u/555lyfe

For context I have a Barch & an M arch in architecture and urbanism, minored in product design, facade technologies & astronautical engineering. I speak 2 languages and english isnt my first language, arabic is. And math was taught to me in such an intense way in arabic. If you know anything about maths in arabic, its basically backwards compared to english. I had to reconstruct the way i think mathematically in college. I am not dumb but I can’t do math quick in my head. I feel like when my coworkers ask me to convert numbers from ft to inches, calculate stuff on the spot. I freeze. Which I feel like it could discredit all the hard work ive put in. I graduated with honors in all my degrees so i know thats not the case. But damn do i feel dumb when that happens.

Theres two women in my inlaw family that have been causing me significant amount of drama, anger and frustration. Woman A (my husband’s brother’s wife) lets call her Poppy & woman B (My husbands immediate cousin) lets call her piggy.

Poppy and piggy were never friends infact piggy used to bring her up and talk shit about her to other family members. Poppy has always had an issue with me and ive confronted her about it and she said her issue with me is that im too nice it must be fake. Then it escalated afterwards because piggy went to poppy and told her that I was talking shit about her to the inlaw family, I did infact tell the inlaw family the shit she would do to me in public like snubbing me, not congratulating me or my husband on our engagement and she always does a no show to all our events. Anyways me and poppy get into a heated argument with her mom and husband involved and my husbands family involved. It was sick to say the least i had to go thru many hours of therapy to be normal again. And because of that i kicked piggy off my bridal party but still extended an invite (which is very generous of me considering my husband had to beg me not to uninvited her fully. I wish i did)

So heres why i wish i did. Because i kicked her off my bridal party almost a year before my wedding. She had a year to notify us if she was going to go to the wedding or not. Instead she went around telling everyone that my family THREATENED her and thats why shes not coming to the wedding. She texted my husband a huuuuge paragraph saying she cant believe hes siding with me…HIS WIFE over her and that she doesnt want to make our wedding about her but she doesnt feel comfortable in my presence and that shes going to have to not come and that she never spoke ill of me and shes sick of being involved in MY drama as if im starting shit. That she is sick of the he said she said stuff and wishes my husband all the best.

When i read that note i told my husband that she was lying he told me to let it go because shes not in our lives anyway. A week later she calls up family members like uncles and aunts and even my husbands brother to tell them that at the family function i snubbed her niece who is in kindergarten. Which was not true and just pathetic.

So after a year from my wedding and sorry this was so long. I finally find out thru her parents no less that the excuse she was telling everyone is that my family threatened her.

I then send her a message asking her this “Piggy, it has come to my attention via my in-laws that you are claiming you skipped the wedding because my family threatened you.

If a threat actually occurred, please provide a screenshot or proof of that communication immediately. It is suspicious that you sent Martin an essay of grievances at the time but conveniently left out a 'threat' until now. So please show me this threat.”

She calls her dad crying and her dad calls my husbands dad crying saying all of this was a misunderstanding. It is important to note that my family served poppy with a cease and desist because her family was gang stalking me and intimidating/harassing me and my husbands cousins who im friends with. So piggy’s parents are probably terrified that i might hit her with a cease and desist too. But why? Why do this to begin with? Why go drag my family into this nonsense.

I wanted to go off on piggy and her family but that would cause my father in law to lose his last brother supposedly. So what do i do in this situation? Everyones telling the truth is out everyone sees how dumb and pathetic these people are but i want justice. Piggy couldnt even text back and take accountability let alone apologize.

This has been so frustrating to deal with especially when i finally have her little rat ass in the corner like this.