r/microwedding

For context; we’re having a 30 person, family only microwedding. We’re both second time arounders, and we’ve decided our financial priorities are elsewhere! Our friends understand this, of course.

Having said that, I would love to have an afternoon champagne with about 5 or 6 of my closest girlfriends. These are ones I’ve gone to high school with (I’m 50 now), or have known 20years+.

I thought that I’d invite them to the hotel room I’ll be getting ready from the next morning, just for an hour and a half for champagne (my shout). I have a welcome dinner from 6pm, so I’ll have to get to that as most of our family are travelling from interstate.

Is that weird? I don’t want a gift, just a quiet time with the girls I love!

My fiancé and I are hoping to get married this December, with a very small ceremony of just 10 guests (all close family). The local hotel we have chosen has a smaller sized ceremony room and a gorgeous private dining space, there is a local castle nearby where we will hopefully have photos.

Have a few questions for people who have done something similar or have attended a small wedding as a guest:

\- How did you time the day with such a small number of guests?
\- How did photos work? I’m not sure whether we would hire someone all day or just for a couple of hours.
\- Bit of a specific one, but did you cover food for the photographer like with a bigger wedding, and how does this work when you’re in a private dining space with only 12 people?
\- Did you have speeches or any other traditional elements?
\- Do you have any regrets about having such a small wedding?

Finally, we have a son who will be 18 months old at the time of the wedding. I want him to be there for the whole day but also worried about nap times/bed time etc and him getting cranky! Any advice on how to have a successful wedding day with a toddler?

TIA!

Hi, I'm getting married in October. It's going to be a very small, intimate wedding. We wanted it to be a potluck thing but fiancee side said nope (this is in lieu of gifts) we don't need anything but the joy of people coming. I'm at a loss now as to what to do for food. We can't afford a caterer and how do you make the food and still gwt ready for the wedding? My daughter that would pitch in and help cook lives 3 states away. My best friend is also 3 states away and wants me to be able to just "be the bride" ...if this is the wrong place to post this, I'm sorry...any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

My fiancé and I are planning on eloping and were originally planning an international elopement. We love traveling and wanted something rural and off the beaten track, but family has expressed interest in going.
For those who have eloped international, did you have family? I don’t know if it would be worth their time to even come since we want a small, secular wedding. I honestly don’t even know what a “ceremony” would look like. We want to privately read vows we’ve written for each other, but other than that I don’t know what we would do.
Our families are religious and part of the reason for eloping is to avoid a religious ceremony.
What has your international “ceremony” looked like?

Edit: by “family” I mean just our parents. I realize this goes against the definition of “elopement” but “micro wedding” also feels incorrect for the vision I have.

My mom wants to host a bridal shower, but I’m having a destination micro wedding and I’m not sure what the etiquette is.My fiancé and I are planning an intimate wedding with only about 15–20 guests. After we return home, we’re thinking about having a casual celebration/second reception for family and friends who weren’t able to attend the wedding abroad.

My question is about registries and gifts. Since we’re not creating a wedding website, how do we handle a registry? Is it appropriate to have one for the bridal shower? Should registry information be included with the shower invitation? What about the post-wedding celebration?

I don’t want anyone to feel obligated to give gifts, especially since many people won’t be attending the actual wedding, but I also know my family and they will ask if we’re registered somewhere.

I’ve never been to a bridal shower before, so I’m genuinely not sure what the normal etiquette is. Would love to hear from anyone who had an elopement/ micro wedding and how you handled gifts and registries!

Ciao a tutti, a breve dovrei sposarmi ma ho veramente mille dubbi su cosa fare. Premetto che la mia idea iniziale era quella di fare un matrimonio super low cost perché preferisco non indebitarmi assolutamente per una cosa di mezza giornata, inoltre dato che mi sono trasferita in un’altra regione ho perso le mie vecchie amicizie come anche il mio ragazzo, per cui tutti i nostri invitati sono più che altri parenti (nemmeno stretti) che tra l’altro non sentiamo mai e non abbiamo questo grande rapporto, saremmo circa 25 persone.

La mia idea era quella di fare qualcosa sulla spiaggia in un lido normalissimo, con rito in comune e pranzo o cena al mare. Pensavo anche di affittare degli ombrelloni per fare anche un bagno eventualmente e stare tutti insieme così.

Mia suocera però avrebbe la possibilità di fare una cerimonia in una tenuta dedicata a questi eventi ad un prezzo molto vantaggioso e credo che voglia che si faccia lì.

Capisco che al sud il matrimonio è visto come una cosa sfarzosa ecc ma nel nostro caso visto che abbiamo poco budget e pochi amici non mi sembra il caso di usare una location così grande.
Il mio dubbio quindi è seguire i desideri dei genitori/parenti che si aspettano un matrimonio classico oppure fare quello che vogliamo noi restando in Abruzzo senza tornare in Campania e fare una cosa piccola e raccolta in un lido senza troppe sfarzosità inutilmente costose come fiori decorazioni fotografo musica rito simbolico ecc ecc, ma puntando tutto sul pranzo e sullo stare insieme.
Datemi un consiglio please🙏

we’re having a 27 person micro wedding in October, and today I have just hit the wall over the dumbest things! I keep wasting time, money and emotional energy in planning table decorations.

It’s honestly only going to be 4 clusters of arrangements and I had originally wanted dried. Now I’ve changed my bouquet, hired ceremony flowers (artificial but they look beautiful), and now my reception flower vibe is different.

I’m conceding defeat and going with a florist for the tables! But this after spending money on glass vases, dried flowers, candles, table runners etc etc. it’s a few hundred I’ve wasted but I’m seriously not prepared to DIY this stuff anymore, lol.

Anyone else get sick of the small stuff?!