r/marraige

My(20F) husband (20M) are having issues with his family. A little back story we had to get married at 18 due to my family not being there to approve of a lifesaving surgery and preventing any medical care to save my life. We got married so they wouldn't have a say so or power of attorney to make that decision for me and instead my now husband approved the surgery and that is how I am still alive.

So anyways, my family knows that I am married (no wedding just a courthouse paper work signing, still legal). But he hasn't told his family and now it's going on two years he hasn't said anything.

Last night he was talking to his parents about "proposing" to me (prompted by me) which they were very negative about and insisted that he wait until after graduating college because he isn't ready for marriage yet.

It should be mentioned that his parents are paying for his college education and I am paying for my own. I graduate in a year and he graduates in 4 years, he also relies on them for medical equipment such as insulin and needles because he is a type 1 diabetic. So he still needs them for those things.

They also told him that if he were to "propose" to me before his graduation they would stop all funding for his education and health and would require him to pay them back. This greatly worries me as while I am still in school I can't provide those things for him and honestly it feels like his life would be at risk.

I have a depleted egg count and an extensive fertility issue in my family (both sides) so I cannot wait another 4-5 years to get "married", buy a house, and then start trying to have kids all because his parents would cut him off.

His education is greatly important to me and I don't know what to do with his family not knowing that we are already married. Should I wait and risk never having children or should I just send them a photo of our marriage license and let them have it out?

Ideally the proposal conversation was supposed to end in support for our relationship developing and a proposal in two months, with a wedding in a year, but instead has lead me to reevaluate what life could look like without his education, without ever having kids, and without his family by his side if they cut him off.

They have already mentioned that I am not a part of their family and never will be (ring or not) so I feel like an ultimatum has been placed. My husband is pissed at them and on my side but doesn't want to risk not having their support for his education and health which I understand.

Please help, I welcome all recommendations and suggestions, I don't know what I am doing.

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