u/Accomplished-Train29

Hi! I’m 23F from India and I’m looking for an accountability/motivation buddy around the age of 23–25 who’s also trying to improve their life consistently.

I have ADHD, so one of my biggest struggles is staying consistent with routines, fitness, healthy eating, and avoiding the all-or-nothing mindset. I usually start strong, then lose momentum, get overwhelmed, and spiral a bit.

Right now I’m focusing on:
- Weight loss & healthier eating
- Building sustainable routines
- Improving discipline/consistency
- Reducing impulsive habits

I’m not looking for toxic productivity or someone who expects perfection every day. I just want someone supportive but honest who also wants to improve themselves seriously.

What I’m hoping for:
- Daily/regular check-ins
- Sharing goals/tasks for the day
- Encouraging each other to stay on track
- Maybe workout/diet updates too
- Prefer someone around my age (23–25)

Bonus if you also have ADHD or understand executive dysfunction struggles 😭

If this sounds like something you’d be interested in, feel free to DM me!

What’s everyone currently obsessed with?
Could be:
food
music
games
skincare
productivity apps
random niche topic
a person
a hobby
a TV show
literally anything
Mine changes every 3 business days.

I’ll start 💀

Back in college, I had an exam the next day and I hadn’t studied anything.

Naturally, I decided the solution was to drink 450ml of pure black coffee and finally “lock in.”

Then I fell asleep immediately without studying.

Caffeine and me are not friends.

Your turn.

Using this thread to collect useful ADHD resources for people in Chennai/India.

Feel free to share:
psychiatrists
therapists
diagnosis experiences
medication availability
affordable therapy
ADHD-friendly study/work spots
productivity tips
apps/tools
support groups
accommodations at college/work

Please avoid sharing misinformation or unsafe medical advice.

Will keep updating this thread as the community grows ✨

Hi and welcome to ADHDChennai 👋

This sub was created because having ADHD in Chennai/India feels like a very specific experience that not enough people talk about.

The constant “just focus.”
The procrastination panic.
The starting 17 things and finishing none.
The burnout.
The hyperfixations.
The doomscrolling till 3 AM.
The executive dysfunction.
The Tamil parent confusion.
The office/study guilt.
The spending money impulsively and regretting it later.
The making 500 plans and then rotting in bed.

And somehow still functioning enough for nobody to realize how hard basic things feel sometimes.

This community is for:
discussions
support
memes
rants
study/work accountability
ADHD tips
local doctor/therapy recommendations
Chennai-specific experiences
or just screaming internally together
You do NOT need to be officially diagnosed to participate. Just be respectful and don’t spread misinformation.
A few basic rules:
Don’t be judgemental
No harassment
No selling meds
No “ADHD is fake” nonsense
Don’t diagnose strangers online
Be kind. Most of us are already fighting our brains daily.
Feel free to introduce yourself below:
age
what you do
your current hyperfixation
one ADHD struggle you’re dealing with rn
Mine is opening apps for “2 minutes” and accidentally losing 4 hours 👍
Welcome to the chaos.

Bro I genuinely think I’m traumatised after dealing with this guy.

This man has literally NEVER had a single person say something genuinely nice about him. Every single person who knew him warned me. EVERYONE. And like an idiot I still stayed by his side because I thought maybe people misunderstood him or maybe he was just going through shit.

Worst mistake of my life.

This guy spent months tearing down my self worth while keeping me emotionally attached to him. One day he’d act like I’m the only person who understands him and the next day he’d call me narcissistic, attention seeking, say I want validation from men, blah blah blah. Full psychological torture honestly.

And despite ALL that I still stayed. I defended him when literally nobody else would. I tolerated behaviour I would NEVER tolerate from anyone else because I genuinely cared about him.

And what does this spineless asshole do?

Chooses another girl to go smoke and get shitfaced with over me, sleeps with my roommate after I explicitly said I didn’t want him around anymore, acts like a complete piece of shit the entire time and THEN when that whole thing blows up in his face he comes crawling back to ME acting heartbroken and wanting empathy.

LIKE ARE YOU INSANE???

You disrespect me for months, emotionally manipulate me, constantly make me feel like shit, choose literally everybody else over me, and THEN when life humbles you suddenly I’m supposed to comfort you???

The funniest part is this man genuinely thinks he’s the victim in all this. Sending me long emotional paragraphs about how much I mattered to him and how disappointed he is in ME for “abandoning” him.

Brother YOU destroyed the friendship. Not me.

I swear some people only realise your value after they completely ruin things beyond repair.

Anyways blocked him everywhere and asked my roommate to vacate too because I genuinely do not want either of these people anywhere near my life anymore.

