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And I'm curious what the non-Japanese side of the internet thinks of this. Basically the complaint is that the show is promoting criminal activity by showing ex yakuza members, people like Kazu who attempted murder by setting someone on fire, and just too many tattoos in general. There wasn't this kind of attention for season 1 but it seems like ever since Kazu's story about his attempted murder came out the whole Japanese internet is talking about how insensitive the show is and how it can make people want to get tattoos and become yakuza.

Then the internet found this poster the show made in collaboration with The Ministry of Justice of Japan to promote reformation. It has positive messages like "let's get reformed!" and "reformation is love" and the MoJ has put the poster up on many halfway houses across Japan but according to people who want this show cancelled the wording is too insensitive and having a guy with a full body tattoo in the center of the poster does more to glamorize criminal activity than deter it.

Megumi, who is the producer and one of the hosts, had to make a public statement a couple days ago asking people to stop commenting hateful messages on the cast's social media as it was getting intense. And now she and the show are receiving even more backlash for saying that. They say, if you've hurt someone once, or done anything criminal, you'll have to carry that sin for the rest of your life and accept every criticism and judgement. And that they should not be on a show if they don't want to be scrutinized by the public like this.

What do you think?

And I wasn't even trying. Fem clothes, fem voice, pretending to be one of the girls, and this cashier, I'm guessing he was just spacing out, but he called me sir and that was so wild. I'm sure it was just a slip up and not like he actually thought I was a guy, but I'll take it lol

I'm one of the few guys in this afab female heavy system and I can't present masc because it makes me more dysphoric for some reason, like the way men's clothes fit on this shared body feels so different from how men's clothes fit on my real body in the headspace and it makes me more aware I'm currently in a female body and that's way more distressing than just wearing a dress and pretending to be female. I've come to accept no one will see me as a guy unless I tell them I am, so getting called sir by a total stranger, especially when I'm not able to appear masc, it just felt so good man.

- Troy

Hi all! We've been going back and forth on whether to seek a diagnosis or not, and it would be really helpful to hear some personal experiences if you're willing to share.

A little about us and why we're having complicated feelings about this (skip to questions if you want)

- We're a traumagenic system that fits the criteria of OSDD1b or DID. We don't really care which box psychiatry would put us in, and we feel secure enough in our understanding of ourselves that we don't need a diagnosis to validate each other. We're not interested in any treatment through psychiatry as we have been harmed greatly by them and we have been making far more progress working with each other than the decade of therapy. Initial plan was to set aside the whole diagnosis question and focus on healing ourselves and maybe one day if we decide we want a diagnosis we can seek it. That would be the ideal scenario, however, we have been healing so much that we're becoming less and less disordered (less amnesia, less impairment in functioning, less distress), and we're worried about losing our only opportunity to get diagnosed before we can decide on whether we want it or not. And maybe there's no point in having a diagnosis if you've healed enough that you're no longer disordered, but the way endos and plurals without a diagnosis get treated scare us. It's one thing to not be believed, but to be treated as larping a disability for simply existing sounds really painful, and if a diagnosis from the past, even if we no longer fit the criteria, can shut them up then maybe it is worth all the risks? We're also worried about a CDD diagnosis making it even harder to receive healthcare for our physical illnesses and disability. We're already getting dismissed so much because of depression and anxiety on our chart, and I think adding a dissociative disorder to the mix would make things so much more difficult.

Questions

- how has having a diagnosis helped your system?

- has there been any negative aspects to having and/or getting the diagnosis?

- does anyone regret getting diagnosed?

- have doctors treated you differently (positive or negative) because of your diagnosis? Has the diagnosis helped or hindered your access to healthcare?

- if you are a diagnosed system that used to be disordered but no longer is, do you find your diagnosis still useful? Do you still tell people you have a dissociative disorder?

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I've always assumed that it's just fakeclaimers, and still think that is what's behind the "DID fakers" hysteria, but just want to be absolutely certain I'm not overlooking anything. So are there any real examples of singlets faking that the community is aware of? Or even anecdotal, I'd love to hear if you have any personal experiences of a singlet actually faking plurality and how you came about learning that.

