I just wanted to share that I realized I had to swallow my pride and once again for the first time in a long time, request help with basic groceries. My hours have been cut right down at work and I’m using it to supplement my Provincial disability. There is no shame in asking for help.
Don’t know if this is a good place to post this but I need to make things feel “final”
I haven’t talked to this person in forever. She lives in a plane ride away city and is married with two kids. I’ve had a picture of the two of them in my office on my bulletin board for almost three years from when we talked every week. I finally took it down today. Obviously not trashing it, it’ll probably and up in some drawer or some box somewhere.
We are just in two completely different life stages with different future plans, and that’s ok. People lose touch, I’m not bitter about it. There was no fight. I’m just no longer holding onto giving her the best friend title like I have in the past. It’s better than an out of nowhere “how are you?” text from me that fizzles out after we both say how we’re doing.
Focusing on my friends in similar life stages that I talk to almost daily now.
My tests from doc finally came back as normal!!!! 🤗 score! Been a rough year and needs this good news!!!
The last time I went to the dentist they said I had 7 cavities. I knew I need to come back to get them filled but I just didn’t have the money. I went again this year for a check up and my result showed I had no cavities! I’m assuming the last dentist mixed up me and my brother’s X-rays. I’m so happy I don’t have another bill to worry about because they’d been stacking up recently.
My executive function kills are just nonexistent most days when it comes to taking care of myself so I’m relieved I managed to make some good decisions
I've been working on a huge project for work for several months. The pressure has been on because I tend to scramble as deadlines near, and my boss made it clear that there's a lot riding on how well I do on this. The due date is mid-Sept and I am DONE. Checked, rechecked, stress tested, done. I like this strange feeling of breathing room!
I'm working on myself little by little, and I am finally in the 300s! Literally 399.9lb lol but I'm so proud of myself! I haven't seen that number in a long time!!
I just needed to tell someone, lol.
I've been taking pole dancing classes to build up strength and get back into dancing for the last four months. It has also given me more confidence in dancing and truly helped me blossom emotionally. I have grown in love with it and I can feel and see myself becoming stronger with every class! With every level, we have to test out in front of the instructor and perform certain moves. I was able to test out of level two and now I'm at a level three (intermediate)! I'm so excited!
I spent my entire 20s as a "stay at home girlfreind" in a "bdsm" relationship that was actually abusive. Let's call him Ryland. I met Ryland at a grocery store we both worked at, he worked customer service, I bagged groceries. Things moved fast, he bought us a home. He got a job as a car salesman a few years after we started dating, he was good at it made very good money. I was diagnosed with a chronic illness and quit the grocery store job.
Ryland developed a porn addiction and couldn't stop himself from going to the strip clubs to blow his salesman money. He began to act more and more hostile over time, I knew I had to get out. I knew I was going to lose everything.
When I tried to leave, he put holes in the wall and was arrested for trapping me in the bathroom and criminal damage to property. The police said they were DV charges. I left that house and lost the life I knew overnight. Ryland went to jail and I left forever. I lost My home, posessions, and german shepherd dog.
I am now happily married to another man. Let's call him Anthony.
Since escaping, I have a home with Anthony, had therapy, got married, got my driver's license, got treatment for an eating disorder, learned how to cook, and even enrolled in college.
I broke free ❤️
Lost 3kg! Been procrastinating on my fitness journey for way too long lol.
I’m a former athlete, so it’s kinda frustrating knowing what I used to be capable of but struggling to get back into it. Kept telling myself I’d start tomorrow, then tomorrow became weeks/months 😂
Finally just said LFG and started again. Still a long way to go, but 3kg down feels pretty good. Just trying to stay consistent this time and not overthink everything.
Hello. I am homeless and living in a group home and like the title says, my outfit today is MSRP'd at around $1600 and it cost me around $40. I am wearing an Adriano Goldschmied lamb leather studded moto jacket, came new with tags with an MSRP of $1095 on the tag, cost me $24 and a few bucks for shipping. My leggings are MSRP around $90 and I paid around $11 for them plus shipping. My boots are Trask brand suede and shearling and MSRP for $398, I got them at a thrift store for free, on Fridays once a month I can go get a free outfit because I am homeless. The jacket is a find of a lifetime I believe, so this value is not common for me.
Edit: I want to correct my post, my outfit is MSRP around 1400 not 1600. The boots MSRP for 298 not 398, and I am wearing an inexpensive pair of leggings. I have been shopping lots of Zyia and SPANX leggings that msrp for around $70-100 a pair. I forgot which brand these are.
Was anxious and still am but I know once school starts I’ll be fine
I've been really stuck in a depressive episode the past couple of weeks. I haven't been able to do anything that requires any degree of focus or attention and have mostly been doomscrolling pursing one quick dopamine hit after another, or opening up one youtube video and then closing it and opening up another one a minute later. Today I closed all my tabs except Star Trek, sat there, and watched a whole episode. And I enjoyed it.
