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Hello im looking foe advice so please be understanding lol.

im a hijabi and i have been a hijabi for the past 5 years by choice. For the past year i have been wanting to remove it for several reasons but a part of me doesnt want to either but the feeling to remove it has been big now more than ever, i would like to share my reasons for some advice:

1. i live in the west specifically UK where current attacks on muslims/ hijabis is bigger than ever, i live far from my family and im scared something will happen as previously a few years ago a group of boys threw rocks at me and attempted to shout islamaphobic slurs, im a bit scared for my safety being visibly muslim and a coloured female.

2. i was followed by a much older man when i was out shopping solo, he followed me and approached me in and he touched my arm demanding that i tell him where im from and if im muslim which was obvious because of my hijab, it really scared me and idk if he wouldve done that if i wasnt visibly muslim.

3. this is a worldly reason and i understand but its still making me feel burdened but i miss the simplicity of doing my hair and dressing how i like, i have a chronic illness that makes it so much harder for me to loose weight, although im not overweight im definitely curvy and its so hard to dress completely modestly without feeling insecure, living in the UK its not easy to wear abayas 24/7 especially as a young teenage girl although im aware that girls do wear it. I feel insecure and i dont know what to do, ive tried different hijab styles and just wearing what i want but it feels like a disrespect to my hijab.

4. this one pains me the most but ive really been feeling distant from my salah since i started having these hijab pressures, i still pray all 5 no matter how i feel but i just feel distant and unfocused cause im burdened by my hijab thoughts. I love my salah sooo much and i hate feeling like im not worthy of praying even though i am.

there are some other reasons but these are my main issues, i dont know if removing the hijab will fill the void but idk if keeping it on will make me feel better and enjoy everything again. Ik people will say its waswasa from the shaytan and so be it but at this point im so tired of having a mental war about everything about my hijab.

Dear sisters , I'm very confused and insecure whether I am not being modest enough. I'm still in the era of mid teens and I'm deeply thinking of whether I'm living up to being a rightful muslim girl. Like as someone who dreams of working independently and currently goes to college , I detest the unwanted attention I receive from men. It's always uncomfortable even though I'm very faithful and don't talk to them at all. I hate being approached for unwanted conversations and being bothered . I don't even wear full face makeup or tight clothes , I wear my hijab too and never Haram clothing but not Abayas yet (I will but not now) . I'm deeply traumatized and seeking for advice desperately why does Allah test me like this especially when I'm so young and modest. It's even disgusting to see Muslim men do these too. Advice me please .

Hi , im currently 16 turning 17 in a few months, my parents especially my mom started mentioning the hijab like 2-3 years ago, mentioning the fact that this winter shes gonna make me wear the hijab(winter cuz its easier). But i dont want to atleast not now. I would prefer after college personally but ik both my parents aren’t going to let me. Idk what to do, i dont want to and whenever i tell them that both of start threatening me w my phone everything basically telling me its not my choice(its their choice basically) especially cuz i live in a muslim arab country so like its very common here. And i also cant wait for after college cuz im gonna still be living w my parents (im not going abroad). I actually dont know what to do i really cant wear it rn.

Salam alaikum
I’m gonna keep this short and concise

I am currently trying to do market research on a product that i haven’t found widely accessible in the market

it is essentially a sort of headband cushioned cover thing for the forehead that comes with gloves allowing people to pray their prayers regardless of the cleanliness of the floor they are on this is meant to be a viable alternative for when you cannot take a prayer mat with you

opinions, suggestions, constructive criticism etc. greatly appreciated

jazakum allah khair

(19F) Days go, I made a posting on the subject of me being forced to wear the hijab, and how it’s been driving me to end my life. You may presume that I got support, well.. nope! I have horny men here, with hijab fetishes, wanting to sext. Men will be ever understand how much women are being oppressed. Mental health is already so stigmatized and I don’t even have a lot of support irl. I’m officially no longer Muslim. I wish the concept of the hijab never existed, I will never understand how it’s empowering. Women are entitled to their own body, no one deserves this. I may have gone off tangent. I’m sorry. We are so much more than our bodies. Anyway, I don’t want to make this too long. I hope this reaches the right people.

seriously as a hijabi I have no idea what to wear in winter that isn’t a coat to be covered that’s why I struggle when I go to a coffee shop or to my class where there are heaters and it will be too hot to stay with a coat on but i’m not able to remove the coat, please help me find where I can buy tops that I can wear with pants not skirts so they shouldn’t be short :(

My parents never forced me, i chose to wear it myself when i was 14. im now 18, and ill be honest, i hate it so much.

it feels suffocating physically, i struggle to turn my head left and right, i cant style any outfit with it, its a nightmare to hold on to in the wind and im so hot in summer.

my mother doesnt wear the hijab and she gets a lot of shit from my dad because of it. on the other hand he praises me constantly and always tells me how proud he is of me and how im so better than my mum.

im so scared of his reaction because this is the only thing of me that has made him proud of me.

