Girls, how do i help my gf?
My girlfriend had a rough childhood with abusive parents. She has vivid memories of being forcefully taken to the barber and having her hair cut into a boy cut because her mother found it too annoying to brush for school. She was bullied for it at school as well.
She has always wanted longer hair, and as an adult she has more autonomy, but she never learned how to take care of it. Anytime she lets it grow out a little it becomes a mess with frizz and tangles, and she cuts it again — but she always gets sad afterwards.
I tried helping myself, I got conditioner and oil and tried to untangle her hair, and didn't work out. I just broke hair and didn't help much.
She didn't want to go to salons because of what I described, but I convinced her to try it once. That was a mistake. The salon people were incredibly judgmental, snide remarks and smirks to each other, comments like "why don't you take care of it" and "it looks so bad," and trying to upsell 200 different things. We had told them explicitly not to cut anything and DO NOT BRING SCISSORS NEAR HER, and they didn't listen. We left. This was an expensive salon we didn't cheap out.
I was just trying to help her work through some trauma and develop as a person, and it backfired spectacularly. This was a year ago. Her hair has grown out again and she's sad about having to cut it. I think I can convince her to give it one more try.
pleaseeeee recommend a good salon with kind, non-judgmental staff who won't upsell constantly and will actually listen? Preferably somewhere I can contact beforehand to tell not to bring scissors near her. Price is not an issue.
I should add I don't care at all what her hair looks like. She herself is very into fashion, clothes, and piercings, but this particular thing (hair) keeps bothering her because of the mental thing it.
edit: im from Delhi