u/1313deadendone

Not really sure if its a rant? But its just weird and funny, lol

So there was this partner i started rping with. We were friendly, he was nice, and I was super excited for our story and characters. Thought he was too.

We get a few posts in and I get sick. Like bad fever, aching, shaking, confused sick. Hes very understanding.

About three days after initally getting sick im writing my reply. All the sudden he sends me a message saying he can no longer rp with me. Its nothing I did, but its him. He blocked me on reddit and discord. Cool, it happens.

Just now I was browsing. Im not really looking cause im at my limit but its fun, ya know? Anyways I see a familiar plot pop up. Its the same one, and the same guy who blocked me! I had a chuckle and thought maybe whatever weirdness happened was done.

I wasn't expecting to rp again. Wasn't trying to be mean. I commented "good luck! ♡" on his post and gave an up vote.

Guess who's blocked again? Lol

Lonely. Bored. Missing fun, flirty friendships. Let's get to know one another, while flirting when the mood strikes.

Looking for men and women. If you're interested send me a blurb about yourself!

Hey there! Im gonna try and make this quick because idk about you, but i wanna start rping. 😋 20+ only please!

Do you want a fun, long term rp? Do you want grand romances? Want to get lost and obsess about a story together? Then read on!

**Rules**

1. This one is a little strange but bear with me. I've been abandoned twice over it. If you are in a relationship, and your partner does not know about this hobby, *do not reach out.* im tired of people finding this hobby, thinking its cheating, and i get blamed. Thank you.

2. Im looking for f x m and/or f x f. Im burned out of m x m, sorry.

3. I love doubling and playing multiple characters. I primarily want to play a woman, however, I am happy to double! But only if you enjoy doubling and care about both of your characters and mine equally. If it's just to scratch an itch, it probably wont work.

4. I prefer quality over quantity. That being said i average about 3-5 paragraphs per reply. Im happy to sometimes do rapidly fire two paragraphs, im also happy to write a novel for important scenes. About the only way we won't work is if you consistently only reply with a few sentences.

5. Frequency. I would love for us to be inspired to reply once, maybe even multiple, times a day. However, I understand life comes first. Just please, do your best to communicate with me ooc about it. If it goes two weeks without a word, i'll assume you ghosted. Thanks!

6. I am fine with NSFW, however, I have to have a plot and a build to it. Or at the very least a complication from our characters sleeping together too soon. Again I enjoy it, but I dont want it to be all the rp is about. Im also *happy* to fade to black if smut isn't your thing! ♡ I also enjoy horror, gore, and angst.

7. I rp on discord only.

**A few ideas**

- This will be m x f. Would be willibg to do f x f if your character is butch. my character is a disaster of a divorcee. Shes not sleeping, shes drinking too much, doing drugs here and there, isolating. About the only thing she is managing is holding down a job. Your character would take a concner or interest in her. For this id love an age gap, with your character being younger. Is he a new guy at work? A guy home from college whos trying to make a few extra bucks that she hires? Is he someone who's had a crush on her for years, or someone new in her life? Let's find out ~

- I am down for anything sci fi. Mecha could be fun. Aliens. Dystopia. You get the idea!

- I feel like this character is cursed. It never gets past the talking stage for some reason lol. But I do have a warrior queen character id love to play. She could work in a sci fi or fantasy setting.

- Id love trying my hand at some high fantasy! It used to be a favorire of mine,nand its been a while. Dragons, unicorns, princes abd princesses, knights, thieves, scenery and settings beyond belief, complex cultures and politics. Let's build every detail!

- ive been obsessed with alien stage and zombie stage. I would love to do a death game premise a la the hunger games, alien stage, battle royal. We can create our own universe or use one of these.

Please reach out via DM if youre interested!

Its stupid. We've shared a bed maybe 10 days over the past 6 months. But tonight I feel like I wont be able to sleep without him holding me.

We used to say we were made for eachother. We fit so perfectly together.

I told him a week today there was no chance of reconciliation. He refused to speak to me for a week and did not come see our son.

