I’ve been in produce for 2yrs now while in school. kinda getting sick of this department at this point ngl 😭 is there any department u guys recommend that i could apply to that’s a little more chiller where managers aren’t in ur ass all the time?
Been trying for a while and obviously none on Ticketmaster. Is anyone selling their Toronto ticket?
So I went to the club for the first time today (literally just left) with my two best friends and I honestly hated it, the entire time waiting in line for two hours I was in my head thinking wow every guy here is so much better looking taller etc etc etc and then inside the club I was awkward as fuck just nodding my head and whatever I was smiling and happy cuz my bsfs were dancing and having fun but I genuinely just felt so out of place I was thinking I’d rather be outside on a nice walk with my earbuds or on a nice drive alone rn😭 I really wanna be outgoing and enjoy places like clubs but I genuinely don’t know how to I love concerts for example and but I’m also so awkward there too. My best friends tried making it nicer for me by trying to make me dance but I left after 20 mins bc I genuinely wasn’t having fun and everyone around me was, I also think I wasn’t tipsy or drunk enough lol but that’s a convo for another time since I think it’s more fun when I’m drunk and i become more just like “idgaf let’s do this”
So how do I improve my social skills and enjoy social scenarios more?
So I went to the club for the first time today (literally just left) with my two best friends and I honestly hated it, the entire time waiting in line for two hours I was in my head thinking wow every guy here is so much better looking taller etc etc etc and then inside the club I was awkward as fuck just nodding my head and whatever I was smiling and happy cuz my bsfs were dancing and having fun but I genuinely just felt so out of place I was thinking I’d rather be outside on a nice walk with my earbuds or on a nice drive alone rn😭 I really wanna be outgoing and enjoy places like clubs but I genuinely don’t know how to I love concerts for example and but I’m also so awkward there too. My best friends tried making it nicer for me but I left after 20 mins bc I genuinely wasn’t having fun and everyone around me was, I also think I wasn’t tipsy or drink enough lol but that’s a convo for another time since I think it’s more fun when I’m drunk and more just like “idgaf let’s do this”
So how do I improve my social skills and enjoy social scenarios more?
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Still drunk I had like 12 shots before I felt something I’m a pretty big and tall guy anyways it was fun at first and I was kinda unhinged and funny but after that when we went out yk with me and my friends I started crying and running away from my friends and I felt suicidal and I just bawled my eyes out and kept screaming I wanna kms and this persisted for the next hour of me just crying is this normal and also I’m never ever getting drunk again this sucksssssss
Didn’t notice that I was scheduled at 9am since I usually always work at 5am, so I clocked in at 5am today just to realize that I was scheduled for 9am😭 will I be in big trouble?
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I had a conversation with my mom this morning about moving out in the future and it turned into a huge argument. I told her ideally I’d wanna move out sometime in my mid 20s because I wanna learn how to be independent before marriage, things like paying my own bills, cooking, managing finances, taking care of myself, etc.
She completely disagrees and says I’m staying with them until I get married and have a wife. She also said I’m becoming “too western” for my own good. Her point is basically that I’ll learn everything together with my future wife, but that honestly doesn’t make sense to me because I’d rather already have those life skills before marriage. I’ve seen how much my parents struggled financially and mentally while learning all this stuff after already having me and my sibling and it looked brutal.
For context, I’m a 20yr south asian guy. I already gave up on my original dreams of studying in another city (despite being admitted and having a partial scholarship) and building a different career path because I decided to go into the trades (plumbing) instead, mainly to help my family and go for something more stable.
They are good parents in the sense that they provide everything I need and want, and they’re not emotionally neglectful either, which honestly makes this situation even harder for me because it doesn’t feel like I can just write them off as “bad parents.”
Right now I’m on a gap year before trade school starts. I wanted to go to China for about 8-12 weeks just to learn the language and experience something new while I still can. Once school starts I’ll be working full time for years with barely any free time. But she said no, that I’m supposed to work full time during my gap year, to help the family financially and “repay” them instead. She told me I’m selfish for even asking and that I should do all of that after being established in my career, but realistically by then I’ll be like 28 dealing with buying a house and full adult responsibilities. I don’t see myself in my late 20s living in another country for a couple of months or a year just to learn the language and have fun.
