People shouldn't be labelled "crazy" and "weird" for not picking up on your subtle social cues and other mind games.
I have been repeatedly told during my youth that I was "weird" and "naive" for trying to understand others and rationalize their behavior. Now that I have understood the different forms of insecure attachment, every mockery starts to make sense and I can't stop obsessing about it. At this point I just want to terrorize those who hurt me by telling them that everyone will dump them and that they will live their remaining days all alone. Is there any advice you can give to me so I can heal from that gaslighting?
I'm sorry if this feels obsessive but I'm trying to understand why people were constantly telling that I'm "weak" and "naive" for trying to rationalize those who were mocking me for my autism. It feels like insecure attachment is the final piece of the puzzle I was looking for all along and that people were desperately trying to hide. Once I truly understand the essence of insecure attachment I'll be finally be able to read people like books.
There have been a couple of people in my life who have been trying to make me mirror their feelings and making me display constant gratitude towards them. I want to see if it's a common behavior amongst those who are emotionally insecure.
As someone one the spectrum I never understood the point of such behaviour.
Which one is the best strategy for growth?
How did that pipeline personally go for you? Is there any advice you'd like to give?
I'm not sure which one is the best strategy for guaranteeing long term emotional discipline. I ask this question because some people have an annoying tendency to disguise their need for emotional validation through morning rituals or life lessons. I want to know the best approach to apply in these kind of situations.
Whenever I feel like my emotions are overwhelmed, I instinctively damper them so I'm able to think more clearly. Most NTs can't do that so they go the DARVO route whenever their feelings are dismissed.
I'm curious to see if other autists are able to override their emotions too.
This desire for a man that can be simultaneously tough and soft makes them vulnerable to abuse through intermittent reinforcement which is really unfortunate.
It's their way to "cheat" the mindset they were raised in.
I'm aware that people are usually jealous of those who are honest with themselves since their upbringing never allowed them to be authentic. It's still not enough to rewrite that nagging inner voice. I'd like to have some additional advice on how to deal with this uncomfortable feeling.
If they're not the same thing, then what are the key differences between them?