u/4ey4owyoudoin

I have met a couple awesome people for the past couple of months. I was stuck in bed rest after a health issue that made me stop doing my outlets. It took a toll on my mental health. The conversations were cool but I've noticed a pattern where I'm left restless, drained my energy, I thought I have to be the bigger person.

Today I've decided that it's not my job to save them, my job is to love them and myself too. I didn't block them but I decided to just let them have their last say. I decided to draw the line.

I keep going back to the thought that I was there too and I did wish someone was there with me, patiently waiting. I know I could've done better. I have my fair share of how things turned out and I am learning from that on my own. I can only lead a horse to water but I can't force them to drink.

With this decision, it opened up opportunities to alot my energy to other things. I decided to train for a 10km run. Its 2 months from now. Its my first run. Wish me luck!

I've taken the test every couple years when I feel I need a refresher or a need for it. I've always gotten INTJ. I'm also neurodivergent.

Thing is when it's talking to people I am comfortable with, I feel way too extroverted to the point that I think I'm exhausting them. I'm on a dating phase and do talk to online people here and there. My social battery still drains but I have started to question now if I still fit this mbti.

I have a health relationship with family and friends we talk often.

So I'm thinking its possibly more of the neurodivergent part?

Edit: Thank you for everyone who took the time and energy to contribute helpful information, advises, and recommendations despite the lack of additional context in this post. I do hope that this sub would continue as a medium that would help us all improve in how we communicate, to focus on supporting and collaborating humanely with future posts.

I would love to have people to chat with about everything and nothing. I'm building my tolerance to shallow talks. I'm not even sure if introverts like us participate in shallow talks. I think we gravitate towards deep talks since we dont talk much?

I've been in and out the dating scenario and I have read things here and there like the MBTI thing. I'm an intj. How do you all think is that accurate when dating and looking for a partner?