Not allowed to move out until marriage?
Had a conversation with my mom this morning about moving out. I told her I’d wanna ideally move out in my mid 20s as I’d like to learn to be independent before marriage, you know pay my own bills, cook and take care of myself.
She fully disagrees with this and tells me im staying with them until I get married and have a wife. She also tells me im too “western” for my own good. As for the learning to be independent part she said you’ll learn it as you go with your future wife but it does not make sense to me as I’d like to already have these skills before getting married. I’ve seen the struggles my parents had over the years and how they slowly learned how to control their finances etc after having me and my sibling and it was honestly brutal.
Is there any basis in Islam that a man has to stay with his parents before marriage or is it just a cultural thing since im South Asian? I understand her concerns of me falling out of Islam and becoming a non Muslim if I live alone and have independence but I go out with my friends often and have never done haram things or given them reasons to distrust me.
I’m not sure if this is genuinely just controlling or she’s right and im failing to understand her point. I’m also not sure if we can even compromise on this but she’s firmly saying I am not allowed to move out until marriage.