Yay! Suddenly living at home at 30 isn't such a stupid idea when you save up all you can
I was super nervous- I was shaking, but I read my poems and got 2 rounds of applause! :D I shared my experiences in a creative and cathartic way thanks to a free, welcoming and inclusive space. I got loads of compliments, and I am so proud of myself! I feel empowered that I shared my vulnerability about my loneliness and struggles. I CONQUERED MY FEARS, Y'ALL!!!
Wanted to share; I would really like to recieve some positive and kind energy my way please. Don't have any family or friends, so reaching out. Hopefully loneliness becomes less of a stigma one day. Thank you :)
Oh and I saaaang last time- it's official! I am a singer and a poet, there I said it! And I claim it! Yaaay! :D
Okay I know this is a strange thing to be proud of, but I had severe arachnophobia since I was at least 8-10 years old and I'd always have a panic attack and start crying whenever I'd see spiders. Also the spider was just a jumping spider and that spider also ate this annoying fly in my room so yayyy!!
P.S. Sorry for the horrible grammer and also if I don't reply to your comment, it's not that I'm ignoring you, I tend to just upvote comments but I'll try to reply whenever I can. 🙂
Edit #1: also I know this is random, but what should I name the jumping spider? I think it's still under my bed and now I feel attached to the sweet baby lol!
This is the first time Ive been in a happy relationship. I have had other partners but they've either made me feel small or cheated on me. My current partner makes me feel safe and understands that I can be a really anxious person. He does a lot for me and is considerate and makes all my wishes come true. I feel like Im in a special healthy relationship. We are different people but we still manage to have fun moments together and he is really patient and chill ^\\\^ He is truly good to me and Im fortunate to have him
So I’m blind and recently started mobility and orientation training. I’ve also been attending classes for other skills for living without vision at a vision loss center recently. Yesterday, for the first time in years, I left my home by myself and went somewhere without needing my partner or another family member to help me.
I left the apartment, got into the elevator, went down to the lobby, and out the front door without assistance. The para-transit driver helped me into the vehicle and into the VLC. Then in the afternoon after I was brought home I unlocked the door and made it back up into my apartment. And I didn’t have to bother my partner for help once the whole time.
hello everyone, i swear i thought this was going to be a normal shopping day. i have three kids, all under 13, and my cousin came along with her two little ones, so we had five kids with us altogether. already a little chaotic, but manageable... or so i thought.
we went to Riverside Mall because i needed to get some new clothes for my kids. the mall was SO busy when we got there, like ridiculously crowded, and there were long lines at pretty much every checkout. i didn't really have time to stand around waiting though, so i just told myself we'd deal with the checkout whenever we got there and started shopping.
the shopping itself actually went pretty well. we went through a bunch of clothes and then took the kids to the fitting rooms so they could try everything on. of course nothing was simple one kid didn't like the color, another suddenly decided they hated the shirt they had picked five minutes earlier, and i was running back and forth trying to keep everyone together.
after a lot of back and forth, we finally had a pile of clothes we were happy with. everything got packed up and i was honestly feeling pretty proud of myself for getting through it without losing my mind lol.
then we got to the checkout.
and that's when they announced that the billing system was down.
i literally just stood there for a second like... you're joking, right? apparently they couldn't process any payments at the time. they said we could come back the next day or wait around an hour and check again, but there was no guarantee the system would even be working by then.
with five kids getting hungry and tired, my cousin and i decided we'd wait the hour and go grab something to eat. we started heading toward the food area, and while we were going up the escalator, somehow one of my kids and one of my cousin's kids lost their footing and fell.
thankfully there weren't any obvious serious injuries, but they were both shaken up and sore, and honestly that was enough for us. after that we didn't even feel like walking around anymore. we just wanted to get everyone home, so that's what we did.
the next day i sent my cousin back to the mall with the bags. luckily the billing system was working again and she was able to get everything paid for and bring all the clothes home.
so technically i got what i needed... just not on the day i planned. it took two days, five kids, a packed mall, a broken billing system and one very stressful escalator moment.
i'm honestly just glad everyone was okay and we eventually got everything sorted. definitely not my idea of a "quick shopping trip" though
has anyone else ever gone out with kids thinking something would take an hour and somehow ended up with a completely ridiculous story?
I used lavender scented soap and lathered it all over until I was sure I smelled nice. I shaved under my arms. I deep conditioned my hair and spent about 20 minutes getting all of the knots and tangles out. I put on a floral perfume once I got out and dried off. I feel pretty again. I'm in a deep depression at the moment and will often go days or even over a week without showering or brushing my teeth. But I did it today. I'm going to try to make it a habit.
I was never actually taught many cleaning tasks by my parents. I learned how to put toilet cleaner in the bowl from TV commercials and we used the disposable scrubbers growing up, and I know how to wipe down counters and mirrors because that's intuitive enough, and I definitely didn't do a great job on the shower/tub but I can give it a better wipedown when I take my shower later. My husband is going to do the floor because I have chronic pain and a heart condition and also did dishes and laundry (my normal Tuesday chores) and all I have left in me physically today is taking that shower. I just need someone to be proud of me today