TL;DR:
Stayed loyal to a guy everyone warned me about, tolerated emotional manipulation and disrespect for months, only for him to choose another girl over me, sleep with my roommate, and then come back crying for empathy after things blew up in his face. Blocked him and kicked the roommate out. Exhausted.

Bro I genuinely think I’m traumatised after dealing with this guy.

This man has literally NEVER had a single person say something genuinely nice about him. Every single person who knew him warned me. EVERYONE. And like an idiot I still stayed by his side because I thought maybe people misunderstood him or maybe he was just going through shit.

Worst mistake of my life.

This guy spent months tearing down my self worth while keeping me emotionally attached to him. One day he’d act like I’m the only person who understands him and the next day he’d call me narcissistic, attention seeking, say I want validation from men, blah blah blah. Full psychological torture honestly.

And despite ALL that I still stayed. I defended him when literally nobody else would. I tolerated behaviour I would NEVER tolerate from anyone else because I genuinely cared about him.

And what does this spineless asshole do?

Chooses another girl to go smoke and get shitfaced with over me, sleeps with my roommate after I explicitly said I didn’t want him around anymore, acts like a complete piece of shit the entire time and THEN when that whole thing blows up in his face he comes crawling back to ME acting heartbroken and wanting empathy.

LIKE ARE YOU INSANE???

You disrespect me for months, emotionally manipulate me, constantly make me feel like shit, choose literally everybody else over me, and THEN when life humbles you suddenly I’m supposed to comfort you???

The funniest part is this man genuinely thinks he’s the victim in all this. Sending me long emotional paragraphs about how much I mattered to him and how disappointed he is in ME for “abandoning” him.

Brother YOU destroyed the friendship. Not me.

I swear some people only realise your value after they completely ruin things beyond repair.

Anyways blocked him everywhere and asked my roommate to vacate too because I genuinely do not want either of these people anywhere near my life anymore.

TL;DR:
Stayed loyal to a guy everyone warned me about, tolerated emotional manipulation and disrespect for months, only for him to choose another girl over me, sleep with my roommate, and then come back crying for empathy after things blew up in his face. Blocked him and kicked the roommate out. Exhausted.

For context, this guy and I used to be best friends. We later dated briefly, broke up, and then tried to go back to being friends. That completely failed because the dynamic became emotionally exhausting, manipulative, and honestly one of the worst experiences I’ve had with another person.

He constantly tore down my self-worth while keeping me emotionally attached to him. One day he’d tell me I was narcissistic, dominant, wanted male validation, wanted people to “wag their tails” for me, etc. He’d say he didn’t even find me pretty sometimes, but then also tell me I was the only person he could imagine growing old with or settling down with someday. He repeatedly gave mixed signals and kept me emotionally confused all the time.

Whenever I got hurt or reacted emotionally, he’d somehow flip it around and make me the problem. He constantly made me feel guilty for having boundaries or emotions. Looking back, it genuinely feels like he wanted me insecure enough to keep emotionally depending on him while he did whatever he wanted.

He also lied to me multiple times, talked badly about me to people I didn’t even like, and expected me to just “understand him” no matter what he did.

The final straw involved my roommate. I explicitly told her that I did not want him coming into our apartment anymore because the entire situation had become mentally draining and uncomfortable for me. Later, I found out she slept with him.

I don’t have hard proof that she brought him over after I set that boundary, but honestly at that point the trust was gone either way. Finding out they hooked up after everything that happened between him and me felt like a complete betrayal from both sides.

What makes this even messier is that after sleeping with my roommate, he apparently got emotionally played/used by her too. And after everything he had already put me through, he suddenly came back expecting empathy and emotional support from ME. He sent me long emotional paragraphs about how much I mattered to him, how hurt he was, and how disappointed he was that I “abandoned” him.

Meanwhile this is the same person who spent months hurting me emotionally, insulting me, crossing boundaries, manipulating me, and making me question my own worth.

At some point I just snapped and realized I did not want either of these people in my life anymore.

So I blocked him everywhere and asked my roommate to vacate because I no longer felt emotionally safe or comfortable living with her.

Now part of me feels guilty because technically I lied about why I wanted her to move out, but another part of me feels like I tolerated way too much disrespect for way too long.

AITA?

TL;DR:
My ex-best friend/ex repeatedly insulted me, manipulated me emotionally, tore down my self-worth, crossed boundaries, and kept giving mixed signals. He later slept with my roommate after I explicitly said I didn’t want him around anymore, then got emotionally played by her and came back expecting empathy and emotional support from me. I blocked him and asked my roommate to move out by saying my parents were moving in. AITA?