I’m 20 right now and honestly feel like this is the only time in my life where I can actually explore things a bit before life becomes nonstop work.
I also still have an 11 PM curfew and the last time I came home around 12-1 AM it caused a massive argument.
I genuinely can’t tell if I’m being immature/selfish here or if this is just overly controlling parenting. Has anyone else dealt with something similar?
TL;DR: I’m a 20 yr old South Asian guy on a gap year before trade school (plumbing after giving up my original plans to study in another city to help my family). I want to move out in my mid-20s to learn independence before marriage and maybe travel to China for a month or more while I still have time.
My parents are loving and provide everything, but they strongly disagree. They want me to stay home until marriage, work full-time now to support/repay the family, and not travel. I still have an 11 PM curfew, and breaking it caused a big argument.
I’m torn between feeling like I’m just trying to build independence and wondering if I’m being selfish or if my parents are being too controlling.
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I had a conversation with my mom this morning about moving out in the future and it turned into a huge argument. I told her ideally I’d wanna move out sometime in my mid 20s because I wanna learn how to be independent before marriage, things like paying my own bills, cooking, managing finances, taking care of myself, etc.
She completely disagrees and says I’m staying with them until I get married and have a wife. She also said I’m becoming “too western” for my own good. Her point is basically that I’ll learn everything together with my future wife, but that honestly doesn’t make sense to me because I’d rather already have those life skills before marriage. I’ve seen how much my parents struggled financially and mentally while learning all this stuff after already having me and my sibling and it looked brutal.
For context, I’m a 20yr south asian guy. I already gave up on my original dreams of studying in another city (despite being admitted and having a partial scholarship) and building a different career path because I decided to go into the trades (plumbing) instead, mainly to help my family and go for something more stable.
They are good parents in the sense that they provide everything I need and want, and they’re not emotionally neglectful either, which honestly makes this situation even harder for me because it doesn’t feel like I can just write them off as “bad parents.”
Right now I’m on a gap year before trade school starts. I wanted to go to China for about 8-12 weeks just to learn the language and experience something new while I still can. Once school starts I’ll be working full time for years with barely any free time. But she said no, that I’m supposed to work full time during my gap year, to help the family financially and “repay” them instead. She told me I’m selfish for even asking and that I should do all of that after being established in my career, but realistically by then I’ll be like 28 dealing with buying a house and full adult responsibilities. I don’t see myself in my late 20s living in another country for a couple of months or a year just to learn the language and have fun.
I’m 20 right now and honestly feel like this is the only time in my life where I can actually explore things a bit before life becomes nonstop work.
I also still have an 11 PM curfew and the last time I came home around 12-1 AM it caused a massive argument.
I genuinely can’t tell if I’m being immature/selfish here or if this is just overly controlling parenting. Has anyone else dealt with something similar?
TL;DR: I’m a 20 yr old South Asian guy on a gap year before trade school (plumbing after giving up my original plans to study in another city to help my family). I want to move out in my mid-20s to learn independence before marriage and maybe travel to China for a month or more while I still have time.
My parents are loving and provide everything, but they strongly disagree. They want me to stay home until marriage, work full-time now to support/repay the family, and not travel. I still have an 11 PM curfew, and breaking it caused a big argument.
I’m torn between feeling like I’m just trying to build independence and wondering if I’m being selfish or if my parents are being too controlling.
Had a conversation with my mom this morning about moving out. I told her I’d wanna ideally move out in my mid 20s as I’d like to learn to be independent before marriage, you know pay my own bills, cook and take care of myself.
She fully disagrees with this and tells me im staying with them until I get married and have a wife. She also tells me im too “western” for my own good. As for the learning to be independent part she said you’ll learn it as you go with your future wife but it does not make sense to me as I’d like to already have these skills before getting married. I’ve seen the struggles my parents had over the years and how they slowly learned how to control their finances etc after having me and my sibling and it was honestly brutal.
Is there any basis in Islam that a man has to stay with his parents before marriage or is it just a cultural thing since im South Asian? I understand her concerns of me falling out of Islam and becoming a non Muslim if I live alone and have independence but I go out with my friends often and have never done haram things or given them reasons to distrust me.
I’m not sure if this is genuinely just controlling or she’s right and im failing to understand her point. I’m also not sure if we can even compromise on this but she’s firmly saying I am not allowed to move out until marriage.