u/555lyfe

I’ve noticed a lot of the architects I meet have a cool niche going on.

Real world examples:

Architect A happens to be a pilot
Architect B; Also pilot & a pilot instructor
Architect C; watercolors
Architect D; Production designer
Architect E; Comic and storybook illustrator
Architect F; Jewelry Designer
Architect G; Game designer
Etc.

Architects tend to have multidisciplinary tendencies because their deep understanding of theory and design.

Edit: as suspected, everyone has such amazing interests. I havent shared mine altho its quite the list now. I casually circulate between some.
My main interests are:
Production design, Im minored in product design so i design jewelry on the side, i practice & teach pilates, paint when i can, baking, gaming & social media. I also am an outer-space enthusiast and have minored in astronautical engineering. Im into perfumes and collect them as well. Im also into fashion and read about the history and the future trends; ive been wanting to get into sewing havent had the time for that haha

These are a bit niche so if u know me; Hello hehe

I feel like I have been trying to balance two lives that cant be balanced due to cultural and religious differences.

Life A:
You choose to live in a muslim country where you are from. Guaranteed financial stability all your life. Quality of life day to day is miserable and all indoors. You might not get married but you get to travel twice a year atleast. The culture keeps you from feeling alive, you cant really express yourself without facing major judgement. Life here is about appearances and material things.

Life B:
You choose to live in california, no guaranteed financial stability but you can scale your business bigger here. You get to express yourself as a creative. You are away from family but you get to create a new one; a more intentional one. Might not live as lavish or might live beyond what life A has to offer. This is more of a risky life path but you get to marry your bestfriend and love of your life in this life.

Just venting here and hoping others can add to the discussion.

Hi, I’m an architectural designer in Santa Barbara, CA
I’m 3 years into my profession and have my B’arch & M’arch in architecture and urbanism.

I worked on multifamily, custom luxury residential and fire rebuilds.

I have noticed a surge in clients using AI for their designs. Almost bypassing design all together and expecting the architect to just retrieve the permit. With the era of the Industrial Revolution minimalism and modernism took over the architectural landscape. I’m afraid AI will soon do something similar. The architectural profession has been diluted already but with AI coming in. Already replaced our in-house renderer. Now I’m experiencing the lack of design process to obviously save money for the client and accelerate the permitting process. And i feel like im being squeezed out. I was in a AI heavy firm but I’m switching to a more traditional firm that gets work because they appreciate the design process.

But the question still stands. Are architects being pushed out of their own professions? It seems like architects have been getting pushed out and AI is just another contributor.

I posted on here yesterday and a lot of you guys asked for an updated, I updated my previous post and heres a summary!

I am adjusting my status from an F-1 visa, I’ve been in California since 2016. I finished my OPT STEM Extension on June 2026.
Never overstayed a visa. Clean record. Just madly in love with my husband of 2 years. (We dated for 7 years) together now for 9 years.

I applied using simplecitizen. Helped alot! Would recommend if you dont want to spend money on an attorney. I has an attorney look over my work before submitting thru simplecitizen.

Timeline: chatsworth field office

Applied on April 8th 2026
Biometrics scheduled on May 8th 2026
Interviews scheduled for July 15 2026
APPROVED 24Hrs later! July 16 2026

If you want more detail about the nature of the questions our officer asked us. It is on my previous post. He was a grumpy one. Separated us during the interview. I was nervous because my answers and his answers didnt align LOL we were just both over thinking the questions and the officer was frustrated. We did not have an attorney representing us. We just went in based on the fact that we’re legit. Worked out pretty smoothly despite the officers demeanor.

Good luck to everyone, this subreddit has been my rock thru all of this!

CHATSWORTH Office

We have been married for 2 years. Provided everything online and we came in with the paperwork they asked for + any new evidence. We did not come with an attorney under the basis that our case is super straightforward, im here legally, never broken the law, ive been with him for 9 years married for 2. We share cars, he supports me financially and im just looking to adjust my status.

He asked for pictures of us with both our families which i had a print out of us and his family but i have pictures of us with my family uploaded online. He was okay with it, then saw our joint bank account was created a month ago and has no money in it, which yes looks sketchy but we have since added money and we barely use it as my husband just pays for everything. I have my own income.

All the other DHS officers were so friendly, smiley, ours was really grumpy. Kept interrupting us when we try to answer with descriptions and got angry if we try to answer with more than just a couple of words. He did not care at all about more evidence which one of them was that we were expecting a baby but have recently experienced a miscarriage.

