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I am an embedded software engineer with 4.5 years of experience in India. I am planning to move to the UAE. I am writing this post to get suggestions/criticisms for my job search strategy.

1. Figure out the companies that hire embedded software engineers.

\\-> for this my strategy is to google around, enable job notifications on LinkedIn, Bayt and Naukri Gulf.

I am looking for suggestions on which are the preferred sites for the recruiters to find candidates. I have also enabled notifications on companies job portals, like the Edge group.

2. Connect with people and network.

\\-> Again, LinkedIn. I try to connect with people of targeted companies and try to have a conversation with them in order to get information on current openings, expected skills, etc.

3. Resume: is there any specific resume format that I need to make my CV in for UAE-based companies?

What other suggestions can you provide me to increase my chances of getting shortlisted for interviews?

Thank you.

I am an embedded software engineer with 4.5 years of experience in India. I am planning to move to the UAE. I am writing this post to get suggestions/criticisms for my job search strategy.

1. Figure out the companies that hire embedded software engineers.

\-> for this my strategy is to google around, enable job notifications on LinkedIn, Bayt and Naukri Gulf.

I am looking for suggestions on which are the preferred sites for the recruiters to find candidates. I have also enabled notifications on companies job portals, like the Edge group.

2. Connect with people and network.

\-> Again, LinkedIn. I try to connect with people of targeted companies and try to have a conversation with them in order to get information on current openings, expected skills, etc.

3. Resume: is there any specific resume format that I need to make my CV in for UAE-based companies?

What other suggestions can you provide me to increase my chances of getting shortlisted for interviews?

Thank you.

I was waiting at the platform for my train. I had booked the ticket 2 months in advance and in 2AC.

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I saw a long queue of people sitting on the platform. I was curious and I started talking to them. They told me things that shocked me.

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They have been sitting on the platform from 1 PM to travel in the general coach of a train, which will depart at 5.30 PM. The journey will be 36 hours long.

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Me: what happens if the platform is changed? How do you maintain the order of the queue?

They: the railway police takes care of it. They take them to the general coach and make sure that the order is maintained.

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Good job railway police!

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Me: why didn't you book the tickets in advance (2 months ago)?

They: We didn't know when we will have to travel. The leaves got approved suddenly. There are also other factors over which we don't have the control on, and it adds to the uncertainty.

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Btw these people were laborers/contract workers.

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I saw a helpless couple WITH THREE CHILDREN who were requesting them to allow them to cut the line, saying "we have kids, pls understand". It was very sad to watch.

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If you can:

1. Plan your leaves in advance;

2. Afford to pay for sleeper/ac class tickets;

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You are very fortunate.

I had applied for the role of Embedded Software Engineer in the mentioned business unit. I have four years of experience. They conducted a coding round on Hackerrank and I cleared it.

The next step is virtual round.

What should I prepare? The HR said it will be coding round.

What all stuff do I need to prepare related to Embedded?

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My sister (25F) has been going through severe mental health issues for some time now, and our family is trying to understand what may be happening psychologically. We have already consulted a qualified psychiatrist and started medications + counseling, but I wanted additional perspectives from people experienced in psychiatry/psychology.

I’ll try to summarize everything clearly.

Symptoms / behaviors:

• She has urges to hurt herself, and after self-harming she reportedly feels relief/calm.
• She says when stress builds up inside her, she sometimes makes aggressive “animal-like” angry expressions/faces and feels better afterward, almost like tension is being physically released.
• She has intrusive thoughts about harming people she loves (including my 1-year-old nephew), but these thoughts scare her and make her feel guilty. She has never harmed him and actively resists the thoughts.
• She once told me that whenever she sees blood (for example if someone gets injured), she gets an urge/thought about licking the blood. Again, she feels ashamed/disturbed by these thoughts.
• More recently, she said she sometimes hears a “middle-aged man’s voice” in her head telling her to cut herself because “it will feel good.” She says these voices come in episodes — either continuously for some time, or not at all for long periods.
• She is actively fighting/resisting the voice and does not want to obey it.
• She sounds scared and ashamed of these thoughts/voices, not pleased by them.

Important psychological background:
Over the last few days she opened up about a lot of deep insecurity and trauma-related experiences:

1. She is a graphic designer and has very low self-worth. During job discussions, even if someone offers her ~15k INR salary, her thought process becomes “Am I even worth that much?”
2. She has struggled academically and says whenever she sits to study, she feels: “Whatever I do is never enough. I will fail anyway.”
3. She remembers childhood incidents where our father told her that if she failed exams he would ask her to leave the house. She still remembers this strongly and associates studying with fear/failure.
4. In previous workplaces, she experienced office politics, bullying, humiliation, and people mocking her graphic design skills. Now whenever she works on design-related tasks, those memories return strongly.

My own interpretation (not a diagnosis):
It feels like years of shame, fear, low self-worth, bullying, emotional invalidation, and trauma may now be expressing themselves as:

• self-harm,
• violent intrusive thoughts,
• emotional overload,
• and possibly dissociation/voices.

At the same time, I understand the “voice telling her to cut herself” is serious and may go beyond simple trauma/anxiety.

Current situation:

• We consulted a psychiatrist (MBBS + DNB Psychiatry).
• He said this is treatable with medication and counseling.
• She has started medicines.
• Medicines are making her low-energy/lazy/sedated, but she is finally sleeping properly.

My questions:

1. Does this sound more like trauma-related emotional dysregulation / dissociation, OCD-spectrum intrusive thoughts, psychosis-spectrum symptoms, or some combination?
2. How concerning are the “voice” symptoms in someone who still has insight and resists them?
3. Is the guilt/shame around the violent thoughts considered a good prognostic sign?
4. What can family members practically do to support recovery?
5. Are there specific therapy modalities that are especially useful for this type of presentation (DBT, trauma therapy, ERP, etc.)?
6. Any advice about handling the medication side effects early on?

I know Reddit cannot diagnose her. I’m mainly trying to understand the situation better and learn how we as family can support her appropriately without either dismissing or catastrophizing her symptoms.

Thank you.