Today he texted saying he'll work with me so we can do an uncontested divorce. I told him to call me tonight. He didnt. I called and texted. No reply.

I dont know if hes sleeping, or being malicious.

His illness/depression/malnutrition makes him sleep a lot. So he really could just be out.

But its the first time we've communicated in a week. You'd think he would want to talk to me. Even if its to end this marriage, to figure out how to be co parents and maybe even friends, I want the excuse to talk to him.

Guess he doesnt feel the same.

I dont know what to do tonight or how to rest.

My heart is in shambles, and I wish I could tell my husband. But im the one initiating the divorce. So I cant tell him.

Today I keep thinking, over and over, could we come back together? Is the relationship salvageable? And i keep going back to no. Its not. The only chance in hell would be if we divorced, he took the many years its gonna take to work on himself, and by some stroke of fate lightening then strikes twice.

Which wont happen.

And I keep feeling like im breaking the marriage vows. Hes sick, I should stay with him. But 6 months no improvement-- just massive medical debts. Hes admitted multiple times he thinks its all mental, but its lucky if he sees his therapist more than 2 times a month. And he says she thinks he doesnt need outpatient-- which to me says either shes the worst therapist in the world, or as usual hes withholding the truth.

We've lost out home, are in massive debt, and to top it all off we have a 6 month old that ive been the primary, and often times only, caretaker of. Hes been caught lying about taking medication as well as other things. For a long time i suspected he was a compulsive liar.

We're toxic. We don't communicate well.

We'd been working on it. My pregnancy was perfect, a second honeymoon. He went to all the scans, went shopping with me, it was perfect.

Then it all went to shit the morning after my c section. He began puking and hasn't stopped since. Hes down to 110 lbs and has developed a phobia of food-- that he will not admit too. I am serious when I say I am scared this will kill him, and ive told him so. Hes said the same.

I tired pleading, begging, forcing, yelling, crying, being indifferent, nothing works. Maybe at best things improve for a few days to a week, then it starts again. Still, he wont take the mental health part seriously, he doesnt take his pills, barely goes to any appointments, and as for the physical side hes slightly better but still drags his feet with appointments.

Its been hell. He didnt even acknowledged the baby and I when we came home from the hospital.

We've had a dead bedroom for 4 or 5 years now. Sometimes im still shocked we conceived. It was probably 4 times that whole year.

But then I think of all the good: the laughter, the inside jokes, how the sex is amazing-- when we actually have it. That he knows me better than I know myself sometimes. That he cares for me. Before all this it was a nightly thing that he would give me a foot rub. He was kind and selfless. He made even the most mundane things feels special and fun.

And then he vanished, and I dont know where my husband went. Im just left with this person I dont know.

We both agreed if it led to divorce, he was the cause. I have him road maps, lists, guides, everything I could to get him to understand what I need from this relationship. He said he understood. Agreed that if he didn't do it, then it was his way of showing me he didn't want this marriage. He didnt do any of it, but then still begs me to stay and wants to be married.

Like I said ive suspected, or maybe really known, that he is a compulsive liar. So maybe hes lying when he says it. I dont know. Ill probably never know.

10 years, gone, just like that. The man i was going to have a family with, the man i was going to grow old with, the man i was going to die with-- gone.

When he lied about his medication and endangered our son I knew I couldn't go back. He'd been having seizures, so that meant two things: either the seizures were faked, or he didnt care about our son.

The real kicker? That morning id found his still full bottle of pills. I knew what would happen-- he would be confronted, get the bottle, and magically the pills would be gone. And I would question.

So I took a picture.

When confronted he kept lying and lying. When I made him show me the bottle half the pills were gone. I showed him the picture. He'd hidden the pills in his back pocket. He said he had been forgetting to take them (despite me asking him almost nightly if he took it) and hadn't wanted to make me upset.

He'd driven with us in the car while off the medication. He'd walked around with the baby-- after he supposedly already had a seizure where he dropped our son.

