u/Acrobatic_Day8226

Hey so I’m 21M and my girl is 19F, we’ve been dating for 3 months now, I honestly can’t say she’s not good to me because she’s extremely good and a very nice and very thoughtful person. But unfortunately I’ve come to the conclusion where I feel like me and her are not really compatible. She’s very emotionally needy which is okay that doesn’t mean you’re bad or nothing but it’s just not for me, I have 2 jobs and financial duties and a lot of things in my life that’s taking up a lot of time and I try as best as I can to balance it while supporting her as much as I can but she really does need to be babied 24/7 and that’s just not my style tbh.

Also she doesn’t really do much she has a job minimum wage working like 2-3 shifts a month other then that she’s in school and when she’s not doing any of these things she’s bed rotting all day sending me 100+ TikToks. Don’t get me wrong we all have our times where we can get lazy but i just feel like she’s not on the same mindset or lifestyle as me. I’m a hustler and always trying to grind yk and I need someone that will lift me up, I feel like I’m babysitting in this relationship. She doesn’t bring me down but she also doesn’t bring me up and I feel like I deserve to have that too.

I kinda just turnt off and I have a weakness where when I get turnt off from someone it’s impossible to turn me back on, I have some issues within myself too where I have a poor self image on myself because I’m just always hard on myself and with all these mental stuff and working 2 jobs I feel like I can’t give her all in me like she’s giving me her all, so I want to wrap it up but I feel terrible because she really is good to me and won’t even see this break up coming. Although I did talk to her before that I feel like we’re very different from each other. But at the same time I don’t want to waste her time or my time I feel like I’m not getting the support or lift I need and I can’t give her what she needs so it’s just not worth it.

We also did start dating 1 month after knowing each other so that’s a mistake on my part too I should’ve took my time with knowing her more.

Any advice on how I can end this without being a dick? Bc ik she’s gonna be hurt regardless and ik these are all me issues but Im also considerate of others feelings.

Yall are actually mad dirty wtf yall be doing in these bathrooms? Recreating the holocaust? Pearl Harbor 2.0? Jeez clean up after ur selves!!

Hey so quick background I’m 21M she’s 19F, we’ve been together for 2.5 months now and just lately I feel like I been getting turnt off, she’s extremely out there and bubbly and extroverted which is completely opposite of me I’m only extroverted when I need to like at work to leave good impressions but really deep down I freaking love my alone time and value my time for me it’s how I’ve lived for the longest ik how to enjoy my own company and overall just want to be in peace.
I’m sorry if this post is a bit long.

I’m an extremely busy dude I go to college and I work full time and on top of that managing my family business and go to the gym etc. I feel like I’m constantly playing catchup with this girl I like her a lot but she’s just extremely high maintenance she’s very emotionally needy which is not a problem or her mistake some people need more attention the others but if anyone is introverted a little like me they’ll know how draining that is. On top of that she’s so active on social media she’ll post like 5 pics a day on her story of her self and get into a bunch of political stuff online, as a person that likes his peace I feel like she’s too out there yk?

On top of that the last month or so she’s keep on hinting at the I love you word saying “I almost slipped and said a word I shouldn’t say till u say it first” and constantly does that and it’s purring me under pressure a little because to be honest I don’t feel like I’m anywhere near loving her yet. I’ve only loved once and I was scarred for a while so the whole love thing def isn’t that easy for me.

Lastly I just feel like there’s a maturity gap in the relationship, I’ve always been told I’m too mature for my age due to me been working ever since I was 15 and other events in my life with her I feel like she’s still stuck in high school in a way. Her biggest problems in life is her parents sending her on an errand or asking her to do a chore, while me on the other hand I got way bigger issues on my plate.

Again I don’t want to get this twisted I like her and I want it to work but I just don’t know what to do with all this..

Hey so quick background I’m 21M she’s 19F, we’ve been together for 2.5 months now and just lately I feel like I been getting turnt off, she’s extremely out there and bubbly and extroverted which is completely opposite of me I’m only extroverted when I need to like at work to leave good impressions but really deep down I freaking love my alone time and value my time for me it’s how I’ve lived for the longest ik how to enjoy my own company and overall just want to be in peace.
I’m sorry if this post is a bit long.

I’m an extremely busy dude I go to college and I work full time and on top of that managing my family business and go to the gym etc. I feel like I’m constantly playing catchup with this girl I like her a lot but she’s just extremely high maintenance she’s very emotionally needy which is not a problem or her mistake some people need more attention the others but if anyone is introverted a little like me they’ll know how draining that is. On top of that she’s so active on social media she’ll post like 5 pics a day on her story of her self and get into a bunch of political stuff online, as a person that likes his peace I feel like she’s too out there yk?

On top of that the last month or so she’s keep on hinting at the I love you word saying “I almost slipped and said a word I shouldn’t say till u say it first” and constantly does that and it’s purring me under pressure a little because to be honest I don’t feel like I’m anywhere near loving her yet. I’ve only loved once and I was scarred for a while so the whole love thing def isn’t that easy for me.

Lastly I just feel like there’s a maturity gap in the relationship, I’ve always been told I’m too mature for my age due to me been working ever since I was 15 and other events in my life with her I feel like she’s still stuck in high school in a way. Her biggest problems in life is her parents sending her on an errand or asking her to do a chore, while me on the other hand I got way bigger issues on my plate.

Again I don’t want to get this twisted I like her and I want it to work but I just don’t know what to do with all this..

You guys think we getting anything today🤔