u/43026

I have my answer, and changed the post to keep from any concerns about identy here in our area.

What I (with my wife) am going to do is just take the lady aside, and warn her that a very much older man (give her the name) has been asking about her in a creepy way. Also, let her know of the history of SA charges.

If she wants to know more, we will have her over for dinner, with a mutual friend to the man who has heard the things he has said, and knows of the SA charges. Then we will explain it all out, answer her questions.

Thank you to everybody who helped me here, I have recieved some very good advice. I appericate it all, thank everybody.