If i go back then I will be one of those women that choses a man over her child. And I will not ever fucking do that. The old version of my husband would have agreed and understood. Or so I tell myself

So I sit here with my son. Lonely, friendless, sad. There is nowhere to put this hurt. There is nothing to do but keep moving forward-- and hope he does the right thing in the end and not fight this.

Two of my biggest fears in one go: divorce and becoming a single mother.

My life is nothing like I imagined. At 32 im completely starting over. Some days it thrills me and I can't wait to be done with him. But on days like today I keep turning it over in my mind, over and over. Trying so hard to think of some way forward, of some way we can remain husband and wife. That we can stay as a family. That we can do all we wanted-- travel the world together, raise children, fall more and more in love each day and be an example to our kids.

But instead hes renting a room, im living with my parents, with the animals and baby. And he hasn't seen his son in almost 3 weeks. Everytime we talk on the phone he says he wants to stay married. He refuses to meet in person to discuss this. Yet he still does nothing to try and win me back-- not that he could.

I just miss my best friend. I miss my husband and its so cruel and hard that the one person I want to process this all with-- I cant.

We should both be snuggled up on the couch in our old apartment with our baby sleeping in our bedroom just waiting for us. We should all be sleeping as a family in our room-- me, him, our baby, plus our cat and dog. But instead its just 4 of us dreaming together.

It just. Breaks my heart. A few times in the past 6 months glimpses of the old him would come back for a few days. And I saw a beautiful vision of what our life could be as a family. The 5 of us-- maybe a 6th in the future.

But thats all gone now.

Lies. Dead bedroom for years. Irresponsible spending. Little to no help around the house. Dealing with jokes i hated. Just. Fuck.

There was good. Obviously. But there was so much hardship.

And at 6 months postpartum im saying enough is enough. And im so ready to move on.

My son and I were neglected. I suffered through so much with my sweet baby boy because of his selfish father. Including losing my house.

I went into so much debt for this marriage and I doubt I'll even get child support.

I downloaded a dating app yesterday. Zero intentions of interacting. I seriously just wanted to give myself hope.

Well this man who was in the same field as me reached out. Hes sweet, funny, artistic, an animal and nature lover. Not to mention hes tall and built like a Greek god.

I gave a vague explanation of what I was looking for-- im coming off the heels of a 9 year relationship, looking for short term but open to long. Really just looking to have "fun."

Hes looking for longterm but was very understanding. He wanted to exchange numbers.

And i had to stop myself. I hadn't put i was a mom in my profile because-- again-- I wasn't supposed to interact with anyone. The divorce is far from finalized. And its unlikely my ex would ever find out I went on a date, but if he did im worried he'll use it against me.

In 2025 we had sex 4 times. Two of which he couldn't stay hard. I mean I didnt even have sex on my honeymoon. Ive had no sex this year.

And I meet the rare guy that I WOULD just fuck and date casually, and I cant. I cant because my son comes first and now I am both mother and father because my ex doesnt come to see him at all. Its been over 2 weeks since he walked out and hes not seen his son since.

And im so alone. And so sad. And mourning so much. And im not looking for a father for my kid, or a husband, or even anyone to see more than a few times. But I just wish I could go out with a nice gentleman for one evening and just feel...beautiful. desired. Like romance is still a possibility in my life.

Even divorced he ruins my sex life.

Just. Fuck. None of this is fair.

Hello all! So I have a sweet old man. Hes 15 years young and a small dog, likely a chihuahua/dachshund mix.

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Like most old dogs he has doggy dementia, arthritis, and incontinence. However, he still has more joy in his life than pain. He still plays with his two year old sister, he likes saying hello to the cats, he enjoys laying in the yard-- basically he still lives the doggy life.

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However he cannot hold his pee or poop. We're working on it with vets, but in the meantime its become a hazard in the home. Ive got a 5 month old and the amount of times ive slipped on shit or piss is scary.

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We cant really risk it anymore. But we dont want to confine him to a room. Basically-- we need the best diaper there is. We tried one before but the poop came right out the tail hole!!!! So we need a diaper that can handle both pee AND poop.

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Thanks!