He’s also a lawyer and im not generalising but i reckon thats what gives him such a huge ego and an arguing habit and i feel like no matter what i say, he’ll find some excuse to make me keep it on.

when i didnt wear it before i was 14, he would make lots of snide comments at me like “oh but if you were wearing hijab you wouldnt have to worry about the wind blowing your hair on your lipgloss” and once he had a huge fight with me saying how he hates raising girls in a western country and me and my mother are so lost.

Im scared he’ll stop buying makeup for me if i take it off, and im not planning to dress inappropriately either btw but im still so scared of his reaction.

we already have a very rocky relationship and hes the type to hold all his emotions in and explode one day.

hes never physical, he buys me whatever i want and does whatever i want, hes just so emotional so idk how to convince him or “inform” him about my decision.

Any help? I live in australia.

im still going to be muslim

I’m a teenage Muslim girl, and lately I’ve been thinking a lot about what modesty actually means in Islam.....

For me, this isn’t simply about “How much of my body should I cover?” I understand that clothing and hijab are part of it, but I feel like modesty can also affect the kind of life you choose, your environment, career, ambitions, social life, and the way you present yourself.

And honestly, that’s where I’m confused.

I’m studying commerce with maths and fashion designing, and I’m very interested in business and entrepreneurship. I’ve also considered law and modelling/public-facing work. I want to be financially independent, ambitious, and build something meaningful rather than simply live a conventional life....

But I don’t want my ambitions to come at the cost of my faith....

Sometimes it feels like taking modesty seriously could influence not just what I wear, but the career I choose, the environments I enter, my social life, and even the kind of future I build....

I don’t want to follow Islam only because of cultural expectations or because people say “a good Muslim girl should behave like this.” I want to understand what Islam itself teaches and why these boundaries exist.....

At the same time, I don’t want to interpret Islam in whatever way is convenient for me just because I have certain ambitions. If something genuinely goes against Islamic principles, I want to be honest with myself about it.....

So my questions are:

• What does modesty (haya) actually encompass in Islam beyond clothing?

•How much should it influence major decisions like career, education, ambitions and lifestyle?

•How can a Muslim woman balance religious boundaries with legitimate ambition?

•How do you distinguish between an actual Islamic requirement and something that is mainly cultural?

•Can a Muslim woman have an ambitious, independent and unconventional life while genuinely living according to Islamic principles?

•How do you navigate situations where your ambitions and your understanding of modesty seem to conflict?

•I’m not looking for people to tell me what career I should choose. I’m trying to understand the principles well enough to make those decisions myself...

I’d especially appreciate answers from people who have seriously studied Islam—Qur’an, authentic hadith, fiqh, scholars, etc.—rather than just personal opinions....

I’m genuinely confused, so please be respectful. I’m trying to figure out how to build a life that is both ambitious and faithful, rather than choosing one and completely abandoning the other.

Need advice about wearing niqab in high school and telling my parents

Assalamu Alaikum.

I’m currently in high school in Canada, and I’ve made up my mind that I want to start wearing the niqab. I’ve thought about it for a long time, prayed about it, and even bought a few niqabs myself because I was certain about my decision.

A few months ago, I asked my mom if she could buy me a niqab, but she refused. She believes that the niqab is too extreme, especially for a teenager, and says that my hijab is enough. Because of that, I secretly bought my own niqabs and have kept them hidden. Only my sisters know about them.

The thing is, I have no idea how my dad will react because I’ve never brought it up with him. Right now, I’m also the only one in my family who wears proper hijab.

My school reopens in about a month, and I’m really unsure about how I should tell my parents. I see a few possible options:

1. Tell them about two weeks before school starts so they have time to process it.

2)Wear the niqab on the first day of school and let them see then.

3. My younger sister will most likely be attending orientation at my high school since she’ll be starting there too. There’s a chance my brother will take us instead of my mom because she works. I could wear the niqab to orientation first and then continue wearing it when school officially starts.

I’m not trying to be rebellious or disrespectful. I just genuinely want to wear the niqab, but I also don’t want to create unnecessary conflict with my parents.

For those who have been in a similar situation, or even if you haven’t, what would you recommend? Would you tell them a couple of weeks beforehand, wear it on orientation day, or just start wearing it on the first day of school?

JazakAllah khayran.