u/AdAppropriate4924

I follow this girl on Instagram who was my classmate in 6th std. We've been following each other for over a decade now. She got married last year and she'll always post how her husband takes her to these fancy restaurants and places.

This morning she uploaded a story, it is a small short video of her zooming in on the flight details to GOA displayed on the screen inside an airport.

Fast forward to this evening we saw each other coming opposite in a narrow street at my hometown. I was driving my car and she was coming with her dad in an activa. The street was quite narrow so that we had slow down when we passed and we both gave the exact same expression/ reaction in the above meme picture.

Idk how she felt but for me it was funny af and the meme above was the first thing that came to my mind.

(Hey hema if you are seeing this.... Yeah it's me, tell your hubby that I said hi and I won't tell this to anyone except the internet)

My dad, about 3 weeks back, brought an alliance through mutual relatives. The girl is working in a big multinational corporation earning in lakhs/ month having graduated from IIT Madras. My dad met her dad and exchanged bio data, photos and all. Her dad said something like, they have acres of land, kgs of gold, assets worth 5Cr will be your son's if he marries my daughter.

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My dad, being an old minded man took that bait and came to me with the photo, bio data and all the things they offered. I said, "No" I don't need, I'm not interested. I get that money and assets are huge aspects of arranged marriage but that shouldn't be the foundation on which my relationship is to be laid upon.

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My dad was furious. He repeatedly tried to convince me to agree to that. I said, "No". He then tried to play the sympathy card and asked me at least to meet her once. He cried, didn't eat, he's getting old and weak so in order to satisfy him I reluctantly agreed.

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We went to their house. Saw the girl. I asked her parents permission to talk to her in private. They agreed. We both went to Motta maadi and spoke for a while, generally like what do you do and all. (I had Zero interest) Mind you, she was really good looking and pleasant. I told her that I'm not interested in this... it's solely because of my dad that I'm here standing in your house. She had a confused look on her face.

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By seeing that I again reassured that, there's nothing wrong with her but said to her that if this marriage was to go through I don't need anything as dowry. I just need you (her). We went back down, had a small talk and went back to our home. The next day her dad called my dad and told him the entire conversation that happened between me and her. And said, "Ithu seri pattu varum nu thonala, paiyan ivlo seer ah refuse panran na paiyanuku etho problem iruku nu ninekura en ponnu".

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I'm damn sure that the quoted thought above was not said by her. When I spoke to her she understood my situation and was pretty open minded about it. It's her father just using her as a facade.

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Hearing this, my dad went kolaveri mode. I have a younger sister (2 years young). He said, "un thangachi ku evlo kodukanum nu theriyuma da". "Intha kaalathula ipdi seer engeyavathu kedaikum aah da" and all. I responded, "dowry demand panra paiyanuku en thangachi ah na koduka maaten paapom" nu I went. It's been a week since we spoke.

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I'm not that fond of my dad ever since childhood. He's quite regressive and has a lot of backward thoughts. He treats my mom like a maid, sometimes even beats her..atha thaduka pona enakum adi vulum. But naa valarntha peragu he stopped beating cause now I'm bigger and stronger.

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He didn't expect me to end up in the position I am in today. He honestly thought I was going to fail in life since I scored low marks in 12th and had some arrears in college. And he was blaming my mom for my failure. So I decided to prove him wrong. Studied hard, cleared all the arrears. I went abroad on my own, managed to land a job, shifted jobs at the right time and now settled in life. My dad expected the exact opposite to happen.

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But I still love him. Enna panrathuku, God gave him as my dad in this life. So.. I can't just leave him like that. I know he's deep down proud of me, he just doesn't show.

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Love you pa.

So, my best friend M, 28 is going through this arranged marriage process. He's an architect. His family set him up with this girl who is also the same age. She's a Dentist.

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They started to talk and everything was going quite well. With time, they started bonding over the phone as they were in long distance.

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At the earlier stages, the girl mentioned that she has plans to study further, for which my friend is ok with it. That even after marriage he's ok with her in pursuing her studies even if it meant to be separated for the first couple of years. Cause he doesn't want to be a hindrance to her career.

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But this didn't sit well with his parents.

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The girl also mentioned that her dad is a serial alcoholic. Drinks everyday and night. She had a pretty troubled childhood. Her brother has some other issues that he's completely away with her family.

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This also didn't sit well with his parents.

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Now his parents don't want this to go through and feel like she's not a right fit for him because of the above reasons and they feel guilty because they're the one who set him up with her.

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But my friend is ok with those as he's marrying her and not her family. And on top of that they've been talking on the phone for about 6 months now and have bonded quite well and thick.

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When he told her about his parents' stance, she broke down crying. He feels guilty for making her feel like that. He doesn't want to let go of her.

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Meanwhile his parents are trying their best to convince him to let go of her and see other prospects.

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Now he's depressed.

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What advice would you like to give him in this situation? I'll make him read your comments.

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Mine: Biriyani from Kerala is the worst biriyani

I'm seeing a lot of other Tamil sub reddits being filled with political posts both from the ruling party and opposition party, their respective PRs have taken over those subs and posting politically triggering posts and the comments in those posts are soooo toxic.

Thank God this sub is not like that. Good that people here are normal just like you and me posting random stuff that happened to us. Fight naalum, troll naalum, judgements naalum athu namakulla thaan. Moreover we can be ourselves in this sub. I really hope that it stays this way. I could now identify accounts who are becoming familiar faces that regularly post and comment in this sub. This sub is feeling more like a family or a like Whatsapp group of friends. Rants, complaints, yap ellame casual ah iruku... Don't EVER let toxicity take over this sub.

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Here's my top 5.

Even others can rate each other's in the comments

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Peak imposter syndrome

Onna renda moonu vaati...all 3 were like Summer from the movie 500 days of summer and you know what? I was fully aware that they weren't good to me but still went on with it. Full on Joker mode. I was fully submerged into the toxicity, the adrenaline that the chase gave me, I made it a mission to win them over not knowing the fact that they were loving the chase and the attention that I was giving them.

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Just wanna be sure before we make the move right.. mixed signals, lack of clarity makes us divert from your direction. I've had experiences where all hints tick the box but when I approach they tend to be avoidant and annoyed.

Tamil Cinema needs you to be back at your best. Was once the most wanted commercial director in India. Man, he blends stories with an element of extraordinary, the way he uses creativity in his movies...bro...where is that man? Yaar Enna sonnalum you're the GOAT for me. Comeback Stronger 💪