He separated us for the interview, questions were:
- Which side of the bed do you sleep on
- furniture in the bedroom (my mind blanked on the fact that there is a bassinet next to my side of the bed because ive been grieving my miscarriage that i dont even look at it anymore)
-describe the bathroom
-describe the kitchen, patio, we have a attached garage, do we both use the same keys / separate keys, mail room, color of the mail boxes
- describe the apartment complex, how many buildings, how many levels, landscaping. (Again i answered four buildings because technically they are but my husband said to buildings because theyre just two addresses)
-he asked where my husband works, his job title

We did answer slightly different, would that cause for any delays? He gave me a letter that said my case is going to be under review. He said we wont be called in for another interview, and that we might get our greencard before my EAD card and when that happens to just save my EAD and use my permanent resident card.

Overall im still confident but a bit nervous hes going to ask for an RFE but we’ve uploaded so much already we cant fake using a joint account because that not how our marriage works.

Hello ladies,
29F just found out I am 5.5weeks pregnant. I’m over the moon but I am so so scared about the pain I will inevitably endure during this pregnancy and beyond.

I am in pain already with my sciatica flaring up and shooting down my knee. I lost 35 lbs knowing I want to get pregnant. But it’s discouraging how im already in pain early on. Please give me advice on what to do, how can i have a pain free pregnancy and would a natural birth even be possible?

I will be asking my OB on my first appointment but from what ive learned that womens bodies are extremely under studied and I find more information from women’s own experiences rather than doctors. I also have PCOS (PMOS) but ive been managing that very well thanks to the pcos subreddit.

Other than that ive been having a peaceful first trimester 🥰

For context I have a Barch & an M arch in architecture and urbanism, minored in product design, facade technologies & astronautical engineering. I speak 2 languages and english isnt my first language, arabic is. And math was taught to me in such an intense way in arabic. If you know anything about maths in arabic, its basically backwards compared to english. I had to reconstruct the way i think mathematically in college. I am not dumb but I can’t do math quick in my head. I feel like when my coworkers ask me to convert numbers from ft to inches, calculate stuff on the spot. I freeze. Which I feel like it could discredit all the hard work ive put in. I graduated with honors in all my degrees so i know thats not the case. But damn do i feel dumb when that happens.

Theres two women in my inlaw family that have been causing me significant amount of drama, anger and frustration. Woman A (my husband’s brother’s wife) lets call her Poppy & woman B (My husbands immediate cousin) lets call her piggy.

Poppy and piggy were never friends infact piggy used to bring her up and talk shit about her to other family members. Poppy has always had an issue with me and ive confronted her about it and she said her issue with me is that im too nice it must be fake. Then it escalated afterwards because piggy went to poppy and told her that I was talking shit about her to the inlaw family, I did infact tell the inlaw family the shit she would do to me in public like snubbing me, not congratulating me or my husband on our engagement and she always does a no show to all our events. Anyways me and poppy get into a heated argument with her mom and husband involved and my husbands family involved. It was sick to say the least i had to go thru many hours of therapy to be normal again. And because of that i kicked piggy off my bridal party but still extended an invite (which is very generous of me considering my husband had to beg me not to uninvited her fully. I wish i did)

So heres why i wish i did. Because i kicked her off my bridal party almost a year before my wedding. She had a year to notify us if she was going to go to the wedding or not. Instead she went around telling everyone that my family THREATENED her and thats why shes not coming to the wedding. She texted my husband a huuuuge paragraph saying she cant believe hes siding with me…HIS WIFE over her and that she doesnt want to make our wedding about her but she doesnt feel comfortable in my presence and that shes going to have to not come and that she never spoke ill of me and shes sick of being involved in MY drama as if im starting shit. That she is sick of the he said she said stuff and wishes my husband all the best.

When i read that note i told my husband that she was lying he told me to let it go because shes not in our lives anyway. A week later she calls up family members like uncles and aunts and even my husbands brother to tell them that at the family function i snubbed her niece who is in kindergarten. Which was not true and just pathetic.

So after a year from my wedding and sorry this was so long. I finally find out thru her parents no less that the excuse she was telling everyone is that my family threatened her.

I then send her a message asking her this “Piggy, it has come to my attention via my in-laws that you are claiming you skipped the wedding because my family threatened you.

If a threat actually occurred, please provide a screenshot or proof of that communication immediately. It is suspicious that you sent Martin an essay of grievances at the time but conveniently left out a 'threat' until now. So please show me this threat.”

She calls her dad crying and her dad calls my husbands dad crying saying all of this was a misunderstanding. It is important to note that my family served poppy with a cease and desist because her family was gang stalking me and intimidating/harassing me and my husbands cousins who im friends with. So piggy’s parents are probably terrified that i might hit her with a cease and desist too. But why? Why do this to begin with? Why go drag my family into this nonsense.

I wanted to go off on piggy and her family but that would cause my father in law to lose his last brother supposedly. So what do i do in this situation? Everyones telling the truth is out everyone sees how dumb and pathetic these people are but i want justice. Piggy couldnt even text back and take accountability let alone apologize.

This has been so frustrating to deal with especially when i finally have her little rat ass in the corner like this.