r/selfdevelopment

I feel like whatever I'm going through in life, someone else would be able to handle it much better than me.

Be it health, finances, career, relationships or any other aspect of life, I feel like there is always someone who would approach the same problem more intelligently and figure things out better than I do. 

I'm not saying this to be pessimistic or put myself down. I genuinely want to improve myself. I want to become someone who can think clearly, make better decisions, more intuitive, notice things others might miss, and handle problems more effectively. 

But I don't know where to start or what I should work on. How do you actually become a more capable person? What habits, skills or ways of thinking have helped you become better at handling life?

Life moves fast, and it feels like most of us carry around five or six goals at once and make real progress on none of them.
If you had to drop everything else and commit to just one, which would you choose?
Would you learn a language, change careers, get in shape, start a side business, finish a degree, or go after something most people around you wouldn't understand?
I'm not looking for the goal that sounds most impressive. I'm interested in the one that would actually change your daily life if you pulled it off, and that you could realistically fit around work and everything else.

Have you ever had a decision where part of you knew what you should do, but another part of you just couldn't get on board?

Maybe logic says to take the opportunity, but fear tells you to stay where you are.

Maybe everyone around you thinks one choice makes sense, but something doesn't feel right.

Or maybe you've thought about something so much that you've somehow become less certain than when you started.

I've been thinking about how we make decisions, and I wonder if we spend too much time comparing our options and not enough time understanding what's influencing us.

Before making a difficult decision, try asking yourself three questions:

• What do I actually want? Not what other people expect me to want.
• What am I afraid of? And is that fear based on evidence or assumption?
• What would make me change my mind? What information would genuinely affect my choice?

You don't always need more time to think. Sometimes you need a better way to think.

What's a decision you've struggled with recently, and what made it so difficult?

What if i tell you, to suggest me atleast one thing that not only motivates you to keep going in your life but also not to stop where you are right now, let us see in comment section.