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I F(25) have recently been diagnosed with level 2 autism. My main issues are social skills and growing up many thought I was just extremely shy and I rarely had friends and I never dated in highschool. My family isn’t the the type to ask or pressure me to settle down but my grandma would ask me a couple of times if I am seeing anyone even agreeing with me that it is hard to find a good man.

But one day she was crying to a relative saying she is worried no man has ever wanted me or I will never be loved by one for “the way that I am.”She has also told me once my friend gets married one day I will be very lonely. I never knew how to respond but she probably doesn’t realize her comments sound backhanded. I don’t plan on telling my family about my diagnosis and how it’s the reason why I’m not able to date or even make friends. My hispanic family doesn’t believe in mental health but it really sucks the older I get the more awkward it is being single.

I would like to try dating but it’s so hard for me to talk to guys they seem to back off because I’m too nervous, awkward, and don’t know what to say most of the times. Plus many guys seem to think I’m gullible and want to take advantage of me since they’ve mostly just wanted something not serious. I’ve mainly avoided dating because of that even if I managed to find someone that accepted me it would be uncomfortable if their family or friends would probably make comments about me and he’d eventually get fed up with my issues. It makes me sad sometimes knowing I’ll most likely never experience dating and I will literally have no one since I’d have no friends, no partner, and my relationship with my parents is estranged.

I’m 28 and a virgin. The reason I am is because I haven’t dated in a while and when I did I was scared to regret loosing it. Now I’m open to it and am ready and hoping to explore sex. The issue is my boyfriend is 42 and I feel embarrassed telling him as I’m assuming he’s used to woman who know how to please him. We are already so different as he’s rich and successful coming from a great background and I’m more on the middle low income class. He lives in basically a mansion while I’ve always lived in apartments with my parents. Will he run? Any advice ?

I am struggling whether to do the masters program for public administration but this major does not seem like it’s for socially anxious people at all. I get very overstimulated working around people that I have to constantly interact with coworkers in a team setting, having to speak up or present in meetings, work events, especially public speaking.

I did get through college to get myself out there and push myself to be able to interact with people but idk if I have a very severe form of social anxiety or on the spectrum almost like Asperger’s but my social skills have gotten worse after highschool and I was never able to socialize or network in college.

Although I’m aware I will have to face this in any job it really sucks I don’t want to work at warehouses forever does anyone know of any decent job office or whatever it could be that would consist of mostly independent work and not as much interaction I’m really starting to loose hope here.( I am actively looking for psychological help for this but I am in need of a job I could potentially be capable of doing.)

I just turned 29 and am still a virgin. There’s nothing wrong with me and I’m actually very beautiful and get many compliments. I have a pretty normal life. In high school and my early 20s I thought I was going to die due to bad anxiety. I didn’t want to commit suicide but I just had impending doom and just didn’t think about doing it or dating because of that. I have gotten therapy since then. I then became busy and never really dated much.

Now I feel like no guy will want me because I don’t have my experience and am old. I’m open to having sex, obviously not right away but I am open and hoping it leads to that. Any advice? Input?

I 25(f) have very bad social anxiety (possibly on the spectrum) and I’ve never dated or had a boyfriend mainly because I don’t know how to talk to men. Say if I did meet a guy I was able to finally connect with and form a relationship, I would have a hard time trying to socialize with his friends/ family or people in his circle. I’m like this with my friend I am very quiet around her friends and family I don’t know well. I feel this would make my boyfriend feel slightly embarrassed or uncomfortable when being asked “why is she so quiet/ why doesn’t she talk to us?” So I’ve avoided it entirely in order to not embarrass someone for being romantically interested in me(not that I really had any guys dying to lmao).

Not that I don’t try to but I really am bad at socializing and I’m worried I’ll be single forever and having a partner would be nice to not be lonely since I don’t have a lot of friends and I’m not close at all with my family but if I’m never able to socialize it’s something I will have to accept it. A lot of people already question why/if I never had a boyfriend and it feels more embarrassing the older I get even if it’s not my fault for being socially inept it’s literally prevented me from dating let alone making friends.

I had graduated a year ago and I still have not found a job and I decided I might as well do my masters but as I looked more into public administration, I realized a lot of these jobs consist more of a leadership management types of roles, participating or leading meetings, working with higher ups, and etc. which makes me think twice because I am unfortunately very socially anxious that it interferes with my ability to perform well at jobs even physical jobs would overwhelm me and I’d get complaints I was too slow and an office type of job seems even more intimidating because it comes with more responsibilities than a regular warehouse job.

