u/3chickens1cat

Spoiler tag for potential TMI grossness

Soooo seems like we got an ingrown hair on our boob that went unnoticed and is now infected. Home care should be enough but somehow I got assigned to do all the cleaning and antibiotics ointment and heat compress and all that!??? We're a female heavy system, why's it gotta be me, a guy 😭

Thankfully not much dysphoria so it really is just a silly vent, not actually troubled by it or anything, and I'm sure they will switch me out if it does make me dysphoric, but it's just so funny. I was complaining and they're like "you need to understand boobs are living breathing body parts and not some decoration for consumption" 😩

Wondering if one of our guys is a fictive. I know at the end of the day it just comes down to how he sees himself and what label he wants to use, but just curious what having a fictive is like for other systems and how you can tell.

Our guy looks like Shin from Dorohedoro. A tad skinnier but like 95% resemblance visually. The voice and the way they talk is exactly the same. Their personality and worldview are the same. Their sexuality and taste in women are the same. He LOVES the show and the characters in it.

So there's a lot of resemblance I see, but he doesn't look at Shin and think "hey that's me". There's no source memory, he finds Shin's partner attractive but not as in "my woman". And the resemblance are things we're discovering months after he showed up. Perhaps it's because we can't see eachother clearly in headspace so we didn't see the visual resemblance untill pretty recently, but when I hear people talk about fictives they usually talk about how they were the closest to source when they first appear and become separated from the sources as they grow.

Can an alter just have striking resemblance to a character without being a fictive? Can a fictive have zero source memory? Zero sense of personal connection to their source?