u/AdmirableAd9995

Two months started my own commerce store and just got my first sale. That said, I realize I’m lacking in a lot of areas. For example, my store design is whack and the marketing is terrible. But I wouldn’t say I’m hopeless. I do have a way with persuasion, and I do have a knack for advertising.

The partner I’m looking for would ideally be well-versed in these things. I’m not looking for perfection though. I love growing, and ideally my partner would love growth too.

Thanks.

Two months started my own commerce store and just got my first sale. That said, I realize I’m lacking in a lot of areas. For example, my store design is whack and the marketing is terrible. But I wouldn’t say I’m hopeless. I do have a way with persuasion, and I do have a knack for advertising.

The partner I’m looking for would ideally be well-versed in these things. I’m not looking for perfection though. I love growing, and ideally my partner would love growth too.

Thanks.

I've been doing running my business consistently for about 2 months now, and in these recent weeks I received my first sale. I'm grateful for that, but now I'm looking for a partner, someone who has experience doing this. My store is based around nutrition, so if anyone has experience in nutrition or e-commerce and would want to team up, I'd love to partner with you. I'm really just looking for a mentor in the space who can help me out and partner up with me.

Hello everybody!

I've been doing dropshipping consistently for about 2 months now, and in these recent weeks I received my first sale. I'm grateful for that, but now I'm looking for a partner, someone who has experience doing this. My store is based around nutrition, so if anyone has experience in nutrition or dropshipping and would want to team up, I'd love to partner with you. I'm really just looking for a possible mentor in the space who can help me out and partner up with me.

Thank you for reading this!

I would like to help transform people's lives in the area of their nutritional goals, and I'm currently in the process of building that. It would also be awesome if I could find a mentor who has experience in this area and is well versed in the subject, so that I can pick their brain on a lot of things.

Thank you.

A short story:

Someone who I'm familiar with who was making north of $400k a year, had a solid net worth, was respected in their industry, and was hitting nearly every metric they had set for themselves in their 30s. On paper, it looked like they had figured life out, and in many ways, they had.

But they described a pattern that kept repeating itself. Every time they hit a milestone, closed a major deal, or reached a new income level, there would be maybe a few days or a week of satisfaction before the goalpost shifted again. Then they would immediately begin chasing the next thing. It wasn’t even fully conscious. It was just their default state.

They once described it as winning a game and instantly needing to find a harder one before anyone noticed the win never actually landed emotionally.

Eventually, they realized the problem wasn’t their income, ambition, or strategy. The deeper issue was that their entire identity had become tied to pursuit and achievement. Without something to chase, there was an uncomfortable emptiness underneath that they had never really allowed themselves to sit with.

The treadmill wasn’t forced onto them either. They built it themselves. They had simply become so good at running that they never stopped to ask where it was actually taking them.

Once they became aware of that, it changed the way they approached almost everything. Not in a dramatic “quit everything and disappear” kind of way, but in a much more intentional and grounded way. They were still ambitious and driven, but now that drive was directed toward things they had consciously chosen instead of automatically pursuing whatever came next.

I’ve been thinking about that story a lot lately, especially in communities full of highly driven people. There seems to be a real tension between constantly optimizing and actually being able to feel fulfillment when success finally arrives. I’m curious whether other people experience that too, or if it genuinely starts to resolve once the numbers become large enough.

A short story:
Someone close to me was doing really well by every measure that mattered to them at the time. They had a good income, were growing professionally, were respected in their field, and were accomplishing goals they had spent years working toward. From the outside, everything looked like success.

But one evening, they described sitting there and genuinely trying to feel proud of it all, only to realize they couldn’t. They weren’t depressed or ungrateful. They just felt strangely hollow, like they had won a game but immediately needed to find the next one before anyone noticed they didn’t actually feel like a winner.

Over time, they realized the problem wasn’t money or strategy. The deeper issue was that they had built their entire identity around the pursuit itself. Without the chase, they didn’t really know who they were. The treadmill wasn’t something forced onto them either. They had built it themselves and become so good at chasing the next milestone that they never stopped to ask whether they actually wanted to go where all of it was leading.

That realization completely changed how they viewed growth, work, and success. It changed the way they approached life day to day and made them question whether achievement alone could ever truly satisfy someone who does not know who they are outside of performance.

I think about that story a lot, especially in communities filled with ambitious and capable people. When you finally reach the thing you worked for, does it actually land? Or does the next milestone always move just far enough away that you never fully arrive?

I've hung around millionaires and there are some things that are obvious to me that make so much sense now. What I realized it all came down to was perspective.

You know, a person who wants to hustle, that young entrepreneur who wants to make a big break in business, their perspective is: I want to prove something, I want to accomplish something. And there are millionaires that do that as well, but what I see is that they no longer want to prove other people wrong, but rather prove themselves wrong. But there's a certain limit to where this can actually be terrible for you, and what I mean by that is you could spend your whole life trying to prove someone wrong, or prove yourself wrong in a negative way, where you believe you have a limitation.

Honestly, the most freeing people that I've met, and they don't even have to be millionaires, are those who are present. You could have millions of dollars and still be chasing after something that's going to drain you, chasing after something that's not going to fulfill you.

So what I want you to see is that it's not about what you do, it's about who you are. You are not a human doing, you are a human being. And certainly there are levels and layers to it, but being around millionaires taught me that it's all perspective. It doesn't matter if someone has 30 million dollars in the bank, 100 million dollars in the bank, or even more than that. It's really just a matter of who you are. Your life will display your very being and essence.

I learned that the hard way in my first 2 years of trading. I'd follow my setup perfectly in demo. Then go live and completely lose it. Sized up too big. Held a loser way too long. Rage entered after a stop out. Same chart. Different person.

I kept blaming the market. The spread. The timing. Anything but me. Then I started actually paying attention to what was happening inside me when I traded. Not the chart. Me. And everything started to shift.

Here's what I noticed:

My worst trades didn't happen because of a bad setup. They happened when I was frustrated, impatient, or trying to make back a loss. Every single time. Once I could see that pattern, I could actually do something about it. And most traders never get there. Not because they can't, NO ONE ever shows them how to look there in the first place.

Anyway. Still learning every day. Two years in and honestly feel like I'm just getting started.

What's the one emotion that messes with your trading the most? Drop it below, curious to see what comes up.

Most of the friction you feel in your business isn't coming from the business. It's coming from you.

I've noticed this pattern consistently across founders at every stage, small teams, solo operators, growing companies. Two things are usually behind it.

The first is fear.

It's not obvious, it looks like busyness. You're working hard, filling the calendar, doing more, but avoiding the things that actually move the needle. You wait three weeks to update a client because you don't have great results to show yet. By the time you reach out, they've already mentally checked out. You spend months refining a product in private because shipping it before it's perfect feels risky. Meanwhile nobody is using it, nobody is giving you feedback, and nothing is improving.

Fear doesn't stop your output. It stops your communication, your experimentation, your willingness to be seen mid-process. And those are exactly the things that build a business.

The second is control.

You become the bottleneck without realizing it. Every decision goes through you. Every client relationship stays surface level because you're managing it instead of building it. Team members stop bringing ideas because nothing moves unless it comes from you.

What this actually costs you is real. Clients leave not because results were bad but because they never felt like a partner in the process. Opportunities get missed because the people around you didn't feel safe enough to speak up. Growth stalls because you're spending your energy managing instead of leading.

When you address those two things the business genuinely gets easier to run. Not because the problems disappear but because you stop creating extra ones.

Ponder this to your liking:
What would change in your business this week if you led with trust instead of control.

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