With all of the non monogamy content out there, it seems many people have ventured into it after being monogamous. Anecdotally I hear nightmare stories about this but I am curious. Have any of you gone from monogamy to no monogamy only for it to blow up and now you are monogamous again?
As the title suggests, both of my wife and I are at BDSM relationships and we have both switched, but we both prefer to be subs. The challenge: my wife doesn’t get into it when I do Dom her because she sees me more as a sub. We didn’t use to have a problem, switching but I think we both have done the realization that we are both more submissive in the bedroom.
She suggested I see a dominatrix and I probably will. My only concern is that she may not really be into the idea of me doing so. I know she wants to make me happy but I won’t see one until I am sure she’s ok with it.
I suggested she see a Dom, but she told me she can only get off with penetration. I am ok with her doing so, and I would even be interested in watching. I also suggested she hook up with someone who isn’t a Dom per se, but is naturally dominant. The idea intrigues her. Sometimes I wonder if she really wants this.
To be clear I would never do anything my wife isn’t ok with nor would I try to push her to do anything if she’s not 100% on board. I am totally ok with not involving others.
What advice do you have. We have very good communication and are not afraid to discuss anything.
As the title suggests my question is about what should someone new or potentially new to the lifestyle do in order to lessen the odds of it ending in a disaster?
What are some things that she brought up as part of an agreement and has anyone had issues where the other partner didn’t want to abide by the agreements?
How do you discuss fully stopping if one partner decides down the road they want to stop? Is there any way to avoid the resentment because it seems inevitably one person will want to continue on the other person won’t at some point.
Also, has anyone paused or stopped the lifestyle without issues and how?
I am very curious, but the only couples I know who were swingers had serious issues and I wonder if/how they can be avoided?
Any tips, advice, and experiences will be helpful!
I’m curious about how people have found out their spouse/partner cheated on them. My situation was convoluted and I found out almost by accident thanks to her conflicting stories. I feel like my situation was unusual.
How did you find out? Did anyone use a PI or do deep digging? What advice would you have for someone who thinks they are being cheated on?