted to know if there was any rules (ex: how many times a week, how many hours a day) that I should know. Is it even ok to wear a binder at a 12-16 age range or can it harm the development of your breasts?
Also I would greatly appreciate it if someone had any recommendations for good places to buy binders that ship to Europe, and/or places to avoid.

Thank you so much. :D

Hi! I've been questioning my gender for a few months and feel kinda stuck, so I thought I'd ask for external advice/opinion/insights here :) I'll try to keep this short...try being the key word here.

Anyway, so I'm afab, and a few years ago when I learned about the concept of non binary genders I immediately felt interested in it, like i could see myself in that. I questioned my gender for a couple of weeks, finally landed on the term demigirl as what fit the most, and then discarded it thinking that I was just making shit up to feel special.

Fast forward to present, i'm questioning again. The thing is, I don't really have dysphoria, I've had body dysmorphia from a very young age, but nowadays I do like having a female body. So, no gender dysphoria (when im questioning there are days when I do want to hide my chest, but I think I'm probably just making that up). But, I have been experimenting and I feel like I identify with a female identity as much as with a non-binary one. She/her pronouns feel right, but so do they/them, and I love when people use them for me. I don't want to be a man, but I LOVE crossdressing and painting a beard and moustache on, I love when I play being a man/ boy. I've started wearing men's boxers and don't wanna wear panties anymore lol.

I've always had issues with my femininity, always wanted to be "not like the other girls", but I think in my case that was internalised misoginy, and I felt very unconfortable with my female features being perceived by others as a teen, but again, I think that happens to many girl teens cause we don't want to be sexualized (i'm acespec too, so there's that).

Sooooo I think I'm coming to the conclusion that maybe I'm just a genderqueer woman (as in, yeah I guess I identify as a woman -though im not so sure-, but I have a queer relationship with gender as well?). But I would like to have some outside insights as well.

Yeah so, keeping it shorts didn't work. Kudos if you reached the end, I guess haha. And many thanks in advance!

Hey yall,

I am a 42 year old gender queer person who was assigned female at birth. Ive never taken hormones and got top surgery.

Wondering if anyone has navigated taking estrogen or low dose of T to deal with symptoms of peri menopause. I unfortunately have learned my new work insurance won't cover "gender identity support care" which largely is political language to say no trans Healthcare.

My original plan was the moment I felt symptoms to use a micro dose of t to balance my hormones.

My biggest concern on taking estrogen would be any changes in my body that'd trigger dysphoria. I have no dysphoria taking the meds if they'll help. I just really want to avoid any feminization of my body or face. Ive been lucky to have a "butch body" and attributes.

Has anyone taken hormones for peri? Or can point me somewhere?

Thanks!