u/1sushilover

I need some outside perspective because I’m honestly really confused. I need some clarity about all this.

This guy I was talking to ended things and told me he “lost feelings,” but the timing just doesn’t make sense to me.

Right before he ended it, everything felt completely normal. We had just gone out together, he was being affectionate, gave me chocolate, wore my hair tie, sent me romantic TikToks, and even said “I love you.” There were genuinely no signs that anything was wrong.

Then literally the next day, he ended things and said he lost feelings.

What confuses me even more is that he seemed to move on almost immediately after. Like within a week, it looked like he was already interested in someone else.

I just don’t understand how someone can go from acting like that doing all those things and saying those things to suddenly losing feelings overnight.

So I guess my questions are:

Do people actually just “lose feelings” that fast, or is that usually an excuse?

Was he already losing interest and just didn’t communicate it?

How do you go from being that close with someone to moving on so quickly?

I know I probably shouldn’t still be this stuck on it, especially considering how things ended, but I think the confusion is what’s making it hard to move on.

I don’t know if anyone else has felt like this, but I just need to get it out.

I miss him. Like, a lot more than I expected to.

It’s been about two months, and somehow everything still reminds me of him. I’ll see random TikToks and immediately think of what we had, and it just makes me miss him even more. I miss our conversations, the way we’d talk about literally anything, the late-night talks, even the small things like him telling me to go to sleep.

I think what hurts the most is that it wasn’t just romantic I genuinely feel like I lost one of my closest friends too. He was the one person I could always go to, no matter what. I could just text him about anything, and now that’s gone.

Seeing him at school makes it even harder. It’s like we went from talking every day to barely being able to say anything without it feeling awkward. And I know he’s probably moved on, which makes it worse, because I’m still here missing everything.

I miss walking home with him, having someone to talk to, sharing random gossip, just having that one person who got me. Now everything just feels… quieter..

I still catch myself checking my phone in the morning, even though I know there won’t be a message from him. I still look back at old memories sometimes. I think a part of me is just not ready to let go yet.

I know we weren’t even officially dating, but he meant a lot to me. And I guess I’m just struggling with how something that felt so real can suddenly be nothing.

So I need some honest opinions on this.

I’ve been on and off with this guy for a few months, and he recently ended things again. The thing is, we were never officially dating, but it was one of those situationships where we basically acted like a couple the whole time going on dates, talking every day, matching bracelets, him wearing my hair tie, all of that.

Context:

We first started talking in December for about two weeks. Everything was going really well, but then out of nowhere he ended things, saying he wanted to focus on his mental health and just be friends.

About 3 weeks later, we were still in contact as friends, and he invited me to his football game. After that, things started to shift again, and he eventually asked if I wanted to try again. I said yes.

This time it lasted around 3 months. Again, everything felt really good we were basically dating, just without the label.

Then one day in March (literally the day after we went on a date), he ended things again. His reasons were:

he was struggling with his mental health

he felt pressure from his friends

and he said he “lost feelings”

He also said he still wanted to stay friends.

Now:

It’s been about 2 months since that happened. He’s only reached out twice, and both times it was for pretty unnecessary/random reasons. We don’t actually talk anymore, even though he said he wanted to stay friends.

The only “connection” we still have is a 173-day Snapchat streak… which honestly doesn’t feel like it counts for anything.

My questions:

•	Do you think he’s going to come back again?

•	Does this sound like avoidant behavior, or am I overthinking it?

•	And why say you want to stay friends if you don’t even try to talk?

So… I need to get this off my chest.

We were never officially together, but it felt real. Like, really real. The kind where you talk every day, you build routines, and it just feels like it’s heading somewhere. Ever since Valentine’s Day, I kept thinking, “maybe today’s the day he’ll finally ask me out.” And every day… he didn’t.

My friends kept telling me to leave. Saying things like “he’s not good for you” or “why are you waiting around for him?” But the thing is—they didn’t see him the way I did. I believed in him. I thought it would turn into something real eventually.

Then one Monday night—March 9th at 10:30—he ended it. Yeah, I remember the exact time. I was already having a rough night, and then that text came in. I genuinely thought it couldn’t be real. I even pinched myself, like maybe I was dreaming or something. But nope… that was it.

And sometimes it still doesn’t feel real. Like maybe I’ll wake up and things will go back to normal. Like he’ll be there again, waiting for me so we can walk to school together.

I still haven’t deleted our photos. Every once in a while I go back and look at them, and it just hits me all over again. And seeing him at school? That doesn’t help either. Because somehow… I still like him. It’s been months, and I’m still not over it.

I know that probably sounds pathetic. But he meant a lot to me. He really did.

I miss the little things the most—late night talks, having someone say goodnight every day, waking up and checking my phone hoping there’d be a message from him (yeah… I still do that). And honestly? Even after everything, part of me would still take him back. I know how that sounds, but it’s the truth.

Sometimes I wonder if he misses me too. Or if he’s already moved on and I’m just stuck here holding onto something that’s already gone.

I still have the pink bracelet he gave me. And I even catch myself wondering if he still has my hair tie.

Idk I just needed to say this somewhere. I probably won’t send it to him… but yeah.

I miss him. A lot.

Guysss this is KINDA LONG nd its js me yapping!!!

So basically like background context me and this guy in my grade started talking in like december and it became very on and off with him constantly ending things with me due to mental health issues, and then coming back. So then after the second time we got back together and started talking again, it kinda transitioned into a “situationship” where we would act like a couple but there wasnt any label - i dont really know if it was a situationship or not but heres some things he did

- said i love u

- gave me a lot of choclate

- wore my hair tie on his wrist

- got me a bracelet from vacation

- sent me romantic/couple tiktoks

- walked to school and home tg

- went to photobooth

- hung out outside of school

- texted me every day

- tied my shoe laces for me

- wrote me paragraphs

(These were all i could remember)

Idrk but like it def seems more than a talking stage to me, it didnt have the inconsistency of a situationship tho so idk

In the end he ended things with me again and its been3 months and i still miss him😭😭

How do i move on from this when he did all this for me??