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AITA for thinking my girlfriend is being delusional for constantly accusing me of looking at other girls?

So I (m, 20s) am losing my mind over this pattern with my girlfriend. She keeps accusing me of “looking at other girls,” “being distracted by other women,” or “checking someone out” when I’m literally not doing anything. I’m not flirting, I’m not staring, I’m not even thinking about anyone else. Half the time I don’t even notice the person she’s talking about.

It’s gotten to the point where I feel like I’m walking on eggshells in public. If a woman exists within a 20‑foot radius, I’m apparently guilty of something.

At first I tried to reassure her. I told her I’m committed, I’m not interested in anyone else, and I don’t want anyone else. But it keeps happening. Every time she thinks I glanced somewhere, she assumes the worst.

And here’s where I might be the asshole:
I’ve started getting angry when she accuses me. Not yelling out of nowhere, but snapping because it’s the same accusation over and over and it’s not true. I feel attacked for something I’m not doing. I feel like my character is being questioned constantly. And honestly, I’m starting to think the accusations are delusional because they’re so far from reality.

She says the fact that I get angry “proves” I’m guilty. But I’m angry because I’m exhausted and frustrated, not because I’m hiding anything.

I don’t want to be mean. I don’t want to hurt her feelings. But I’m tired of being treated like a cheater when I’m not even remotely acting like one.

AITA for thinking she’s being delusional and for getting angry when she accuses me of something I’m not doing?

Back ground. I am completely in love with my girl friend and so attracted to her.
But on her period she constant accuses me of looking or being interested in other girls. It’s never the case.
She gets incredibly angry to the point where she’s yelling and calling me names. Like creepy and disgusting.
I don’t want to break up and I’ve tried reassuring her and being more affectionate but it’s always the same when she’s on her period. And no apologies from her later or hindsight that she was just mad.

AITA for getting upset that my girlfriend keeps accusing me of looking at other women and sometimes gets physical with me?

I (28M) have been with my girlfriend (26F) for two years. I love her deeply. I’m genuinely attracted to her, our sex life is great, and I’ve never cheated, flirted, or even looked at another woman in a way that would disrespect her.

But she frequently accuses me of “checking out” other girls when we’re in public. Sometimes it’s someone walking by, sometimes it’s a waitress, sometimes it’s literally someone on TV or in a movie. The thing is: I’m not doing it. At all. I’m not even tempted. I’m madly in love with her.

These accusations get much worse when she’s on her period. I understand hormones can make emotions stronger, and I try to be patient and supportive. But it gets to a level I’ve never experienced before with anyone. I grew up around women, I’ve dated before, and I’ve never had this kind of issue.

When she gets into this mindset, I can’t reason with her. She’ll yell at me, accuse me of being “distracted by other girls,” and a few times she has pushed me or hit me out of anger. I’ve never yelled back or gotten physical. I just shut down or walk away because I don’t know how to handle it.

Afterward, she’ll calm down and act like nothing happened, or say she was just “emotional.” But the accusations come back the next month, and the cycle repeats.

We live together and I want a future with her, but this is becoming a huge problem for me. I’ve never given her a reason to distrust me, and being yelled at or shoved over something I didn’t even do is wearing me down. I don’t know how to bring this up without her getting defensive or angry again.

So Reddit… AITA for feeling like this behavior is becoming a dealbreaker and wanting it to stop?

AITA for getting upset that my girlfriend keeps accusing me of looking at other women and sometimes gets physical with me?

I (28M) have been with my girlfriend (26F) for two years. I love her deeply. I’m genuinely attracted to her, our sex life is great, and I’ve never cheated, flirted, or even looked at another woman in a way that would disrespect her.

But she frequently accuses me of “checking out” other girls when we’re in public. Sometimes it’s someone walking by, sometimes it’s a waitress, sometimes it’s literally someone on TV or in a movie. The thing is: I’m not doing it. At all. I’m not even tempted. I’m madly in love with her.

These accusations get much worse when she’s on her period. I understand hormones can make emotions stronger, and I try to be patient and supportive. But it gets to a level I’ve never experienced before with anyone. I grew up around women, I’ve dated before, and I’ve never had this kind of issue.

When she gets into this mindset, I can’t reason with her. She’ll yell at me, accuse me of being “distracted by other girls,” and a few times she has pushed me or hit me out of anger. I’ve never yelled back or gotten physical. I just shut down or walk away because I don’t know how to handle it.

Afterward, she’ll calm down and act like nothing happened, or say she was just “emotional.” But the accusations come back the next month, and the cycle repeats.

We live together and I want a future with her, but this is becoming a huge problem for me. I’ve never given her a reason to distrust me, and being yelled at or shoved over something I didn’t even do is wearing me down. I don’t know how to bring this up without her getting defensive or angry again.

So Reddit… AITA for feeling like this behavior is becoming a dealbreaker and wanting it to stop?

AITA for getting upset that my girlfriend keeps accusing me of looking at other women and sometimes gets physical with me?

I (28M) have been with my girlfriend (26F) for two years. I love her deeply. I’m genuinely attracted to her, our sex life is great, and I’ve never cheated, flirted, or even looked at another woman in a way that would disrespect her.

But she frequently accuses me of “checking out” other girls when we’re in public. Sometimes it’s someone walking by, sometimes it’s a waitress, sometimes it’s literally someone on TV or in a movie. The thing is: I’m not doing it. At all. I’m not even tempted. I’m madly in love with her.

These accusations get much worse when she’s on her period. I understand hormones can make emotions stronger, and I try to be patient and supportive. But it gets to a level I’ve never experienced before with anyone. I grew up around women, I’ve dated before, and I’ve never had this kind of issue.

When she gets into this mindset, I can’t reason with her. She’ll yell at me, accuse me of being “distracted by other girls,” and a few times she has pushed me or hit me out of anger. I’ve never yelled back or gotten physical. I just shut down or walk away because I don’t know how to handle it.

Afterward, she’ll calm down and act like nothing happened, or say she was just “emotional.” But the accusations come back the next month, and the cycle repeats.

We live together and I want a future with her, but this is becoming a huge problem for me. I’ve never given her a reason to distrust me, and being yelled at or shoved over something I didn’t even do is wearing me down. I don’t know how to bring this up without her getting defensive or angry again.

So Reddit… AITA for feeling like this behavior is becoming a dealbreaker and wanting it to stop?