r/herpes_dating

40 years old

Single mom

5'5 170lbs

Missouri

Age range 35-45

Not a hook up kinda gal

Ms fishes

I’ve been talking to a guy for about 2 years now but it’s been on and off. We haven’t officially dated but have had a sexual relationship. I texted him tonight telling him that I think I have herpes. I believe it came from him because he’s the only one I’ve had sex with for about 10 months now. My test results showed negative for herpes but I have been having symptoms for a week now. So I think I’ve been recently exposed to the virus.

This is our text thread (sorry for the profanity) 😭 I wasn’t expecting his reaction but I’m not surprised since it’s concerning a std. I just feel hurt right now because I’ve really been liking him for a while. I was hoping for a relationship one day because the past couple of years he’s been working on himself and getting his life together but now it looks like that’s out the window 😕. He has exposed me to other STDs in the past but we continued to talk. I feel dumb typing this because I know I should have moved on the first time I caught something from him. Idk… I’m just venting. Should I believe him that I’ve been the only he’s been having sex with?

A few months ago, I posted here about building a better dating app for our community. Hundreds of you reached out, signed up for early access, and gave feedback that genuinely shaped what I built.

Kind is officially live on iOS & Android.

iOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/kind-premium-hsv-dating/id6776385947
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.subtxt.kind
Website: https://kind.date/

Here’s just a few things that make Kind different:

Verified users
Every user is photo-verified before entering the app. Verification is handled automatically, and the photos are permanently deleted immediately afterward. No human reviews or stores them.

Personalized discovery
Kind doesn’t give everyone the same random swipe deck. You calibrate what you’re attracted to, and the feed ranks people based on your preferences, profile quality, and activity. It continues learning and re-ranking as you use it.

There’s also Spotlight for people active right now and Grid View for faster browsing.

Privacy & discretion
Your HSV data is encrypted before it reaches the database. Verification photos are never stored. (More information on this in the original post linked below)

You can also:

• Block contacts from ever seeing your profile
• Enable biometric app locking and auto-blur
• Blur faces in photos
• Control notifications and feed visibility
• Block screenshots inside the app

Hard filters
If you set a preference, Kind respects it. You won’t continually be shown people outside the filters you selected.

Kind+
Kind+ is application-only, with its own curated discovery feed and community. Effort matters, members who put real work into their profiles are rewarded for it.

Advocacy Hub
Kind also has a built-in HSV advocacy hub. Taking action on awareness and advocacy can earn you additional visibility in the app. Supporting the community should be rewarded, not monetized.

Founding members are free for life.
The first users from this community are founding members. Free. For life. Full access, forever. That's my thank you to the people who believed in this before it existed, and will likely keep it that way until we reach a couple thousand members. After that, Kind will be $9.99/month for anyone who joins after the cutoff period with everything included.

No paying to see who liked you.
No paying to message.
No boosts for sale.

There's so much more under the hood that I didn't cover here, and i will continue to add more features as time goes on.

I built Kind myself, as someone who actually has HSV and uses the same app and discovery feed as everyone else. If something isn’t good enough, I experience it too.

This is Version 1. I’ll continue improving the design, technology, matching system, and features based directly on what the community tells me.

And one important thing: this is day one.

The technology is live, but the community is still growing, so it may feel quiet at first. Every new person who joins creates another potential match for everyone else, and the matching system gets better as the network grows.

If you download Kind and believe in what I’m building, please help spread the word. If you know someone who has struggled with dating after their diagnosis, send it to them. Even an upvote on this post helps more people in this community find out that Kind exists.

My goal is for the foundation of Kind to come from this community first. From there, growing it through marketing, partnerships, and outreach is my job.

I’ll keep building, improving, scaling, and listening. My DMs are open, and I read everything. If you have feedback, questions, or something you want added, tell me.

Original post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/Herpes/comments/1ryduc2/the_hsv_dating_app_we_all_deserve/

^ That post goes much deeper into the technical, security, privacy, and product decisions behind Kind.

I’ll answer any questions in the comments or via DM.

I made a post basically open for dating, he inboxed me, we talked, he blocked me 😭

I’m flabbergasted though bc in all honesty, where was my attitude at?? 😂 He blocked me so I can’t ask him, maybe y’all can 👀