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Next thing you know all women would have to wear a Burkha and be locked up in their houses

I see so many exmuslim and atheist Maldivians getting mad that we have Islamic laws and trying to start shit in this subreddit.

What's the Maldivian standard normal / Evening (good clothing) for men. Like for this generation. I'm genuinely confused and need advice. From what I know it's long curly hair, a ring, long sleeve golhijehi gamees ( aikuri half ulhaafa), sun glasses and navy blue jeans + exciter/gn cycle?

So basically, I think I have feelings for this guy. But honestly, I don’t even know if they’re actually feelings. Maybe it’s attachment, maybe I’m overthinking, I genuinely have no idea.

We’ve known each other since Grade 5 and we’re both 23 now, so yeah, we’ve known each other for a LONG time. I’ve never actually been in a proper relationship, but I’ve had a few situationships, which probably makes this even more confusing.

We’ve been talking pretty much constantly for the past 3–4 years, almost every single day. Mostly just texting, sending random stuff, reels, whatever. We don’t really call each other, it’s basically just texting.

But this is where I’m confused.
Like, he would randomly ask if I’m single or ask me if I would want to be his girlfriend or something along those lines. And flirt sometime or at least he was flirting , half the time he would confuse the hell out of me. Like he would randomly be like ‘’can i ask you something,and id be like yeah? Snd he’d go,nah i was testing you ‘’
the hell out of me Maybe it’s just a joke, but for me those are such weird questions 😭 Like why would you even joke about that with a female friend?? Now I’m wondering if guys actually say stuff like that to their female friends without meaning anything by it.

He’s also told me before that he feels good about himself after talking to me. And sometimes he checks on me if I seem off or asks if everything is okay. But then again, maybe that’s literally just because we’re close friends and he cares about me as a friend. Maybe there’s nothing more to it.
I also remember him saying before that he didn’t want a girlfriend because he wanted to focus on his career. He started his career a little later than other people, so I think he wanted to focus on that instead of getting into a relationship.

And now I don’t know what the hell is wrong with me because I literally cannot get this guy out of my head 💀
I’m not even texting him much now. Actually, I’m barely texting him at all. Because suddenly it feels SO weird. Like how do you casually text someone you’ve been friends with for years when you’ve suddenly started looking at them differently??
It’s so awkward and I feel stupid for even thinking about it this much.

And then I start thinking maybe he doesn’t see me that way at all. Maybe I’m just his friend and all of this is completely normal to him.
Also, he’s had a lot of female friends before, and some of the way he used to act with girls was kinda shitty, not gonna lie. He used to send me that kind of stuff too. But people do change, so I’m not saying he’s necessarily the same person now. I genuinely don’t know if he has changed or not.
I don’t know, bro 😭 I genuinely don’t know what I’m getting myself into.
Like, am I actually catching feelings? Is this just attachment because we’ve been talking for years? Am I overthinking every little thing he’s said? Or is there actually something here?
It’s literally midnight and I’m sitting here thinking about this man instead of sleeping , please tell me what the hell I should do about this

I have a very bad condition of dandruff and tried lot of things. But none worked. If u guys know any good remedy please share.

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Im thinking of turning my passion for cooking into an income source. And wanted to know:

1- What do you guys usually order as lunch or dinner.

2- Which meal do you order most, like, lunch or dinner?

3- What would be the ideal price for said meals.

I have been job hunting rigorously since the beginning of this year. My highest educational qualification is a Masters (MBA). I have been applying to jobs that are 15k + in salary since anything below truly does not allow me to have a self-sufficient life. I have applied to both government and private sector organisations but no success as of yet. The issue with the government sector is that I studied abroad and do not have o'level Dhivehi qualifications so I understand their reluctance in hiring me. (I did work for 4 years in a government organisation though and is included in my CV). My focus has been to apply in openings available in Malé or Hulhumale. I have also reached out to friends but alas, I do not have many since I did not grow up here and only moved here during the final months of my Degree (COVID-19).

It seems silly reaching out on Reddit of all places but I was wondering if anyone had any ideas as to how I can improve my chances on getting a job or leads for jobs or had any jobs they could offer. Help.

**⚠️ Warning, does possibly contain topics of self harm **⚠️

I have been hesitant to write about this but I feel like someone might need to hear it

I have always struggled with socializing my entire life, I tried my best to make friends throughout my school life but struggled, I guess it could be because my parents were very controlling about everything and I didn’t really get much freedom compared to other kids to hang out, I did manage to finally make friends but almost immediately after I moved to the city.

I was actually quiet hopeful when I first moved to make friends but I was quickly overwhelmed by the difference in how city and island people act (not saying either is bad), while also struggling because their is already established friendships which I guess made it harder to make friends for me as a person that struggles socially and quiet.
My first term was relatively uneventful though
I wish that could be said for my second term.

As I ended up switching classes, I ended up in arguably one of the worst in my entire school.
There wasn’t actually many students in my class but supposedly that was done on purpose as from what I heard my class was almost purposely made that way to put the worst students in the school there to make it easier to track them supposedly.