Because it's hard for me to imagine a scenario where a singlet would actually fake being plural. Sure I suppose people can fake anything if they put their mind to it, but plurarity seems too complex to keep faking successfully, and there are far more stigma and negative reception than there is positive that I can't imagine why anyone would want to fake being plural.

And it's hard to take any fakeclaiming seriously, like if only a professional can diagnose people with disorders like DID as they say, then the logic should apply the other way around too, if you're not a professional you cannot undiagnose people. So what are they basing their judgement off of? Did they "confess" they were "faking"? Or did they just find a condition or label that describes them better and no longer identify as plural? That's allowed and it's not faking. Or are they just going through a denial spiral and had to say "I was faking" as a form of self protection? That is a common experience and doesn't mean they were faking.

So it's just genuinely so confusing to me that there seems to be this prevalent narrative that there are tons of fakers, especially when it's coming from more level headed systems as well and not just some haters. Am I missing something?

For me, cutting fur has to be the absolute number 1. The micro plastics flying everywhere, having to wear PPE and do so much cleaning because of it, how easy it is to mess up and cut the fur and then not having enough fabric left because you were cheap and went with just enough instead of buying extra, etc etc

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What's yours?

I was relaxing at a park and this pair of human and dog start playing fetch in a leash-required area. Annoyed and anxious but not worth the confrontation so I just keep to myself. Then another dog owner shows up and asks the first dog owner if his dog would be ok if she lets her dog off leash, but did not ask me. She had the decency to understand not everyone feels comfortable with an off leash dog, but only extended that courtesy to other dogs. I was sitting closer to her than the other dog but she didn't even acknowledge me. If I said I was uncomfortable I doubt she would've done anything about it. I hate how a dog's comfort and boundaries are respected while mine gets labeled dog hater.

Energetic isn't the right word, I never actually feel energetic, but there's this pattern in my fatigue and dizziness and brain fog and general symptom intensity where I feel the absolute worst first thing in the morning and slowly wake up / recover as the day goes on and around 4pm is when I finally feel somewhat okay.

Anybody else feel this way?

What a maddening paradox. But trying to find answers and treatments have only made my health worse. Getting told the symptoms that are keeping me home bound and often bed bound are not clinically significant and therefore not real is not just stressful in the sense that it is unpleasant, the stress gives me a full week of PEM, which has a cascading effect because being bed bound means I'm not able to eat as much and the deconditioning exacerbates my chronic pain.

So I'm only able to see a doctor once a month at most, which then gets seen as I'm not really disabled because "why aren't you seeing more doctors if you're actually bothered by these symptoms?" Starting to be able to stand up for myself when people say stuff like that but I still frequently just shut down and internalize those messages instead.

I had no idea receiving healthcare could be this difficult until I became disabled. Doctors are good with simple things like a broken bone, but god do they become the biggest barrier to getting better when you have invisible disabilities.

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Soooo seems like we got an ingrown hair on our boob that went unnoticed and is now infected. Home care should be enough but somehow I got assigned to do all the cleaning and antibiotics ointment and heat compress and all that!??? We're a female heavy system, why's it gotta be me, a guy 😭

Thankfully not much dysphoria so it really is just a silly vent, not actually troubled by it or anything, and I'm sure they will switch me out if it does make me dysphoric, but it's just so funny. I was complaining and they're like "you need to understand boobs are living breathing body parts and not some decoration for consumption" 😩

Wondering if one of our guys is a fictive. I know at the end of the day it just comes down to how he sees himself and what label he wants to use, but just curious what having a fictive is like for other systems and how you can tell.

Our guy looks like Shin from Dorohedoro. A tad skinnier but like 95% resemblance visually. The voice and the way they talk is exactly the same. Their personality and worldview are the same. Their sexuality and taste in women are the same. He LOVES the show and the characters in it.

So there's a lot of resemblance I see, but he doesn't look at Shin and think "hey that's me". There's no source memory, he finds Shin's partner attractive but not as in "my woman". And the resemblance are things we're discovering months after he showed up. Perhaps it's because we can't see eachother clearly in headspace so we didn't see the visual resemblance untill pretty recently, but when I hear people talk about fictives they usually talk about how they were the closest to source when they first appear and become separated from the sources as they grow.

Can an alter just have striking resemblance to a character without being a fictive? Can a fictive have zero source memory? Zero sense of personal connection to their source?