r/herpes_dating

So, I (36M) have been HSV-2 positive for about a year now, and have been talking to this woman (37F), who isn't positive, for about a month. We met up a couple of weekends ago and the date went really well! We really aligned on a lot of important issues, and both of us felt comfortable in each other's presence. So a couple of days go by and we started discussing about a second date. That's when I told her about my condition.

Obviously, she was very conflicted. She didn't want to break our connection over something that is out of our control, but she also already struggles with body image issues and adding an STI to the mix would truly devastate her. We went on a second date to talk it out and she confided in me in more detail about her trepidations. She doesn't want to make me feel bad for having it, and she still wants to keep talking and potentially remain friends while exploring her comfort levels with me, but there is also a lot of sexual tension and energy between us, and being "just friends" doesn't seem to be very likely with our heavy flirting and sexual natures...

My question/appeal for advice, is this: Is it morally wrong for me to continue this connection knowing how hesitant she is about getting HSV-2 from me, while also knowing how sexually attracted we are to each other?

I feel like both of us are too polite to cut each out of our lives. Even though I have to take her at face value that she genuinely wants to keep talking and exploring things with me, I worry that if I continue to talk and build a connection with this woman (and "making" her have feelings for me), I'm at risk of being accused of "coercion" or "emotionally manipulating" her.

I guess I'm just not used to someone wanting to "put themselves in harms way" for me, and I wonder if I should break things off before it becomes too serious and she ends up getting it too. It was easy for me to say yes to the risk of getting HSV-2 from my ex. Self-sacrifice has always been an unhealthy "love language" for me. I just want to know if any of you are willing to share your stories or advice with me, thank you!

I would love to hear.

Was it worth it?

Would you do it again?

I met the greatest guy who disclosed to me he has hsv2. I’m embarrassingly uneducated about this, and the research I’ve found isn’t great. We have open communication, he hasn’t had an outbreak in about 10 years, and is on antivirals. I’m so scared of the possibility of contracting it… even from kissing. Does anyone have any positive stories? Or advice?

So ive met someone and we've been talking for about a month now. I think after talking for about 3/4 days I told her that I have it.

At first she was scared and rightfully so. But I told her that im in the antivirals, doing what i need to to in order to be safe. We set up timelines/boundaries for the intimacy stuff. And were both sticking to said boundaries. Cause I want to make her as comfortable as possible. She did her own research, and she found more horror stories then happy endings. I did my own research and found the same outcome. I also found the statistics of transferring it.. which is less then 10%. We even talk about it just in general to help her get comfortable with it.

Fast forward a month. We are still talking everyday, had a handful of dates and everything. The only thing for her to really move this to the next stage(officially dating). Is her fear of her getting it. Again I completely understand her worries about.

None of these sub are being used as supposed on that note a lot of yall research comes from ChatGPT or google and most of you here just make people worry and question on that note I’m off this i got all the info I needed to know thanks to research and official doctors… blessing to all

Are there any straight - heterosexual men here with hsv1? HSV1 in the tri-state area ?

29 Black American Female moving to Dallas soon.
Send message if you want to connect.

F 26 bi 4’11 I got diagnosed in march and now I’m lost lmao message me tho

EDIT: NOT INTERESTED IN MEN.

WLW living in Northern Cali looking for other women around my age with the same diagnosis. Would love to find someone I hit it off with in hopes it will lead to a bestie with benefits.

I tried the apps but theres no one I feel like I really connected with. & Honestly, hella uggos. lol

About me:
Independent, easy going, semi-alt, tattooed cutie with a great sense of humor & a fat ass

I really want more friends i live in central dallas i am a straight Female looking for Female Christian FRIENDS ( im open to males but prefer females because im a girls girl) , i enjoy all kinds of hobbies Like , shopping , exercise, nail shop dates , travel , kdrama , park painting etc .

What’s up y’all. I’m a 26-year-old guy in Houston trying to meet more genuine people and build a real friend group. Most of my time lately has been work, gym, and figuring life out, so I’m trying to get out more instead of staying stuck in the same routine.
A little about me:
Into fitness/weightlifting
Old school hip hop & sports
HVAC background
Down for gym sessions, pickup basketball, car meets, food spots, gaming, UFC fights, or just chilling
Trying to improve myself mentally, physically, and financially
Open to meeting both male and female friends — mainly just good people with positive energy who actually want to hang out and do things around the city.
If anybody’s trying to connect or has recommendations for groups/events/apps in Houston, let me know.