Anyway my class had 2 guys that were basically criminals, a part of a gang and stole from multiple stores multiple times. They did the usual vaping and smoking (this might have made me uncomfortable now seen smokers and vapers) along with drugs. Anyway the other guys in my class pretended to be chill with them or keep our heads down and avoid trouble. I got threatened multiple times and I guess occasionally hurt, which made me pretty much stay silent those entire 2 years of school life especially in the last year when things got worse. Even though there was plenty of other students around I guess I stopped feeling safe interacting with anyone and just tried to survive by keeping my head down.

I did finally get into a football academy but I was very amateur compared to my teammates and my coaches will regularly isolate and sort of humiliate me, which hits a bit harder when you’re already socially isolated. But I did eventually sort of earned their respect, finally felt like I sort of belonged somewhere until my parents forced me out because they wanted me to focus on my exams.

Which meant I pretty much had no friends or close connections my entire school life, pretty much isolated socially aside from family that I am also not necessarily close with.

This sort of lead to a kind of numbness, where you no longer felt anything or cared. Which sort of lead to a dark path, where admittedly I did consume some dark media, (which I absolutely do not recommend anyone to do and completely avoid such media when you are in a state like this) but regardless I did start to have some dark thoughts and weird dreams where I was taking someone’s life and of course my own life as well.

Thankfully though I never went through with any sort of self harm, which I think is largely due to Islam. As I started watching a lot of Islamic content online, animated explanations by good, kind and understanding scholars from around the world. I watched a lot about the stories of the prophet and the warriors which in a way gave me the resilience and courage I needed then to sort of overcome the isolation I was in and also avoid any sort of self harm and harm to others by believing their was a afterlife and this life is temporary.

Anyway I managed to score decent marks on my IGCSE, then I went to Alevels but it unfortunately did end Alevels without making much or any sort of friends and I did get temporarily tangled in a bad toxic football team, I guess those years of isolation is still effecting me. But I am slowly improving and possibly did make a few friends now.

In all honesty I am not exactly all better, those dark thoughts and dark dreams still comeback even recently. In all honesty I am definitely gonna need professional help like therapy I guess and I do plan to do so soon.

Anyway I always hear people nowadays say that Islam isn’t necessary and that laws will control people just fine. Which I couldn’t disagree more with, as in the state that I was, I really couldn’t care much about the law. In my opinion if it wasn’t for Islam there would probably be a lot more harm in our society than we see now. Especially considering how much everyone is struggling.

Anyway if you are going through a similar situation please get help, seek a professional, avoid dark media and any forms of triggers. Do you’re best to seek Islamic knowledge through platforms like YouTube where you would find plenty of respectful and kind scholars with high quality content. Remember that you’re past does not define you and those dark thoughts are not who you are, you probably are an amazing person who is just going through a temporary struggle. Also I found that regularly forcing yourself outside and getting exercise from activities like jogging and swimming really helps. Of course avoid harmful substances like smoking and nicotine as in my opinion those can make things worse.

Hope you all have a good day or goodnight and wish you all get better ❤️‍🩹

From male and hml

theres obviously better apps than viber.

So yeah, just as the title says 🥲

I'm a bigger guy and most of my weight is around my belly. I've been having a hard time finding clothes in Male and Hulhumale that fit comfortably without it being too tight or ridiculously oversized.

I'm mostly looking for casual stuff like shirts, pants, shorts preferably around the 3XL area. Just anything that fits a bigger guy myself.

Any shops you guys can recommend? Online/ Insta is also fine . Just not looking for high end expensive stuff.

Would love recommendations from other fellow big guys as well. Cheers!!

need to stay awake till shift is over. Im into anime, gaming (story) and novels.

I'm a graphic designer and I am currently working at a design firm but am looking for extra projects to work on remotely, if you or anyone you know needs a graphic designer hit me up! Would greatly appreciate it

I have some friends who would be traveling to Malé in a few weeks. They'd really like to know more about the gastronomical culture of Malé. They wanna see the food and culture of the day. Imagine if a food vlogger is coming. What am I missing here?

Since all the traditional food except breakfast food is home-made, I'd just show them that at homes.

Fact: Heavily spiced up curries aren't actually from our historic cuisines, they are a very recent phenomenon.

Anyways, what's the essential places in Malé? I am thinking Lazeez for the view, carnival for haveeru sai, what's a really good breakfast place (both Maldivian and not), where can I find a good buffet that's proper? Maybe Lemongrass Citron? The Chinese place in Hulhumalé for sure.

Seagull, Dawn, Moon & Lemongrass are kinda very Malé places iykwim. What else is here from the 90's and 2000's?

What's good in phase 2? I wanna show them our unhealthy (fake)cardamom tea obsession.

They wanna see Malé, Hulhumalé 1 & 2, and Villingili.

I'm thinking of a fruit market tour for snacks and rukuraa. I'm thinking maybe our midnight food places like the food court because where we live, most restaurants are closed by then.

What's your preferred coffee places? Anywhere I can get proper tea? Like aromatics or infused tea that are not in a tea bag.

They want to meet more locals, so would appreciate nice places for food and ambience. If anyone wants to meet them during their time in Malé, they'd definitely be interested to say hi or if they travel to an island near you.