u/Acceptable_Orchid204

to be fair this was actually yesterday but whatever.
I 17(F) was downstairs putting the shopping away as it had just got delivered, my stepdad was also there but he was making himself food, I got upset at something which was a minor inconvenience, this is important, my mum was also home at the time and she had said something which made my step dad say “ jeez something is up with you two, so dramatic” or something like that idk. So i thought it would be funny to say “calling her dramatic won’t get you head”, my mum laughed BUT for context he constantly makes sexual jokes about my mum, for example “I am a literal mother fucker” or “your mum thinks this face is a nice seat” i always go ew because thats my mum but i dont care that much but after I made the head joke he says “thats way too far” and “im still adult” i was so taken aback because i thought that it would be okay to say that. later on we talked and he said that it sounded like it was said out of anger and my mum said it made him feel beneath me. My mum also said this was about his past relationship (step siblings mother) which this is now the SECOND time he has taken his insecurities about his past relationship out on me.
I dont know if i went too far or if maybe i didn’t realise my tone was off but i thought it was obvious i was joking, it’s whatever cause its fine now.

TL;DR
made a head joke to my step dad, he got mad at me and now im scared to make my usual jokes but all is well.

recently got a puppy and my aunty moved in with us after getting out of rehab, i (17F) didn’t want her to move here because this house is already crowded enough as we are a blended family. Most nights its either me or my step brother that look after the puppy cause we are both not in school and he’s still looking for a job and i don’t start mine until next month. We were discussing who was taking the dog tonight , i asked my step dad if he wanted to take him or if I should cause it’s my stepbrother’s 18th birthday tomorrow and my aunty said “you should take him cause they both have jobs” i then responded with “maybe you should take him because you don’t have a job either” mind you she has never taken him, her excuse is her anxiety, i get it, i also have anxiety but that doesn’t mean shit considering I’m also allergic to the puppy and still suck it up just to help my mum. This isn’t the first time shes made a comment for no reason or said something belittling and I said something back to which she gets mad at me, she brings nothing to the household at all, i do the cleaning every Thursday/Friday and I have to spend all day with the dog. What i said was apparently too far but I don’t believe it was, maybe I’m a bit tone deaf, sometimes I say things that are seen as mean to which I realise later, if this is one of those times please let me know.

AITAH?

EDIT: since people can’t read apparently, im 17, I live with my mum, my brother and my stepdad and his 3 kids, my mum and stepdad got the dog. we all love the dog and he gets taken care of every night, he gets fed, taken outside and we play with him. He isnt being abused like you people think, its just plans for overnight so if he wakes up somebody is there to comfort him.

a few weeks ago i went for an interview for tkmaxx for a new store opening, one of the people called me and offered me a season job contract and said i would start on the 26th of september and that the team will be in contact soon. i got the email yesterday but it said the team is currently viewing my application, i had assumed i already got the job or is this a normal part of the process??

I (17F) went to my brothers (34M) house to visit and see my nieces and nephew. One of the nights I was there he randomly showed me this video of somebody hacking at another persons neck, presumably teenagers. I don’t want to get into too much detail because it was gross, but at the time I didn’t care because I was eating and just wanted to ignore it. Now every time I close my eyes ever since then all I can see is the imagine of that video and it’s starting to affect my sleeping. I was going to tell my mum but what Im worried about is that she will tell my dad, who will tell him and he will probably say something like “well you’re generation is too sensitive blah blah blah” and also the fact that I said I didn’t care and it’s been a week. I can handle movie gore but not real life gore, he has also done this before while my youngest niece was literally in his lap watching the screen… so i’m not sure if I should just leave it and it will go away on its own or to just tell, also if anybody had any tips on how to stop it from disturbing me that would be great.

UPDATE: thank you to everyone who has given advice, I have told my mum who them texted him. He’s now lying saying that all he showed me was the meat he’s cut up ( he works in the meat industry) which is true but he also shoved his phone in my face and showed me that video. I was also supposed to go there at the end of the month with my dad but my mum isn’t allowing me to go there anymore. I will update if anything else happens, again, I thank everybody who gave me good advice i will definitely try it when I go to sleep tonight!

I (17F) have had plenty of interviews before at places like coles or woolworths, this is my first job interview at a clothing store like TKMaxx. Sadly everytime before has been unsuccessful and I really want this interview to go well so I have no idea how to wear my hair or what to wear. Any tips or suggestions will be appreciated!

now my dads birthday isn’t until next year but every other year we do a family photo with all my siblings and nieces/nephew. I (17F) recently haven’t been going to my dads (51M) house because i don’t want to be in that environment. The woman he cheated on my mother with,who I’ll call cat (51F), is emotionally and verbally abusive towards me and has always been since i was 8 (thats when I first remember her doing it) even the thought of her makes me anxious.

Just to name one of the things she’s done, ages ago I had asked my dad to get a cooked chicken from the shops and he asked her, cat is vegan due to medical reasons but slowly got worse with everybody else not being vegan, she came home yelling about how we’re going to go eat baby chickens and other shit. While driving there she was yelling at me the entire time,calling me a murderer and other names that I don’t recall, but since i was in the backseat i recorded everything she was saying to me and it was about 10 minutes of her yelling. she told me i better not tell my dad which i obviously did and when she found out I did she came up to me in the shop and got mad at me and grabbed my arm to try and drag me out and my younger sister stepped in. When I got home i send my mum and dad the video, i then heard cat yelling on the phone outside to my dad. she came in and got upset i recorded her and called me a traitor and a backstabber.

She’s done plenty of things not only to be but to my siblings and nieces but it’s not just her. My dad is a bad person and i feel uncomfortable around him because I have seen him hit his dogs and I cant stand the thought of it and he never defends me against cat and calls me dramatic all the time. He also rants to me saying things like “if i died tomorrow nobody would care” and “i should just die” which sucks but t not a therapist,i’m his daughter.

if I don’t go there will be a whole lot of drama that i don’t want but I just don’t feel comfortable going and I also don’t want to.

so would I be the asshole?