I may possibly be on the spectrum and I am always quiet around people even at work people comment on it and it’s hard for me to make any friends at all even when I try it feels humiliating being left out from your coworkers. The job I have now is repetitive and physically demanding, but it good for me since I don’t have the pressure to talk to anyone since there is so much people and our stations are separated, but I also don’t want to work there forever.

After much researching, these types of jobs with this degree does not allow you to be shy at all. I also think my critical thinking skills may be an issue because I can get overstimulated under pressure or in front of groups, I freeze up, my mind goes blank, or I process things much slowly often making me appear slow and I don’t believe there would be any jobs in this field where I could mostly work independently.

Although I’m well aware that almost all jobs consist of socializing and interacting, I had believed I could over come it through out my college years and push myself and get myself out there but it unfortunately never got better and it wouldn’t be worth getting into more debt if I can’t even get a job due to my condition and it would suck I can never get out of a warehouse job unless there are options out there for people like me.

I’m a 28 year old virgin who thought was asexual for a long time. Theres nothing wrong with me and I always get compliments on my looks/body. I guess I was seeing a therapist and she says I’m not asexual but have had some bad experiences with men which made me think this. I would be turned on at times and want to do it but at the same time it felt gross. Since I’ve gotten help I’m open to dating and having sex but idk if this is too much baggage for someone? I feel ready but idk if I should try looking for someone or if they will run away?

I wanted to sell miniature refresher keychains with the Starbucks logo on them (not reselling the actual Starbucks cups) but I’ve seen you can get in trouble for that if you get caught either the shop gets shut down by Etsy or you could possibly get into legal trouble and I’ve seen so many sell them even selling the Starbucks logos as stickers themselves so it’s strange even the most popular ones are still up and running.

I’m 26(F) almost 27. I have some coworkers who are woman as well. Ranging from mostly mid 30s-50s. I told one coworker I was a virgin and I guess she told the rest of them. They have been kind of teasing saying I need to get it over with. They also said how men are going to think I’m weird and no man will want my responsibility. Ive also been told I’m a prude and men like woman with experience. ’m not waiting for marriage or anything it just hasn’t happened. When I was younger I was scared to regret loosing it. Would a man not really want my “baggage.”

I’ve noticed around 2024 signs that said employees would be switched around through their shift to avoid injury or overusing a muscle which is interesting because my doctor believes my back and shoulder pain could be due to work since it is repetitive and physically demanding.

I work in pack it can be ok but I do get a lot of pain that makes it unbearable and I had requested to cross train like 4 times two times I asked a manager and two times through the app and I never got any updates. My coworker told me on her day one training they were told that everyone had to learn to be cross trained eventually in order to prevent joint problems and such before I didn’t even know it was mandatory and I always wondered why I was never put into any cross trainings.

I’ve also requested accommodations but those kept being denied. If this policy has been around since 2023 why would they have not trained me in anywhere else the 2 years I’ve been there? I’ve also been told numerous times my rate is above average so it has nothing to do with my work performance despite my condition. Not to mention someone I know that has barely started is already being trained in another area like why not me who’s been there longest?

27 (F) dating 22 (M). I’m a virgin and he’s not. I’m open to having sex but idk if he’ll run away or feel weird especially because I’m older.

I F(28) having been seeing an older man who is 41. I’m still a virgin mostly because I haven’t dated in a while and when I was younger I was scared to loose it to the wrong guy. I want to tell him but would he run away? Or be weirded out? Will this be a turn off? Idk if older men prefer woman with experience.

I’ve recently discovered inositol still learning more about its use and benefits suspecting I had pcos symptoms but my doctor confirmed I might not really have it due to having regulated periods and some chin and body hair that isn’t too bad but are still extremely annoying to me. I also had stubborn stomach and waist fat and very strong fatigue symptoms but turns out my blood test also did not confirm any insulin resistance but I still tried inositol out for other reasons such as possibly lowering androgens and for improving anxiety.

I noticed it has helped a bit with sugar cravings and before I would wake up in the mornings feeling super gross and bloated I couldn’t eat anything until past 12 but now I wake up craving breakfast although this has helped I don’t even think it’s necessarily needed for me to take it despite these small benefits it’s given me although I might still take them another month or two or I might just stop them completely since they mostly work if you have these issues.